Do you think it is a parents responsibility..........?

Question

to tune into and know each of their childrens personalities and what is needed from them to give them a better chance at being a well adjusted adult? For instance, if you know your child is extremely sensitve, shy, and maybe lacks self-esteem (naturally). Isn't it your job as a parent to watch what you say to this sensitive child so as not to damage them emotionally? Isn't it your job to praise this child as much as you can in order to build this childs confidence and self-esteem? Do you think a child like this would be damaged as an adult if they only heard about the bad or was critized growing up? How do you think they would probably turn out as an adult?

Answer 1

Compliments, praise and sensitivity should be given to all children. But advice, criticism and negative feedback are also a parent's responsibility in guiding their children's ability to navigate life's journey. If they are only given the good stuff, when the world treats them like everyone else, they will be so unprepared the results will be devastating. The parents would have not done their kids any favors and the kids will feel betrayed.

And, yes, each child's personality and sensitivities should be taken into consideration when being given advice and negative feedback. The praise and compliments part - no one can ever get too much of that - at any age!

Answer 2

Each child should NOT be treated the same, as they are NOT the same people. Each child has a unique personality and they should be treated as a seperate individual from their siblings. I have one child that is VERY sensitive. When punishing this child I do it very differently than my other 2 children. I simple time out or good talking to will do the trick with my oldest. But, my 2 younger children are very stubborn and free willed and I have to spank them both. Especially my youngest. It is a parents responsibility to seek out the weaknesses and strong points in their childrens personalities, so that they can help them to overcome things like shyness, and encourage things like talents, or outgoingness. It is rediculous to think of treating all children the same. I think if you do treat a sensitive child the same way as a stubborn or very outgoing child, it will damage their personality. It could make them very insecure. People don't pay enough attention to their children's personalities. If they did...parents would notice when their teen daughter is 7 months pregnant and hasn't told anyone. They would notice that their 12 year old is severly depressed and on the verge of suicide. If everyone whould really know their child and their child's personality and how they react to things...like stress...then we would have a lot healthier America.

Answer 3

That is a very deep question and has many parts to it.
Without going into your for instance, (the shy,sensitive) Raising a child today is different then it was to raise a child in generations past. The same will be true in future generations as compared to today. I believe that children need to know that they are loved and most important that actions speak louder than words. Children have other influences in their lives. Not just parents, but friends, teachers, media, celebrities and so on. We become who we are based on our experiences and certain traits we are born with. So, yes it is a parents responsibility to give their children every thing they need to live a happy and healthy life. But it is also the child's responsibility to do the right thing and make the right choices.

Answer 4

I think a sensitivity is definitely called for, but constant praise could also be bad for them. After all, the rest of the world won't do that for them, and not being praised later on will come as quite a shock.

I guess the answer would be to let the child know he/she is special, but not better than everyone else.

Answer 5

i totaly agree with you. my husband and i have gotten into many arguements over this one. i have to get on him all the time now b/c he is always yelling at our 4 and 2 yr olds.. my daughter 4 she has problems with listening but that is no reason to be hateful toward her and my son 2 is very sensitive, i watch what i say and how i say it. but my husband is alwaysyelling at them or saying very critizing things to them. i am telling you this will probably be the cause of divorce of my marriage. i was hurt growing up in a bad enviorment. i do not want the same for my children. so, yes i do think it is the parents responsibility.

Answer 6

Of course it is a parent's responsibility to parent but most parents today seem to push these responsibilities onto others. This includes daycare providers, neighbors, teachers, coaches, etc. Think about how much time the average parent actually spends parenting their child. It's a pretty small amount of time. And very sad.

Answer 7

i think you insight to raising children should be praised,. your right each child is different. and should be treated differently. all children should be raised the same way as much as possible, but the emotional needs of the child itself has to be looked afterwards. i know i learnn ed the hard way my mother in raising me did not consider my emotional needs, as a result to this day we have no relationship with each other. what we teach our children and provide them as they grow up will effect them all their life's whether we know it or not. the more understanding you give them emotionally the better adult human they become. nice to see such insight

Answer 8

I disagree!! I even have 3 little ones, one that has desperate that he could relatively stay in penitentiary than stay on the "exterior" Do I blame myself for the techniques he makes? No! All my little ones have been raised via my husband and myself. They have been all 3 taught a similar regulations and primary jobs. in charge the mothers and dads is in simple terms that..... a blaming interest. the way a baby acts while they enhance up it as much as them. you could coach a baby some thing and how they finally end up is as much as them.. Why no longer bypass somewhat greater and blame all of us that has had any touch with him. in spite of everything all of us could make a distinction in someones existence. somebody would have pronounced some thing or finished some thing to make some thing click in his head. Ridiculous huh? So is blaming the mothers and dads.

Answer 9

As a parent, it is completely 100% our responsibility to nurture our children AND raise them to the best of our ability. Unfortunately, many people out there DON'T have those skills. They don't even know how to behave themselves.

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Answer 10

Yes it is a parents responsibility. Act on their personalities as would suit them properly without damaging the other kids feelings. It`s difficult but you as mother have the insight.