i STARTED SEEING THIS GUY ABOUT 3 MONTHS AGO AND WE DID AGREE TO HAVE IT JUST BE ABOUT SEX , BUT NOW HE KEEPS GIVING ME MIXED SIGNALS AND WHEN I START TO ACT ON THEM HE GETS COLD . I GUESS I WANT TO KNOW IS DO I ACT LIKE THERE NOT THERE OR SOULD I TAKE A CHANCE ON ASKING HIM WHAT HIS GAME IS?
I HAVE TRYED TO LET HIM KNOW THAT I DO HAVE MORE FEELINGS FOR HIM AND THEN HE ACTS LIKE I HAVE STEPPED OVER THE LINE OF OUR FRIENDSHIP SO I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO? hELP ME PLEASE
2006-10-29 02:05:26 · 23 answers · asked by indianshell123 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like he only wants u for the sex and that all. You better get a life girlfriend.
2006-10-29 02:08:38 · answer #1 · answered by mmsbud 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have reached the point that will occur in every strictly sexual agreement even though we all say that it won't be an issue.
Because sex is for some and most, more then just a physical act, and it represents something for us, love, good feelings, etc. you've developed feelings for him, and you suspect he's developed feelings for you as well, from what I can gather from your question.
The thing is here, well you entered this arrangement stating that it would be purely sexual, and if you do begin to cross that line, even if he is starting to care for you in a different way, there is the very good chance that he will feel the need to end the relationship, sexual part and all right there because that is not what he entered this arrangement for, he wanted sex and no more then that.
It's not a good idea to enter these relationship unless you're certain you can handle it. Somebody always gets hurt, and somebody always gets jilted.
2006-10-29 02:14:08 · answer #2 · answered by lovely 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically you are both acting right on track as far as the natural instincts.. He wanted to copulate which was OK with you. But now you have the urge to "nest" . He isn't ready for that, but he still wants the sex part of the deal.... . hence the mixed messages. Men really do have a strong built-in radar for certain things, especially when the man senses that the female might be trying to lasso and corral him. It's the same really with creatures of the wild: the male wants to mate, and then go on his way, leaving mama bear to raise her brood. But humans have come a long way from "the wild". Now society requires the male to stick around, and the woman wants the security as well as the help. You may not have babies on your radar screen right now, but he senses that's where it might be headed if he gets in too deep.
2006-10-29 02:23:32 · answer #3 · answered by sharmel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Didn't you agree that it was just for the sex??? Sounds like you are going against the agreed upon union and you're the one getting upset about it!
And what the hell happened to just pure honesty! Can't you approach the guy to see if he might be interested in changing the course of the relationship? And if he doesn't want to... back off! You made the agreement as well... or did you have an different motive???
2006-10-29 02:11:02 · answer #4 · answered by the_pharaoh109 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, been there............first mistake is that you went into the relationship saying it was only about sex. You never do that, you just let whatever happens happen. Now that you have feelings, you dont know what to do with them. He is unsure of what he wants, so what you both should do is talk about it, and then you can decide whether or not you wanna keep doing what you are doing. Otherwise get out, before you feelings are deeply involved and you find yourself getting hurt.
Good Luck.
2006-10-29 02:10:46 · answer #5 · answered by Monie D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have stepped over the bounds to him. When you two started seeing each other, you two set them. All he wants is a booty call, and now you want more. Ask him in no uncertain terms what he wants. If he is not interested in anything but sex, move on.
2006-10-29 02:08:58 · answer #6 · answered by Common Sense 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things like this cannot be predicted, some Guys expectations are very high about having sex, and once they had it end up with disappointment. That’s the reason many girls take long time to open them for it, so the guy will become very close to her to share his feelings. I thing you opened you too soon to him
2006-10-29 02:42:37 · answer #7 · answered by smartcamal1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't want to get you mad, but this has happened to me also. (except, not in a sexual knid of way) but guys will use vulnerable girls for their pleasure, but really the guy is just a mean guy, but he appears to be nice. once he gets the pleassure of sex outta u, he figures he's done playing around with you and stops his act. it's horrible how guys do that. drop him, find someone else who's worth more than him.
2006-10-29 02:08:55 · answer #8 · answered by MiKKi ~:B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Shelly, sex changes everytihng. It's virtually impossible to have sex with someone and not start to develop feelings for them. Sounds like he's confused, have a chat with him.
2006-10-29 02:08:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After the sex did you get fat? or needy? clingy? The dude just wanted a quick lay and made a few more don the road give it up and give him room.
2006-10-29 02:07:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋