My cousin fallen in love with me and i was trying to convince him that nothing could happen between us. But then he gone crazy n he started to threatin me so i started to pretent like i feel the same things to him but at that time i was thinking about how to get rid of him. At the same time we were seperated with my ex n i didnt mention him abt the situation but then he learnt it and we got seperated again (it was 3 months ago). I miss him a lot. He is blamin me because i didnt tell him the case n he says he dont trust me anymore. What should i do, should i wait for him? Can he come back to me?
We were planning to get married this summer and we have been dating for 4 years...
2006-10-29 01:44:12 · 8 answers · asked by Nadia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ive already told my cousin that i dont like him n i was pretending like i do while he was threating me. And ive told him before my ex learnt the truth!!!
2006-10-29 01:49:49 · update #1
If it has been a while since you have talked to him, I would again try to talk to him, and be very sweet and friendly.
If that doesn't work, I'd move on.
My advice to you would be: Don't ever pretend you have feelings toward someone when you don't, as every single time it will end up hurting and upsetting someone. And having something with a cousin is just out of the question!
2006-10-29 01:48:46 · answer #1 · answered by peekie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a litte confused about what you wrote but anyway, if your cousin is pressuring you into something like that and threatening you, YOU NEED TO TELL ON HIM. Don't feel bad because he's the one that is doing something wrong to you. Tell other relatives or even tell the police if he won't stay away. Do you really want to lose the one you love over your insane cousin? Incest is not right, it is a taboo. Go be with the man you love, don't be afraid of doing whatever you have to do to get away from your cousin, staying in a situation like this could ruin your life (i.e. he could actually do something bad to you like he threatens, you could lose your man for good, you could be stuck in a relationship with your cousin). I think you can get your man back if you tell him the whole story about you being threatened and afraid and if you tell him you've finally gotten rid of your cousin.
2006-10-29 09:55:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you aren't as innocent about this as you would like the readers to believe.
You got yourself into the situation, now the only thing to do is to come clean with both of them. Whether they forgive you or not is up to them.
Hopefully you've learned that honesty is the best policy.
2006-10-29 09:47:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you should base your decision as to what your heart tells you. In our day, family relationships/incest are not socially acceptable by general means. It's a tough decision, but perhaps I would find someone else.
2006-10-29 09:48:45 · answer #4 · answered by tingalex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you boyfriend might have asked you to marry him, but he did change his mind but did not know how to back out
you have provided him with the perfect excuse
he is not a man let him go
Good luck
2006-10-29 09:54:32 · answer #5 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find another guy. Never marry a relative.
2006-10-29 09:46:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want misformed kids marry him,you cant marry your cousin,whats the matter not enough guys around,you want to keep it in the family.
2006-10-29 09:49:01 · answer #7 · answered by shepardman1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cousin's make dozens!
2006-10-29 09:50:31 · answer #8 · answered by whydiduaskthis? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋