How do I cope with being single...even though I've taken a break from dating?

Question

I'm 25/female/London , attractive and a good person, but it seems like I can't find someone to be in a relationship.

After being on Personals websites (Match and Yahoo personals) since the beginning of the year till now...I've finally given up...and I'm getting really depressed about not having found someone to be with.

I've been single forever, and I've never been in a relationship, because I'm waiting for a genuine connection, and I don't want to be in a relationship just for the sake of being in one...but it seems like the price to pay for that is daily lonliness.

I have lots of friends and they are all great, and I love my job and family , etc...but coming home in the evening and being in your flat alone through the night is becoming increasingly depressing...

Having been on countless dates, I'm just really amazed at how far people are willing to go to waster your time!

How can I cope with being single untill I meet that special person...although I've taken a break.

I don't have expectations that are too high...because I don't really care about physical attraction on it's own...but I care more about the person's personality...but it seems as if more and more people are just superficial or are just out for a quick sh*g!

Answer 1

Take one day at a time and be patient ... with life and yourself. You sound like a lovely person with some strong values and core beliefs....... and I admire that you are looking for something worthwhile ...... real love .... and somebody to love you and so hang in there ....Sometimes cupid moves a pebble( lol ) at a time instead of mountains..... I'll keep you in my prayers and your yearning to find your life partner. Take care and God bless.

Answer 2

Are you sure you aren't dismissing people prematurely, and as a result decide that you don't "connect" with them? Perhaps it's a matter of spending more time with one person in particular and getting to know them even better. Some people take a lot more time than others in opening up and revealing themselves. Sometimes those kinds of people turn out to be the closest friends and our deepest relationships.

You feel lots of people will go far and "it's a waste of time." Maybe they don't think so. Maybe THEY are giving YOU time, maybe that is the process of getting to know someone.

Just consider if it's a matter of you hurrying people along if it doesn't feel like love at first sight. Maybe all those people are just trying to get to know you and like being around you and don't feel it's a waste of time at all.

I know it's depressing being single in a world made for couples. It feels like you are the only single person on the face of the earth and everyone else has "someone."

You will cope with being single until you meet that special someone, because the alternative is NOT coping. You won't be driven to madness for the sole reason of being single. On the other hand, a bad marriage or being with the wrong guy COULD drive you mad and make you go crazy! From that perspective, singlehood doesn't seem so bad, huh?

Answer 3

Maybe you are expecting to much in your future partner.

Stop trying so hard to find someone and you will find that the person you are supposed to be with will walk into your life one day.

You could always buy a pet to keep you company at night in the mean time.

Answer 4

considers u lucky for being single and young
once u married the babys will come and your will lose part of your identity so take things easy and let nature lend the way on
it sweet time

Answer 5

a vibrator. if you got 1 already then get a stronger 1.

Answer 6

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