Im a single mom with a ten year old daughter. I am a drug addict soon to be going into a 90 day inpatient treatment center and she will be going with me. She is at an age, that in my opinion ,shes to old not to question this but to young to find out her mommy is a drug addict. It will be very soon that I have to sit her down and explain where we'll be going and i dont know how to, without it damaging her. And, at the same time I want to be fully prepared for the questions she'll have.
2006-10-29 01:29:21 · 23 answers · asked by concerned1 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
I think be honest with her. Tell her you have made a mistake, which is not helping your life, so you are going to do something about it.
Good luck, and make it work, for your daughter's sake.
2006-10-29 01:31:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 1⤋
You're being so strong deciding to take the first step. I'm personally so proud of you. It shows you are a wonderful mother for contemplating the way to tell your daughter. I understand how this is a hard age to tell her what's going on but I do think you should sit down with her and explain first how much you love her and then what an addiction is and that you are ready to fight to have the best life possible. I give you applause for wanting to kick the addiction and become a happier healthier person. You have children next to you that will be by your side for the rest of your life. Mothers always find a way ;) **Sincerely J.N.B
2006-10-31 01:53:10 · answer #2 · answered by SweetHeart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your an addict the damage has already been done. Enough lying, tell her the truth, and work through the future together. At ten years old she has a pretty good idea of what has been going on and is capable of handling the truth. Give her the power to help you and take the strength she has to offer. Good for you that your seeking help. It will be a hard road, but be strong. Have faith that your life and your daughters life will get better with time.
2006-10-29 08:42:29 · answer #3 · answered by Chris 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
WOW! Your honesty has seriously moved me to tears. I'm a sap. Your daughter already know that you're an addict. Kids pick up on things. She may not know exactly what's going on but i'm sure you've been secretive to keep it from her. She's picked up on that. Tell her the way you would like to be told at 10. Sit her down and tell her that you've been having a hard time with an addiction and that you're now trying to get help for it. If she asks a question, answer it honestly, no beating around the bush. She'll be more hurt if she finds out later from someone else. God bless you for trying to change your life. I've sent a prayer to heaven for you and I hope others do the same.
2006-10-30 12:45:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that you should call the treatment center and talk to one of the counselors there about how to have this conversation with your daughter - I'm sure they'll be able to guide you through it.
Ten is young, but your daughter will be able to handle it, and she'll make a good "recovery", too. Chances are good she already knows on some level what's going on, because addicts rarely hide their addictions well from their loved ones. Damage has already been done, and she will hopefully see your discussion as the hopeful beginning of healing.
Good luck, and stay strong!
2006-10-29 08:35:07 · answer #5 · answered by Emily O 3 · 6⤊ 1⤋
maybe be very nice and buy her what she wants
then tell her the truth the next day
i don't think she will have a problem then
but if she does then try your best to make her feel good about you and to deal with it
only dont say it mean-like
good luck
one more thing I'm also ten yrs. old u might want to listen to that
my uncle was a drug addicted too
now he's not because he quit because i didn't want him to die early
a warning your daughter will make u quite by begging or annoying u or maybe ignoring everything u say
2006-10-29 14:22:34 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. Joe Jonas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I think that it's great that you've made this decision. That in itself takes courage. I have a 10yr old boy, & I think that he is absolutely able to process this kind of information. At this age they already know what drugs are. They teach that to them in school. Just tell her that you have a problem & that you are going to get the help you need. Make sure she gets counseling too. There is a group just for kids out there called alateen. If you're honest with her, she'll be ok. Knowing the facts will make this less scary for her. As long as she is equiped with the facts of the situation, she'll ask questions & you should answer them honestly. My guess is that she already knows that there is a problem. She'll be proud of you for taking this step.
2006-10-29 09:59:55 · answer #7 · answered by jodi g 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
SCRIPT
You: Hunny i want to tell you something
Her: What
You: You have heard about drugs right
Her: yea/no (If no explain)
You: well when i was young and stupid I started them and i am still edicted. This is not a bad thing it's actually a good thing, i'm still the same mom it's just that I am going to a special center with you for a while to get better. Don't worry everything will be okay.
There is a 50 50 chance she will still be upset but she will get used to it.
2006-10-29 18:32:59 · answer #8 · answered by BayBay28 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh man! I feel so sorry for u. At least ur going to fix it. Your daughter probably already knows ur a drug addict. To maake sure just pick a good time before u guys go to rehab. but why are u taking her? She isnt the one that has drug problems, u shouldnt make her come. I guess its better than leaving her with someone, at least shes wit u
2006-10-29 12:21:18 · answer #9 · answered by r. 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Since she will be going with you she's going to know what's going on anyway. At 10 she is old enough to be told about drugs & their dangers and she is going to see firsthand what can happen when you are addicted. Be honest with her & explain how you got started on drugs, how your habit increased & what "addiction" is. Use very simple terms & make sure to ask her if she has questions often as you are explaining. Congratulations to you for taking this big step!!! You are to be applauded!!!!! Good luck on your journey into your new IMPROVED life.
2006-10-29 09:30:10 · answer #10 · answered by dmommab@sbcglobal.net 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well this is a really hard situation but i think you should be honest with her tell her you made a mistake and tell her your reallly sorry and let her learn from your mistake and make a promise to her.
2006-11-01 15:20:26 · answer #11 · answered by Nat17 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋