my parents are older than average and everyone at my school knows this. i used to get bullied about it but i didnt really care. its been about 2 years since the bullying stopped and now im starting to think they were right. my parents are too old. i know i cant change the fact that they are old but how can i get over it?
2006-10-29 02:13:07 · 11 answers · asked by orange_babe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am wondering what you consider "old". I guess, you just mean older. I do notice that parents are getting younger and younger but also there is now a trend for women to give birth in their late 30's and early 40's so I think things are going to change.
Anyway, back to this problem.
I can see that it may make you feel a little different and left out.
I know and sympathise with you as my father was 40 when I was born and my mum 35, so by the time I was in High school, I parents were a lot older. Most of the kids mums and dads were either in their 30's or 40's.
I believe you will get over it in time. Once you leave school and start to mature, you will realise your parents are there for you always, are strong, healthy and you will appreciate them more than ever.
To be bullied over something like this, is not only terrible, but
very immature. Bullying is now considered a criminal offence and there are things you can do about it.
Have you spoken with your teachers about it?
As much as it hurts you, try to let the comments ride.
If the kids are yelling, "your mom and dad are old".
Just acknowledge it by saying "yeah, your right, I know, isnt it a bummer?"
Don't let them see that it hurts you. Agree with them.
There is a verse in the bible that says, "Agree with your adverse party quickly so that they don't cause any more trouble".
It usually works. You need to put up some barriers of protection around you.
Allow this experience to build you up,not tear you down.
Allow it to help you mature and grow as a person.
They are the ones that are immature - not you.
You had no powers over how old your parents were going to be when they had you.
Address the bullying situation if it gets over hand.
Try and take up some confidence/self-esteem classes.
Think positively about your mum and dad.
The fact that they had you when they were a little older is pretty cool. Take a look at Madonna and other older mums having babies in their thirties and 40's. Realise that your parents are mature and responsible and probably can take better care of you then the younger parents. But keep these thoughts to yourself. If you blurt them out, chances are the kids will get angry and bully you more.
1) Address the bullying situation by talking with school authority
2) Build up your self-esteem by taking some classes.
3) Build up your own barrier of protection - think of comments to
answer back and try to not allow it to consume you.
Keep smiling - you are special! : )
2006-10-29 02:27:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My parents were older when I was in high school,too, and I used to be so ashamed of them when they came to see my performances and such. What a dumb*ss I was. Now they are both ailing, and I feel I missed out on so much time with them. Accept and enjoy them now while you can. They carry a wealth of information with them, and the stories they can share! They are your link to your family and your past.
There is no easy answer, but my suggestion is to suck it up. Ignore what other's say and remember that they are older than average because they took the time to make sure they were ready for the responsibility of parenthood. I was 27 when I had my first child and 34 when I had my second. I, too, will be in my 50's when my youngest leaves home, but at least he will know that I was ready for him when he came into the world.
You don't mention how old you are, but I am guessing you are at that stage in life when kids start to pull away from their parents and begin to develop their own identities and travel their own paths...and that's fine. You need to do that. But don't do anything you will regret later. The sad fact is, because they are older than average, you won't have them around as long as the other kids in school will have their parents, so you better make the most of it now.
2006-10-29 10:43:26 · answer #2 · answered by starshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kids bullied you because your parentrs were older, come on how stupid is that in this situation you just need to know that this is infact stupid and so are they and theres a lot worse things that someone could be or do and your parents age is not your fualt anyways just knowing theres nothing to it at all exept some bored people I guess and it shouldnt bother you at all not at all life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it right! it should bother you at all and dont let them think that it does, they should get beat up for even thinking something so stupid and do you think when you get older this is going to matter in any way shape or form I doubt it just forget it theres kids your age getting abused, some have cancer, or hell there parents arent even together right so it could be worse sorry for rambling that just makes me mad I wish I could get ahold of them!! this is 2 yrs ago and your a teenager and this is the only thing bothering you be thankful for that seriously. I grew up w/my grandparents and actually its a huge benefit you definately will have more common sense and be wiser then your classmates and this will benefit you throughout life when your getting started people at jobs and stuff will see your maturity level, anyways GOOD LUCK!
2006-10-29 10:45:50 · answer #3 · answered by KIMBUR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is wrong with the age of your parents? I do not undrstand. What would 10 or 20 year younger parnts do different? Some of my friends have kids younger than mine by a good 5 year that are more than 10 years older than me. Still is a good family. What's the problem. Do you wish they had done some things different? All wish things were a little but hey that's life. Be happy and live your's. Are they not able to do things with you that you wish to do?
2006-10-29 10:30:02 · answer #4 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is the love you have for them conditional? Of course not! They love you and you love them... what's to get over? Cherish them for as long as they are here...whether it's 10 20 or even 50 yrs.. I'm nearly 50 and planning on having a child(ren). Is that selfish of me? Nooo it merely means I have love to give.... and being older I am also better prepared to care for a chid then I was when I had my other kids over 20 yrs ago... I'd still be the same old dad...just a bit older...lol.
2006-10-29 10:49:16 · answer #5 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents were older than average too. The way I looked at it was they want to make sure they could provide for me both emotionally and financially. I know it hurts sometimes, but just always remember they love you.
2006-10-29 10:20:15 · answer #6 · answered by J L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be glad that you even have parents. Why does it bother you so much. I'll bet they love you no matter how you act or what you do. It just means they have more insight into what life is really like.
2006-10-29 10:20:36 · answer #7 · answered by doglady 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get over it, Sweetie! I will be in my 50's when my son graduates high school. Age is just a number & it's none of anyone's business how old your parents are! They love you for you, you should love them for who they are & not be ashamed of them because of their age.
2006-10-29 10:29:16 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well how about be gratefull you even have parents gee kids to day bit#h about every thing what ever happen to i am glad i have a mom and dad that love me and take care of me
2006-10-29 10:27:57 · answer #9 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should enjoy them more , old people are visitors in this world, enjoy every minute you have with them, so what if they were old, don't they have the right to have children?
2006-10-29 10:19:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋