In September, I met a guy at party. We had a great first date a couple of weeks ago. Towards the end of our date, he asked if we were going to get together again. I said maybe. I think he was confused by that comment because he called me when he got home that night to ask if we were going out again. I said, "Sure, why do you ask?" He said he wasn't sure because I said "maybe".
We do talk as often as possible. We had a second date planned for last week but I had to cancel it at the last minute. He understood but I think he was disappointed. We made plans for Thanksgiving weekend and he made a comment, "Wow, that's a really long time to wait to see you."
We like each other but I think that I might be too busy for anything to develop this year! lol....I don't want him to lose interest because I'm busy with school and work. Is there a certain pace at which the dating process is supposed to progress?
2006-10-29 01:24:06 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The dating process often starts right at the point as soon as there is an interest. If a guy is interested in you, and you continue to break or postpone dates, you will lose him.
I understand your being extremely busy. But you must prioritize what is the most important thing in your life and what is the least important thing in your life, and think about the "in between's."
If this guy is low on your priority list, I'm not saying that is a bad thing, but it may be likely that you are too busy for a romance, depending upon how much time your high priority issues demand of you.
Honestly, though, if schooling is on your high priority list, and you have high goals, it may be wise (if you are having time including this guy in your life), to simply accept the fact that you just don't have time in your life for him, and simply concentrate on school or work.
Often people cannot fit everything they want to do into their current lifestyle. Sometimes things must be placed on hold in order to concentrate on more priority issues at that particular stage of life.
My daughter is a dance major, but loves cheerleading as well! She would love to do both. However, her dancing and academics comes first, and she realizes that if she did cheerleading, either dance and/or her academics would suffer. So as much as she hated to do it, she gave up cheerleading.
Good luck!!!!!
2006-10-29 01:38:40 · answer #1 · answered by peekie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to ensure that ur friend understands, that u r busy. Also ensure to give him whatever time u can after u r free from work & school.
its more about the understanding between u and ur friend which will set the foundation.u can invite him to drop u to school , pick u up, so that u get some extra time with him.
Love can certainly wait but after a while there is a possibility of him driving away, if u dnt make him feel special now.So its about keeping a balance.Also, i would suggest , spending time in knowing each other, finding whether u are compatible with each other for now.Initial goodi goodies are attractive, but its only after an a few mnths/may be an yr that the original person comes to the fore front.All the best!
2006-10-29 10:37:30 · answer #2 · answered by whisper v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you're talking about. I am going through the same thing. I have a job at a factory, I go to school, and I record music at a recording studio. There is this girl, I like alot. More than alot. And it got to the point, where she thought I didn't care for her, as much as I say I do. Alot of times she wanted to go out, and I couldn't. I knew I would lose her, if I didn't change things. What I do now is call her everynight. And we go out every Saturday night. I don't know how busy you are, but if you really care for this guy, and I think you do, you must not let him beleive that you don't. Work and School is a good thing, it prepares you for your future. But what good is you're future, if you don't have someone to share it with. A 15 minute phone call everynight, and a 2 or 3 hour date every week. I think you can manage that. If you really care for him. You must not let him think that you don't. At this pace you're going right now, that's what I would think, if I wanted to go out with you. Because that's what my girlfriend thought about me. I hope it all works out for you.
2006-10-29 10:28:58 · answer #3 · answered by Michael S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no set pace. The best thing for you to do is spend time with him whenever it's convenient for you both, and to keep in touch through phone and e-mail. You can probably find some time on weekends, right? If you like each other as much as you say, you can make it work. I'm proud of you for knowing how to prioritize. Good job.
2006-10-29 10:04:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make time. If you are within a short distance there is no reason not to have a drink weather it is coke or coffee with him. You ned to stay focused on school and such for your future but you need a little you time too. He will get to know you this way. Call him if you like him and meet for a drink or a bite to eat where ever you name. Turkey day is a long ways off.
2006-10-29 09:29:28 · answer #5 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think so. It is nice to have a girl with things to do, but when she has too much on her plate, the time you get to spend with her just seems like "recovery" time from all the other things she's doing. Good face time is important during the first few meetings.
2006-10-29 09:33:21 · answer #6 · answered by Horndog 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you had some real genuine interest in him, you would make time. Good Luck.
2006-10-29 09:26:17 · answer #7 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats easy fit it around your schedule and see how it goes i did that and am still with my partner after 3years.
2006-10-29 09:28:52 · answer #8 · answered by baby dust for me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can never be to bizy for romance
2006-10-29 09:28:11 · answer #9 · answered by funluvenguy2003 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋