he is 5 and i am 14 . due o the age gap between us often results in my beating him but i love him very much and my mother is finding it very difficult to cope with us. no matter what i do i can't stop the fight between us completely.
2006-10-29 01:21:46 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First learn to respect to him for what he is instead of expecting him behave as you want him to. Tell me can you respect and accept him as a human being that you have chosen to be born with as a sibling in this lifetime? Believe me you, his company will last you a life time, so cherish him as one day this relationship would be the most important one in your life, as he would be all that will last the longest in your closest blood family.
So knowing all that now, how would you treat him now with love and respect as an individual in his own, though in a smaller body right now, give him some time he will catch up on you, so if you keep on resenting and beating him you will end up with an angry and hateful younger brother with whom you never bothered to build a healthy and respectful relationship.
So don’t waste any more time, be humble and allow yourself to come down to his level even you have been a 5 year old once , so you would know what to do then, and please don’t expect him to behave like a 14 year old instead. You are the grown up one here so take the responsibility of showing him how to grow up with respect, dignity and care.
And younger siblings can a lot of fun if you know how to be fun at their level, don't expect him to be fun from your point of view. He will bring in a lot of joy and playfulness in your life if you know how to be fun with him, not upon him or looking down him just because he want your company and your love. He is your younger self.
2006-10-30 21:09:30 · answer #1 · answered by Abhishek Joshi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in USA you can end up in Jail for beating a minor.
In most countries it is true, so think twice, you may be facing jail, at 14 , you are also a minor, but they do take the age difference and prosecute you as adult compare to your brother.
Next time just walk away from bad situation.
The price you pay may be harsh, very harsh.
2006-10-29 09:29:17 · answer #2 · answered by minootoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit hitting on him. Try playing with him and remember you are his role model and he looks up to you and you were once his age.. My "baby sister is 12 years younger than me and I don't like her all the time but I try and understand her....make him part of your life...play ball with him....just try and show him some "good" attention. If he does something you don't like just tell him, "Bubba, don't do that it's not nice." If he breaks something of yours, remember it can be replaced, your brother can not be replaced however and when he gets older you will find it's fun to have a younger sibling. I have 4 younger siblings. Make him paper airplanes and share your things with him. If you don't want him playing with a certain item, tell him "No Bubba, you can't play with this and then find him something of YOURS he can play with that you don't mind him playing with. " He's just trying to be a part of you, he looks up to you.
2006-10-29 12:02:36 · answer #3 · answered by ReRe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only keep in mind that u r elder & u should be patient. no matter what happens, whether its his mistake u shouldn't beat him in any case. try to control ur anger. u may not know this is a physical change in ur body due to ur age factor but hey it doesn't mean that u are allowed to do anything with ur kid bro.
2006-10-29 09:46:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you act like the older brother and try to get your little brother interested in things that would be easy for him to do ,you better believe he looks up to you and will always remember you beating him up,best advice i could give you is grow up
2006-10-29 10:23:48 · answer #5 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes 5 your 14 you should be his role model grow up some you may not know it but he looks up to you so be a good example tp him
2006-10-29 09:24:12 · answer #6 · answered by jarrod_234 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spend more time with him. you can be '''retarted'' once and a while. my older bro is 16 and my little bro is 6 and they get along fine.
so play with him. do th things he wants to do. teach him how to do the things you like to do!
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2006-10-29 09:26:15 · answer #7 · answered by *IM_A_BOY_LOVER* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GROW UP, AND LOVE THAT LITTLE GUY!! SHAME ON YOU!! HOW ABOUT DOING THINGS TOGETHER, VIDEO GAMES(AGE APPROPRIATE), BOARD GAMES, TOSSING A FOOTBALL AROUND, TEACH HIM BASEBALL, TAKE HIM BOWLING, FISHING, BIKING!!THERE IS SO MUCH YOU CAN TEACH HIM AND HAVE FUN DOING IT TOO!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-29 09:27:39 · answer #8 · answered by mamaexfour 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take him places play with him or just hang out with him
he looks up to you kids just like when you play with them
good luck
2006-10-29 10:20:49 · answer #9 · answered by ladyb96 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
meditate and try to have control over urself
2006-10-29 09:59:36 · answer #10 · answered by eager 2 know n share 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋