She's been going with him for almost two years and he's been at our house only 4 times. I feel like she's trying to avoid having him around me. She doesn't mind when my husband bumps into the two of them. They have drinks occasionally together when I'm not around. He knows him better than I do. And I point this out to her too. When her boyfriend makes plans to show at our cardealership business for his truck repairs etc. it seems like she tries to get me out of there or makes excuses so that I leave. Later I find out, everybody has gone out to eat or have a few drinks.
I feel hurt. I have been very nice to this man, cooked a meal when he HAS been at our house, for him & I like what I know of him. I don't understand why she's being so evasive with him around me and not my husband (he's very critical )???
2006-10-29 02:06:58 · 17 answers · asked by hillaryc59bc 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe she thinks that if you get to know him more you will be more critical of him too! Confront her and let her know straight out. Point out all those times shes done the lil things that pissed you off about the situation.
2006-10-29 02:10:21 · answer #1 · answered by hondalos11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is worried about what will happen when you & her boyfriend meet.
Could she be worried that he will like you more than her (it doesn't have to be logical for a teen to think it) or maybe she feels ugly when she compares herself to you.
Could you have unknowingly embarrassed her in front of her friends or previous boyfriends?
Why is your husband playing along with this game? Why does he not invite the boyfriend round so you can meet him ?
Your husband seems to be agreeing with her to keep you out of the loop, I'd have to wonder why.
The reasons for why this is happening are well hidden under the surface, you need to find out why this is happening and all of you decide on a strategy to put things right in a way that is comfortable for all.
2006-10-29 02:15:34 · answer #2 · answered by madamspud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
next time you see him hurry up and ask him to stay for dinner or make plans with all of you or just invite yourself to the outting with everyone. But that'll be rude. Try talking to your daughter. Let her know how you feel. She'll come around.
2006-10-29 02:11:22 · answer #3 · answered by Jasmina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems there's more to this than meets the eye. Maybe there's something that the 3 of them have in common, that you are not aware of. Either way, I would get to the bottom of it, and soon! Talk to each of them seperately, and see what kind of answers you get.
2006-10-29 02:17:31 · answer #4 · answered by rebecca_sld 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls care more about how well their boyfriends get along with their fathers more so than their mothers. I don't think she cares whether you like him or not. Try staying around next time and don't let her make you leave. Or, try talking to her about it. Tell her hat you told us. She may just change her ways.
2006-10-29 02:10:55 · answer #5 · answered by gin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of details missing from this picture. I think only you can really answer this because only you know what, if any, history might be impacting your daughters choices about "avoiding" you. How old is she?
2006-10-29 02:09:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your worrying way to much! you should back off a litle and let her decide if he is a good guy or not. Got to your husband for th 411 on this guy!
Daphne
2006-10-29 05:25:14 · answer #7 · answered by Daphne M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say youve pointed this out her.....and?? What did she say? Maybe you do like him, or what you know of him but if you have been judgemental in the past, she may be trying to avoid you for that reason.
2006-10-29 02:11:37 · answer #8 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him (the bf) and talk to him about this. Ask him why he thinks they are doing this? Being direct will get you everywhere. You have nothing to lose by doing this other than spending more time with them.
2006-10-29 02:11:39 · answer #9 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mothers...you just got to let go she will come to you. maybe her and her dad get along better i know thats the case with me. my mom just worries and tells me not to get preg. i f you know your daughter and you fill like you can trust her even if you dont she is hanging out with her dad with him so he cant be a guy not to trust. maybe it is not them it is you. she will come to you when she is ready but when she does dont be judgemently she will never come to you again. that will ruin everything just be there shen she needs you dont put her down bring her back up
2006-10-29 02:15:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋