....my BEST friend. she is pregnant. her "husband" is 13!!!!
WHAT ARE YOUR THOUGHTS?
how should i help her?
2006-10-29 02:25:16 · 10 answers · asked by .:.:.Mizz_undaStood.:.:. 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
They need to relook at their relationship.
At 13, how are either one of them able to support a baby? I had a kid at 21, and that was traumatic enough. I was in college, but I had a supportive fiance who was able to care for our son 100% of the time while I was studying and working.
I really feel that she and your boyfriend need to look at alternatives. No, I'm not talking about abortion--that's just as traumatic. Try adoption. There's no shame in adoption. There are hundreds of infertile couples out there who would give anything to be a parent. At 13 you just can't handle a kid. What happened to school? You can't drop out until you're 15!
I would go with your friend to Planned Parenthood--find out the options available. Because she is so young, there are SO many risks.
Also, do her parents know? She really needs to let them know. I'm not just saying that because she'll get into trouble. She is someone's daugther, and she is in a situation. This is the time for the family to come together. And do NOT let her use the excuse "but they will disown me!" I thought my parents would disown me, but they became supportive.
She needs to let them know.
She needs to let her boyfriend's parents know.
She needs to look into adoption.
She needs to look into an OB/GYN.
She needs to know that you're there for her.
2006-10-29 02:30:01 · answer #1 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One should not even consider being a parent at 13. Instead you should be watched by a parent, this one should have been watched more closer it seems. I really do not beleive there is anything you can do to help her, she really needs to turn to her parents now, let them help her, and she needs to continue to GROW UP. If you can get her to do this, that would be helping her.
2006-10-29 11:39:23 · answer #2 · answered by PEPPER 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really hope you're joking. I don't even know what to say. This is why parents should interfere. They should look in your notebooks. They should go through your room. And they most definately shouldn't allow you to date or be alone with any boys. This is why there are things like curfews.
And this is absolutely terrible.
This is also why I support abortion. She needs to talk to her parents.
There's nothing at all you can do about it. But I really suggest you learn from her mistakes and not make them yourself.
2006-10-29 13:22:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What country is this in? What year is it?
I thought we left those days in te free world...200 years ago. well thats my thought...
As far as helping? I think I'd be looking for a new friend.
2006-10-29 10:51:13 · answer #4 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Encourage your BEST friend to put the baby up for adoption. It is the single best thing she could do for the child.
2006-10-29 10:32:29 · answer #5 · answered by 34times 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If its not to late, convince her to either have an aboriton or give the child up for adoption. And tell her to keep her legs closed.
2006-10-29 10:30:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The pregnancy must be stopped.
She can't have a baby at this age - mentally, it's impossible for her.
It will ruin her all life, I promise you that.
2006-10-29 10:42:05 · answer #7 · answered by Alice_d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she had sex she is a mother she needs to step up and deal with it nobody told her to have sex i feel sorry for the baby
babys having babys
2006-10-29 10:42:48 · answer #8 · answered by ladyb96 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
~they are up the creek without a paddle~
2006-10-29 11:02:20 · answer #9 · answered by pattiwish 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please tell me you're joking.
2006-10-29 10:27:54 · answer #10 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋