Ok my boyfriend has this one gurl je is friends with. and every time i have seen them together they flirt non-stop with each other. and he is always texting her with seeet stuff he use to say to me. i told him that i didn't like her to much so he stoped hanging out with her when im around. but i was looking through his cell last night and his text box (in and out) are full of her. he told me that they use to "mess" around but nothing came of it. what do i do. part of me says he is but the other is like he comes home with me and he just bought me a car he wouldn't cheat on me if he is paying for a car for me. i just don't know. I love him and know he loves me and i do trust him with my heart and soul but things don't add up. What do i do if i tell him hes gonna get mad cuz i went through his phone (and i understand that) but if i don't talk to him my imagenation is gonna get the best of me. PLEASE HELP
2006-10-29 00:24:49 · 17 answers · asked by gismo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sit him down for a one on one talk. look him in his eyes and ask for the truth. his eyes cannot lie to you. eyes are the doorway to your soul.
2006-10-29 00:30:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do not trust him 100%. If you trusted him, you would not feel compelled to check out his text messages and you wouldn't be asking our opinion on this.
From what you've said, I don't blame you for casting a suspicious eye his way. I would too. I do nothing to give the man in my life any reason for suspicion or jealousy, and I expect him to act the same with me. If I ever somehow DID, I would be horrified that it's what he thought.
I understand why you checked out his text messages/cell phone too. But, just because I understand why you did it, doesn't mean I think it was the right thing to do.
Confront him with it. You have nothing to hide. You aren't doing anything wrong by wanting some answers. Sneaking peaks at his text messages suggests you are asking for resolution wrongfully. He'll probably get mad at your looking at his cell phone, but don't let him make that the main topic. The issue is his relationship with this other girl. Your looking at his cell phone is another issue for another time. Tell him you don't feel right or good about sneaking around, checking out his private text/cell messages, and that is why you are bringing it up and out in the open. Tell him it makes you doubt his faithfulness, which damages the trust. If he continues to "relate" to this girl after you let him know exactly how you feel, then he has no respect for you and doesn't love you. If he stops contact with her, is concerned over your feelings, and focuses on you only, then he's worth giving another chance.
It should bother him that you feel he may be cheating. If it doesn't and he starts dwelling on your looking at his cell phone only, well, I think you know what that means....
2006-10-29 07:42:42 · answer #2 · answered by cinderella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you don't trust him or you wouldn't have gone through his phone and wouldn't be worried that he's cheating.
Is he cheating? How can WE know? We don't know him or the whole situation...you need to talk to him and get this ironed out, or decide to move on. If there isn't trust in your relationship, it's not going to last long and won't be a fun ride for you.
Communicate...that's another one of those things successful relationships cannot do without.
2006-10-29 07:30:37 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The matter is clear. I think that he really loves you but he needs another girl around. Some men act this way. They do not think they are cheating or hurting somebody because they do not love the orher person. It is just sex. Are you willing to understand this macho attitude?
2006-10-29 07:40:07 · answer #4 · answered by Pierrot le fou 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your bf does not seem to think much of you. If he had any respect for you, he would not flirt w another girl in your presence or even in your absense. The answer is obvious. Find yourself another bf and get some self esteem.
2006-10-29 07:27:28 · answer #5 · answered by seek_fulfill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's cheating to me. Tell him that you have every right to be angry and to see his cell with the text messages. Tell him that he lied to you, and you have every right to confront him on the issue of that. Tell him if he does it again, that it's over. If he does, kick him to the curb.
2006-10-29 07:28:36 · answer #6 · answered by Kristen H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think he loves you? there's nothing in your question, that you tell us about him, that indicates that he does.......
There are plenty of decent fellas out there, go find yourself one who will care about you and respect your feelings. THAT is what love is.
This guy is playing you for a sucker, because thats just how you are acting.....
Are you sure you love him?? or just afraid of having no-one.....
2006-10-29 07:30:45 · answer #7 · answered by maggie rose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something tells me that if he's not cheating on you he will be soon. What you do about it is up to you.
2006-10-29 07:28:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should tell him how you feel, regardless if he gets mad or not, if you want to keep a healthy relationship you must stay communicating.
2006-10-29 07:29:22 · answer #9 · answered by DUSTY 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nop boys dont do that ur a LIER u r a cheater
2006-10-29 07:36:11 · answer #10 · answered by ohshapapa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋