kind of like a mailorder bride thing, i have met someone that i enjoy talking with seem like we have some of the same taste. and i wonder if thesethings really happen you know marrying with out evermeeting first?
2006-10-29 02:15:03 · 14 answers · asked by infoman89032 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My friend did. Now she lives in one state,
and he lives in another.
Be careful.
2006-10-29 02:18:54 · answer #1 · answered by elliebear 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
That screams DESPERATION to me.
While mail-order brides are fine, you are skipping an important part: courtship. How are going to explain how you two met to other people?
If you can afford a mail-order bride, you can afford to get out and meet women.
Have a craving for exotic women? Try spending a few years in a foreign country. Don't just jump into marriage because you think it'd be fun.
Sure the marrying without even meeting first happens--it's called arranged marriage. However, if this is what YOU want, you have no respect for yourself or women. You are desperate and are too immature to be successful in a relationship.
2006-10-29 10:25:53 · answer #2 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My friend got 2 know her husband via Internet chat. They didn't c 1 another until they wanna get married. D guy came 2 S'pore 4 visit and checked about our Chinese Custom. Yes, they r a lot of logistic need 2 b taken care of and a lot of adjustment need 2 b make. So both of u have 2 think carefully on adapting each other culture b4 getting married.
GOD bless
2006-10-29 10:31:31 · answer #3 · answered by Wenice W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it depends. if you are accustomed with catalogue shopping, then maybe it's ok for you. but then, if you buy something out of a catalogue, you can just throw it away if it doesn't suit you. this is a person and not just some goods. you owe it to yourself to be really sure and satisfied with what you're going to get for the rest of your life.
my suggestion will be: go over to her country, visit her and spend some time together before you make any decision. remember, it's not only your happiness at stake, it's hers as well. rushing into marriage might seem like a romantic idea, but usually it's not. give this a lot of thought, and good luck to you :)
2006-10-29 12:29:38 · answer #4 · answered by girliegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stick to the marrying once you meet them. The person can get a visitor visa and come to the USA and meet you. I believe there is even a visa for posible marriage where the person is granted entry to the USA. The Department of Homeland Security has a website where you can learn more. Just as there are many tales of successful marriage without first meeting, there are many sad tales. Homeland curity recommends you meet firt because there are many people who seem to comply and aswer to your every wish and dream only to have married someone to gain access to the USA.
2006-10-29 10:19:58 · answer #5 · answered by whirlwind_123 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hhhmmmmmmmmmmm.... mail order bride. She definitely wants a ticket to the good ole US of A!!!!!!! She will say and conform to ANYTHING she thinks you want to hear. Sorry but it is sooo true.
I have a (stupid) cousin that did the same thing you are doing. He was chatting with someone in Vietnam. They never met. He flew to her country to marry her, got married, flew her back to the "good ole" US of A" and in a matter of months she dumped him!!!!!!! Why? She "got what she wanted".
My advise to you is to go on to a singles network in the states. I met my WONDERFUL husband on "matchmaker.com" and it was love at first sight. He is a super person. Professional, conscience of money, an awesome wage earner AND a great father to our children (we have two together) and just as great of a dad to my son from a previous marriage.
PLEASE DON'T DO IT!!!!!!!!! YOU WILL HONESTLY REGRET IT!!!!!!!!!!!! I know you don't think so now BUT you will after she does to you like they all do to the suckers that marry them.
MATCHMAKER.COM............. I promise you, you will meet a wonderful woman there :)
mb
2006-10-29 10:28:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about out of the country, but personally I met my husband of 3 years on-line.
He was in Oregon and I was in Michigan.
We talked for a year,web-cam,mic and phone. We fell in love and myself and 4 kids moved to Oregon and we were married 3 months later. It took a lot of prayer to make the right decision.
All I can say is get to know each other and don't rush into it take your time and it may work out.
2006-10-29 10:32:09 · answer #7 · answered by breitlastmouse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well a friend of mine's sister married a guy from another country but had only interacted online. They've been married for four years.
2006-10-29 10:27:24 · answer #8 · answered by retrodragonfly 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be careful and make sure that you know this person really well. I saw in Dr. Phil how there are many people out there in cyberspace just wanting to scam you.
2006-10-29 10:26:46 · answer #9 · answered by Bluegreen_dream 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will create a lot of logistics problems for you, besides those of culture-mismatch.It looks fine talking on telephone. Facing real life situations is quite another.
2006-10-29 10:19:23 · answer #10 · answered by openpsychy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just be careful....
Make sure you meet them in person first and date for a while before you jump into a marriage.......
2006-10-29 10:22:55 · answer #11 · answered by hotteenick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋