During this year my husband and I caught up with my older brother, his wife
and two children for dinner. As my brother lived o/s, I hadn't seen him and his wife for nearly 8 years and it was the first time I met my little five year old nephew.
But during the whole evening, the focus was on my husband, what he has been doing, etc. After the meal, my brother and his wife sat down on the lounge and looked at photos of my husband's art while I just walked around the house and then sat down twiddling my thumbs while they talked about art. When I tried to get involved with the conversation I was ignored.
Please note that my husband is a quiet person and didn't monopolize the whole evening. He was just happy to be there and to see them, like I was.
What is wrong with this picture?
2006-10-29 02:03:18 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Maybe the fact that 8 years had passed by without a visit, made the evening somewhat awkward. Don't read too much into it though. Just work on having a closer relationship with your brother now! Even if it's long distance! In the end, all you really have is family, so don't take them for granted. Good luck!
2006-10-29 02:10:06 · answer #1 · answered by rebecca_sld 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they just wanted some free art? And didn't want the company of you, but had to go through you to get to your husband.
I really don't see anything wrong with the picture, except that your brother and his wife may be a little rude.
Did something happen before the 8 years of not seeing each other?
2006-10-29 10:05:29 · answer #2 · answered by Great. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your husband known for his art? Maybe they are looking for an in to an up and coming artist. What was your 5 year old nephew doing during all this time...surley not discussing art. Maybe you isolated yourself. It seems you could have played with the child...it sure is what I would want to do. If the adults are being stuffy and preoccupied, play with the child. The kids are often more fun than the adults.
2006-10-29 10:08:51 · answer #3 · answered by juncogirl3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you and your brother have grown apart. Maybe he didn't know how to approach the reason you are not close anymore and he found it easier to talk about things he had in common with your husband. Just stay in touch and get to know him and his family, since I'm sure they have grown and changed over the years. If you are persistent you can salvage the relationship.
2006-10-29 10:14:34 · answer #4 · answered by brishaalden 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They where rude. But sounds like guy talk. Where you and your brother close growing up? could be alot of things, or that your jealous that he talked more to your husband? Either way, drop it before it cause problems with your husband. It's not worth getting worked up over.
2006-10-29 10:07:13 · answer #5 · answered by Common Sense 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too passive. If you really wanted to be included in the conversation you should have spoken up and perhaps changed the focus of the discussion.
2006-10-29 10:07:03 · answer #6 · answered by Monie D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To my mind, the picture is perfect. Its a pity you need other people to include you in their activities, instead of finding activities for yourself, like looking at their albums, or doing the dishes.
2006-10-29 10:17:38 · answer #7 · answered by penjoy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A little bit of everything.
2006-10-29 10:06:20 · answer #8 · answered by SCSA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off sorry to hear that. I guess they must be pissed about something in order for them to ignore you that bad. Theres obviously something pissing them off.
2006-10-29 10:07:20 · answer #9 · answered by hondalos11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You your making more of it than needs be. be happy for them to reunite.
2006-10-29 10:06:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋