I am in love with someone. We had a relationship four years ago and his cousin told him many bad things about me(that are not and will never be true)and we broke up. But, all these years i love him with the passion i felt the first day i met him. But he has his life now and i am alone, next year i am going outside my country to study in a university but he will be in my heart forever. I have never done anything with anyone from the day i broke up with my first love, Mark. I know i must be happy, i mean i will go to Harvard University, me a girl from Europe who isn't from a rich family and she has the best opportunity in her life, but i can't stop thinking about him. What can i do? Help, please.
2006-10-29 02:40:33 · 12 answers · asked by Melany 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Find someone else who will love you for who you are and not listen to his to his cousin. Good Luck ;))) Congrtas on Harvard!!!!! WOW!!!!!!
2006-10-29 02:47:21 · answer #1 · answered by mywaypink 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he have another girlfriend now? Did you ever tell him that what his cousin said wasn't true? No matter what, if you're going to Harvard, you have to go, it is one of the best opportunities of your life. I think, it's worth a try...tell him you still love him, tell him you haven't been with anyone else and that you still want him. Just remember there is a chance you could be hurt again if he rejects you. I only suggest telling him so that when you come to the US you can rest your mind knowing that you tried everything you could but it just wasn't meant to be. If you don't confess your feelings to him though, you will always have to wonder. And, I know you may not want to hear it, but who knows, you might meet a new person here in the states. I'm sure there willl be amazing ones to choose from at Harvard. Good Luck!
PS- If things don't workout, I suggest trying to move on by dating and finding a positive outlet that will take your mind off the guy.
2006-10-29 10:49:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its definatly very hard to forget first love. But life has to move on.
Congrats on Harvard! Life is smiling at you.
Try to engross ur self in studies when u r at the univ. I a sure you would be able to come over the broken relation. Also, u would meet so many more people, u never know, life has something much better in store for u.
2006-10-29 11:00:14 · answer #3 · answered by whisper v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down and figure out why you love this person so much. Than figure out why it went wrong. If your ex moved on with his life with someone other than you your going to have to except that. Maybe you going away next year will help you realize that there are other people you could like and someday love with your whole heart. this pain you feel now will fade in time you may never forget him because he was your first love but your broken heart will mend. I hope you can get on with your life so you could be a happier person and live for yourself and not a memory of loves past.
2006-10-29 10:50:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, he will have to feel the same way that you do before it will work. Only thing you can do is tell him how you feel, then go from there. If he already has someone else in his life, then its time for you to move on. Congrats on Harvard!!
2006-10-29 10:56:05 · answer #5 · answered by cowboy462006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 years now? That's quite a long time to be grieving. I would say, all you have to do is a little simple math. Take the chance you two will get back together. (%) then divide that by the number of years you have been broken up.
R% / N = G
And we all know G = Get over it!
2006-10-29 10:47:52 · answer #6 · answered by humancandyball 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's getting on with his life, you have to try and get on with yours. You'll always have a place for him in your heart, but remember to leave room for someone else. Moving on is never easy, but you have to live your life, as he's obviously living his.
2006-10-29 10:46:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on. just think of it like it is.. his loss ! if he was that gullible and naive enough to believe the words of his cousin(although blood is thicker than water) rather than to believe the person who shared his ups and downs, trials and what nots, then he obviously wasn't worth your time and he shouldn't still consume your thoughts or emotions either. find someone who will trust you and learn to love another man, hopefully one who will stand by you.
2006-10-29 10:53:31 · answer #8 · answered by kitty s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well not to seem rude but why don't you just try to talk to him and he loves you like you love him then he should believe you not his cousin.So all im trying to say is talk to him if you really like him and see where it goes from there.Because it never hurt to try if you really love the person.
2006-10-29 10:47:31 · answer #9 · answered by God R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you're as young as you are, your life seems like the whole entire world. Don't worry, your life will open up new doors for you.
2006-10-29 10:45:57 · answer #10 · answered by Teaim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋