i'm part of a small group,where the closest male i know is secretly gay but noone else knows this.and every time i'm around all of them,i feel that they're being lied to and that this guy's a hypocrite-i don't want to ruin my relationship with the guy,or the guy's relationship with the others-but i feel partly guilty for 'encouraging' this 'lie',is there something i can do which won't harm anyone?
or should i just lay back and do nothing?
2006-10-29 00:28:13 · 14 answers · asked by al 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is not your secret to tell. He felt comfortable with you enough to tell you the truth. Don't betray his trust in you. Let him tell them on his own time. You should do nothing. It is not your secret. Respect him.
2006-10-29 00:32:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anna F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but I don't think you're worried about "encouraging a lie". I think you just want to be the one to start a bit of gossip, and be the centre of attention, even if for a minute or two.
Its none of your business, so SAY NOTHING!!!!!.
Why is this guy lying just because he hasn't come out?
I'm sure there are things in your life that aren't public knowledge, that doesn't make YOU a liar!!!!!!!
2006-10-29 00:38:59 · answer #2 · answered by maggie rose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as you might be tempted or feel you should tell, he obviously doesnt want them to know so mind your own business. If he is a hypocrite then thats his problem. How would you feel if someone let your friends know you were a premature ejaculator or couldnt get it up. His sexual leanings are not anyones business but his.
2006-10-29 00:34:43 · answer #3 · answered by dragonrider707 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you just have to lay back and just wait till he find his right time to think whether he's a gay or a real man.You must not broke a friend trust.He tell you his secret cause he trust on you and don't let him down.It is his life and you should not intrude on it,just be a friend who will support him and give advice if he ask and need it,to avoid being blame at the end.
2006-10-29 00:55:31 · answer #4 · answered by kimy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow.how did you come to be the groups appointed airer of dirty laundry? The fact of the matter is it isn't your secret to share. I would certainly hope that one of my friends would not publicize a secret of mine in hopes of gaining recognition from my other friends. Sounds like there is more to this than a perceived obligation to tell the truth.
2006-10-29 00:34:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's his secret to tell...not yours. When he's comfortable that he'll be accepted for who he is, then he'll let others know. Gays are still (unfortunately) persecuted and treated poorly by small minded people.
He's not lying to anyone, unless he's actually telling people he's hetero...just because people assume he's straight, doesn't make him a liar.
2006-10-29 00:37:39 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it would be the right thing to not say anything at all. He told you because he trusts you. He will tell people when he's ready to. You need to support his decision and be a good friend to him. Good Luck
2006-10-29 00:37:27 · answer #7 · answered by rach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
encourage him to come out the closet it will all be good in the end you can start by adding little hints you can say he never has a girl things like that
2006-10-29 00:34:48 · answer #8 · answered by mrnbhillman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO , that would be nasty , its not your place to say anything! just leave it your friend will come out of the closet in his own time.
2006-10-29 00:32:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just Chill my man!! If he wants others to know he will tell them.
2006-10-29 00:42:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋