i its hard to concentrate but i desparately need help i have blundered by saying yes to marriage .i said yes coz of social pressure. i am not able to throw him out of my head. i have to still PREPARE A LOT FOR THE EXAMS
2006-10-28 23:40:07 · 13 answers · asked by j a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
DEAR DO NOT TALK TO YOUR FIANCEE OVER TELEPHONE FIRST PREPARE FOR EXAMINATION. FORGET HER TILL EXAM.
2006-10-29 01:01:13 · answer #1 · answered by RAMAN IOBIAN 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When my daughter was in college she had specifically asked me not to talk of her marriage unless she is through or else she will not go to college,even knowing that we would not put any sort of pressure on her. But it sometimes(even most of the times)happens that there is a very good proposals and as a father I know how difficult it is to turn it down.You have not been so lucky in that your parents have already engaged you. If the boy is residing near or even in the same place frequent outings are bound to follow on one pretext or the other e.g. meeting visiting relatives of the boy.The charged atmosphere and these disruptions are bound to throw all your study plans overboard. You would have to be very firm severelly limiting the outings to almost zero.Though it is rather difficult but if you talk to the boy diectly he may show understanding especally if the completion of this course is likely to better your prospects.You will have take a firm hold on yourself and devote undivided attention to your studies. You may find it somewhat difficult but slowly you will calm down and be able to concentrate.Your people,especially your mother, will stand behind you and diplomatically dispose of the new relations to spare you. Best of luck!
2006-10-29 07:06:47 · answer #2 · answered by Prabhakar G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not abnormal but something you have to do. Buckle down on your school work and then enjoy your engagement to its fullest. If you are in college and your wedding is soon think about whether or not you are going to need to take time off. I have been engaged for over a year now and have been going to college for quite a while now. I still have a couple years to go but will take next semester off as I will have my wedding on April 7 and do not need the stress of both. After the wedding back I go to finish up.
However, if you don't want to marry him call it off now!!!
2006-10-29 08:17:31 · answer #3 · answered by CGS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it one day at a time. Realize you are not married yet, just engaged. You can break it off at any time. However, because you are very stressed out with school, please don't break it off until after your exams. Your mind will be clearer and you can then assess the situation. (Also, I would talk to your fiance about the pressure - tell him that you are not backing out but you are overwhelmed. Learn to go to him for comfort. If he can help you through this then your trust for each other will grow exponentially).
2006-10-29 08:38:19 · answer #4 · answered by rrmorris45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyway you are going to marry him,so why not concentrate on your studies now till your exam.Think about your career after marriage...best of luck ...
2006-10-29 07:01:20 · answer #5 · answered by Amanda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember you might not get married and end up to where u have to take care of yourself.So u want a good job.So get off this stupid pc and go study.Oh and good luck on your exams.
2006-10-29 09:50:00 · answer #6 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too busy thinking about the wedding, marriage, your answer that it is difficult to study. Too much is happening all at once.,
2006-10-29 06:43:49 · answer #7 · answered by Veronica 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well ur true in ur sense but cope the situation .if u have the time schdule and can ctrl ur feelings and emotions if ur life patner understands ur value .say him that i want to b independent and strong will.....he will definately b wid u . bt living in an 21st century just say no to marraige ....... if u can understand !
2006-11-02 04:43:10 · answer #8 · answered by rajatsethi_7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being a doormat, sweetie and give the ring back. You are immature and are acting irresponsible.
2006-10-29 08:05:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to learn to control your stress level. keep thinking about it will just make you more flustered. you can ask your partner to postpone the engagement til after your exams. im sure she/he'll wait for you if he/she really loves you :)
2006-10-29 07:03:14 · answer #10 · answered by real.instinct 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋