Why does being 14 have to be so hard?

Question

All of the adults think that it is always easy for us to do exactly what they say every time they want something. To have to balance out school work, chores and a church that I don't even like takes time away from me to acually do what I want to do. Being a teenager doesn't last forever and I am afraid that if I keep on going on like this, my whole life will be gone before I know it.

I just turned 14 years old last August and since then people have treated me like I'm their maid or something or their beanbag chair. I don't have control over any of this!

For those of you who say that this is a stage of life and I need to get over it you're all wrong. Because by the time I turn 20 I am going to be married!

Answer 1

i am 13 i know EXACTLY how u feel.
my mom tells me to cook dinner one night,
i have ten essays to write,
fifty math problems,
friends to talk to,
go do this go do that "mom i cant i have homework" ten minutes later mom or dad walks in go
"how much homework have you done, come on we're expecting A+ on this one." no b- now, call from teacher...oh great, "HOW COULD YOU!! YOU ARE grOUNDED **@#^$&!!!" "i got a call from your teacher"...
then oh great my period just started
my best friend now hates me
that girl keeps givig me weird looks
failed a social studies test
in love with a guy who hates you
PARRNTS
SIBLINGs
CHORES
SCHOOL
FRIENDS
HOMEWORK
PEUBERTY!!!
life suckS and i KnoW how You fEeL!!

Answer 2

It sure is the most unhappiest time of a human beings life, and if the adults dont wake up to the fact that being going through puberty isnt just a phase, or bad attitude, they will only alienate themselves and create more unhappiness than ever before.
It will pass with the years, but without a little bit of understanding from parents and other grownups, it can grow into a lifelong resentment.
It is a harder time for some than for others, and suicide can often appear to be the only way out sometimes.
Noone has the right to tell you how you should be when how it is for you is a product of all you have lived through up til now.
A bucket of puss on all those who live to have children and forget how hard it is to be a young person with a bright alert, and inquisitive mind.
Must you marry by 20 ???
Please understand that what may appear to be an emotional breakdown can actually be a breakthrough.
This is a good time to make a journal, cos one day you will have children and you may well prove to be a wise understanding parent because of what you learn about yourself today and in the months comming.
Dont despair.
The mark of ignorance is the depth of ones belief in injustice and tragedy,
what the caterpillar calls the end of the world,
the master calls a Butterfly.

Answer 3

You have put into words what almost every teenage girl goes through. Most wait until they are about 16 but you are a bit early.

it is clear you do a lot of thinking about your future. Problem is you only have just a few years experience to draw from so you are not exactly on target.

What your parents are putting you through is an attempt to show you what life will be like when you are on your own. There always will be things you have to do that will take time from you. Count on it.

What happens to you however is 100% up to you. You already see yourself as married by 20. Why? Once you are 18 and out of school you are free to do anything you want to do as long as you don't screw it up. What you should be concerned about now is what will you do when out of high school. It comes far sooner than you think. The very best thing you could do for you is go to collage. Even if you never use it you will have taken a major step into the adult world and know far more about life than you will without it.

Trust me.....you are at the best time in your life. Your only responsibilities are school and keeping your parents in line.
Now is the time to look at what you really want in life. If marriage is it fine but never ever look at it as the end of the line.
It can be the best thing that ever happened to you but only if you pick the right man.

When you are 25 you will look back at this time in your life and think what the hell was I thinking. I know you don't believe that but it is so true. Depending on what is going on then you may very well wish you were back being that 14 year old and then you would do it right.

Please...just keep on trucking. Do as your parents ask and know that in just a few years they will not be as important to you as they are now. And until you have your own children you will not know how much they will miss you.

Answer 4

Easy there Hon! Yes 14 is an awful stage - you have chemicals running around in your blood that makes a lot of things impossible to understand.

So everyone is on your case? Yes!! If that is how you see it, then it's true! You are evolving into an adult, albeit slowly, but are still just an adolescent. This will be the most frustrating time of your life. But you will win.

You seem to see marriage as the great escape. Nothing could be farther than the truth. Being a free spirit with the whole world out there for you is something you have to experience...and being married too soon will keep that from happening.

Hard as it is to say (and probably for you to hear) you will have to be patient...please understand that when it is over, it's over, and you will know a joy for life I don't have words to describe.

For the record, I am an adult with a memory, and 14 was terrible! But that was a long time ago, and life is absolutely wonderful when you get on the other side of 17. For you, three impossibly long years. But it's worth it when you get there. So please be patient with your parents, other adults, and especially with yourself. You can't imagine how great it will be. Good luck and God bless you.

Answer 5

being 14 is not worst of all cause there are still challenges no matter at what age we are and the fact is we have to face it no matter like it or not. since we have no choice but to face it learn to face it with positiveness cause even with negativeness we still have to face it so why not be happy and do the right thing while we can. jumping into marriage at the end of the day will not solve the problems as well and it will be more tougher challanges even so learn to go through what you are in wisely so when the next phase of toughness comes along it will be easier for you to handle.

Answer 6

Married at 20!! Don't even think of doing that!
Learn to be dependent on no one but yourself!
Do you spend anytime at all with friends?
Week-ends should have room in them for you to be together with them, but also fit in homework and yes, chores. Don't be in a hurry to get married, learn to enjoy who you are independently first, and then when the right one comes along GO FOR IT!

Answer 7

You seem to be threatening US with your marriage at 20. That would be foolish, but what do we care. You make your own bed in life and will lay in it. I do not believe you! I will bet, you have little to no real communications with your parents. Your problems did not start last August, but you have let them pile up. rework your family schedule. No one is picking on you. Just you.

Answer 8

no its not really that hard... Its just an auckward stage...age between adolescence and maturity...It is a formative stage, where when there is a lot to learn......Tabsord something good and leave things won't do you good.

Answer 9

Why does being 15 have to be so hard?

Answer 10

I feel for you...I wouldn't want to be 14 again.