please, positive help... how do i get over my fiance of almost 2 years talking to his ex? he has a little girl with her...but it hurts me for them to talk...how do i get over it help me please
2006-10-29 03:19:21 · 21 answers · asked by Stacey Lee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thank you everyone..there are so many good answers...i just love him so much and i dont want to lose him...but i dont know if i can be that strong...ya know? how do you do it?
2006-10-29 03:36:27 · update #1
If they have a child together you HAD BETTER get over it as he will probably be a big part of this childs life which means he HAS to talk to his X. My sons new wife had a problem with this too and she began going to pick the little girl up and became a joint part of it, that would be a good thing for you to do, I told my daughter in law DO NOT BE SHY or feel like you are less than her, he loves you and wants YOU, so join him in his care for his child and be there with them that way you look confident and you will BE confident in time. My daughter in law has taken the bull by the horn believe me and we are proud of her for it, she is 10 times the woman his X is, although I like his X she was not right for him and he is happy NOW! good luck
2006-10-29 03:24:19 · answer #1 · answered by ladynamedjane 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because they have a child together they will have to talk, but that does not make things easy for you, jealousy is still there and it is not easy to make that go away. Become more confident in you and your relationship, you are so awesome and that is why HE is marrying YOU. Your relationship is strong enough to deal with this.
I have found that facing the thing that makes you stressed out helps to calm your nerves. Get to know her through him, then she will be less of an unknown Bogey-man, less threatening, more of a real person that you don't need to fear.
2006-10-29 11:33:39 · answer #2 · answered by BLANK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can never replace the child they concieved together, but you can be a part in the child's life...and how wonderful that is, a child to have more people who love them ! Dont drive your future husband away being jealous that he speaks to his ex over their child...be a partner in it and the reward will be for you,him and his daughter! Plus when ,and if ,you both decide to have a child together, they'll have a step sibling. There's a whole lotta love going on ! *grin
2006-10-29 11:29:37 · answer #3 · answered by Karen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to realize they have a child together so their always going to have contact with one another. If you trust him, which you are planning on marrying him so i hope you do, you shouldn't worry about it. If you are truly not happy with them speaking than you shouldn't marry. I'm only saying this because they have a child together, he sounds like a good father, i hope he is, don't take it to heart this doesn't mean he doesn't love you. If he wanted to be with her he would trust me, they have a child together! My father was never around for me because his girlfriend was so jealous over my mother. I was the one who suffered, don't put that little girl through that!!
2006-10-29 11:27:20 · answer #4 · answered by Curious J. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have to realize that since he has a daughter with her that he will need to talk to her... If you can't accept that then maybe you should be with someone who doesn't have a kid to someone else.. I wouldn't marry him until you get this resolved or it will lead to problems in your marriage.. How would you feel if he had no contact with his daughter because you get upset because they talk? If the situation was reversed you would probably not feel that way... so just think of it like that ...
2006-10-29 11:38:01 · answer #5 · answered by xcura 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello,
can you please grow up????they have a child together...and the child can sence your jealousy hellooo.....he is with you.....so some thing must be right ....if you can't handle it now what are you gonna do at family functions and b-day partys holidays....i have 2 daughters and i would leave a man if they told me that they didn't want me to be close to my ex....he is their father and the child is the most important thing....and children don't need to see either parents arguing its not mentaly healthy for the child......i am good friends with his wife and would trust her with any thing after all she is my daughters step mother and she takes care of her just as much as i do.....have you ever thought about being friends with her???and to ask her if she would have you as a friend.....maybe that would help you......to know where she stands and her feelings twards you.....have you ever considered her feelings about you.....you have contact with her daughter for heaven sake????
2006-10-29 11:37:29 · answer #6 · answered by wendy p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is your fiance that means that soon you will be a step mum, i suggest you step up to your role and join in the conversations between him and his X (remember your boundary's) you are not "THE MOTHER" however if you can establish a good relationship with her your soon to be Step Child will love and accept you in his/her fathers life.
If your marriage is going to succeed you need to stop being jealous and realize that he is forever that child's father, and forever her X.
if you cannot realize this you will not last.
Little Brutal however Its the truth
2006-10-29 11:24:54 · answer #7 · answered by mumzie04 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they have a child together you HAVE to get over it and move on. Both of them share a common bond and you can do nothing about that. He is with you and loves you and is engaged to you-not her. Have more faith and trust in him or your relationship will be over.
2006-10-29 11:21:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well,i think you`re a scorpio or something like it.jelous and posessive.i`m like that too.he only talks to her cause they have a little girl togheter,and if she would have liked her so much,they wouldn't have broken up.think he`s doing this for his daughter..cause the girl woulnd't like to know her parents aren't even talking...
2006-10-29 11:22:13 · answer #9 · answered by Riot! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok u can't get over it bcuz if i were him i will be tlking to my ex to...........if he tlks to his ex that doen't give u the right to thnx he is cheating on u cuz 9 times out of 10 he is not cheating on u ok so don't worry abt it he u catch his kissing her then that when u do something abt it ok
2006-10-29 11:39:39 · answer #10 · answered by D ROC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋