i get a lot of responses from people that are not what iam looking for
2006-10-29 03:24:57 · 26 answers · asked by windloverbabe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am in the same situation and I have been on for about 10 months too. I started out meeting a couple guys a month, most were good quality men but they rejected me and then I started meeting some cheapscrew ones that wouldn't even spring for coffee even though we met at a coffee house. I started only meeting one a month and now I haven't met anyone in 2 months. I am specific about what I want too, like no beards or country western type guys and guess what? Almost every response I get now is from a guy with a beard or a cowboy hat. I guess I wasn't specific enough. People say you are too picky but I have learned that once you lower your standards that's what you end up with. I am now in a situation where I have alot of guys that email me and then disappear and reappear a few weeks later and some that say they want to meet and when I tell them when I'm off from work, they dont' respond back and then they reappear a week later wanting to knowwhen I'm off from work.
Whenever I get a response that looks good, the guy is attractive and all, I read his profile, and boom! He is either currently separated (not divorced) or has 3 or more dependent kids or lives 200 miles away. I guess we just have to keep trying and maybe we are closer to getting there.
2006-10-29 03:38:13 · answer #1 · answered by reallyfedup 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
when one is searching for what the perceive as their perfect mate, they are liable to look forever. There is no such thing as a perfect match. Relationships take time, effort and work from both parties. Look for some one who has the same interest, the same type of goals and the disposition in life. And look for some one you love to talk to. Most people look for looks first, if you keep doing that, you'll never find the real things that are going to make and keep you Happy in the long run. Give the nice guys a chance. In other words, don't be so picky about appearances and look deeper at the person.
2006-10-29 03:29:40 · answer #2 · answered by SKayeMesqTX 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should narrow the responses you get by being more specific.
On the other hand, maybe you are not clear on what you are looking for. When I was on them I decided I wasn't going to be specific about what I wanted, and just sift through the thousands (OK, the few) responses I got. In the end I met a woman who was not looking for specifics either, and for our first date we decided to meet at Universal Studios (in CA), and no matter how we felt about each other, we were going to enjoy the park. As a result, we found that it was easy to be with each other without expectations. We're married now (Happily) :)
2006-10-29 03:25:58 · answer #3 · answered by tercir2006 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then it may be time for you to contact them instead of waiting to be contacted. Sometimes the best action is to take action and be proactive.... if you have been making the first move then it may just require more patience but if your being really picky about people before giving them a chance it may just mean you need to take a chance on someone and see where it takes you.. sometimes it may also mean it's time to try a new dating site... what ever you decide.. good luck
2006-10-29 03:28:28 · answer #4 · answered by kitkool 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, u cant find that perfect person on the web!! GIRL>><>............... he can be a rapist! You should just calm down and try not to look, just go out to have fun and be ur self, and mbe that special someone will spot u.
LUV YA<
Mz. Brown
2006-10-29 03:28:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see you have no email link, no profile.
It looks to me like you want to be in total control. You need to leave a way for love to find you too. Unless you're just shopping for meat or a trophy.
2006-10-29 03:32:17 · answer #6 · answered by Dr. Feelgood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you being to picky or are you just not trying to meet someone, some people set there standards to high and dont want to look beyond the outside
2006-10-29 03:34:48 · answer #7 · answered by cindy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should start looking at profiles that fit your criteria and try contacting them. Sometimes you have to take the water to the horse.
2006-10-29 03:26:42 · answer #8 · answered by cabjr1961 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
maybe its becuase you dont have a picture. first thing anybody looks for is that. without that they arent even going to bother. secondly their isnt a match for eveybody. if I put down what exactly I was looking for their would be no match.
2006-10-29 03:28:33 · answer #9 · answered by imphilthe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't judge a book by its cover...if you are too picky they you will have a problem. Give someone who doesn't fit your idea perfectly a chance-you never know what may happen.
2006-10-29 03:26:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋