@ work it seems that having a good work ethic, exception technical skills and great customer service means sh*t all as the aspect of working with a team usually ends up in me pulling other ppl's weight. I get no rewards and miss out on promotions that I think I deserve for my diligence and pursurverance.
@ the social seem it is seem as uncool to be kind or show emotions.
In the relationship scene it's mostly rejection.
I wonder... I have this problem and I know alot of other guys that are really good people, but get harrased and never get the attention of decent women.
I feel sometimes as if the world is pushing me not to care and just be like the scum I see in my local town. I personally don't think alot of the same things as other ppl and I feel alienated because of my views to be morale and justified.
I often think that it is negatively skewed and the perception of it's only wrong if you get caught and to lie, cheat and steal is the way to go these days.I'd like to be wrong:-
2006-10-28 23:38:35 · 17 answers · asked by Psy. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're not a decent person in order to get recognition, or rewards, or good luck.
You're a decent person because you could never accept being otherwise.
A truly decent person does not expect anything in exchange for his or her decency.
2006-10-29 00:08:01 · answer #1 · answered by tlakkamond 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From one nice guy to the next. Contrary to popular belief and yours, there is nothing wrong with being the nice guy. As long as you are not a pushover or a doormat, then you will be successful in any endeavor in your life and with the ladies. I learned this lesson hard.
At your job, do the best job you can do and be the most competent, but also be able to go toe-to-toe with your co-workers or your supervisor when you feel that your good work goes unnoticed, taken advantage of or you have to pull someone else's dead weight.
With the ladies you need to quit confusing being nice to a woman with being romantic and sensual to a woman. Those are two different feelings. Being nice to a woman doesn't make her desire you in a romantic or sexual way. You need to stick out your chest and be bold. Learn how to make them swoon for you.
Another thing about being nice to the ladies; When you are with a woman, be the kindest, gentle, and most loving boyfriend a woman can have. On the same token don't be afraid to walk on her if those feelings are not being reciprocated! Don't stick around and be a doormat. Women don't respect and *** kisser.
Look, rejections are a part of life. Everyone has to deal with that. Even Brad Pitt has been turn down. That makes you and I no different in that regard to that man. When a woman spurns you or you are not good enough for her, don't take it personally. It is her loss and not yours! She ought to be happy that you had an intererst in her in the first place. You may not realize it, but you do your fair share of rejecting and so does she.
2006-10-28 23:52:31 · answer #2 · answered by davester1970 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I share your views; cheat and steal is the way to go these days. I would like however to ask you a question "why don't you do it? What is stopping you from imitating your colleagues or adopting unscrupulous social behaviour?
I don't know about you but I can give you my answer. Basically, it depends on the way you've been brought up in your early childhood by your parents; and what kind of relations you had during your teen years.
You should be proud of yourself. Do not feel awkward or rejected and take people as they are. You cannot change the world. One day hopefully, you'll find the perfect match for you.
2006-10-28 23:59:45 · answer #3 · answered by Pierrot le fou 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes it does seem this way , but if you stick around long enough you'll see that these people always get caught. Its like a house of cards there is no solid foundation. It can be a small breeze that makes it tumble, but it usually will implode on itself, with no outside influence. Sounds like you've already got a head start on a great foundation, dont allow others who have the mansion built out of cards fool you. they will never find true love, happiness, faith or peace, and they know it better than anyone else.
Everyone wants to live at the top of a mountain , but all the happiness and growth occur while your climbing it.
As for socially, if a woman is interested in being treated badly who the heck wants her anyway. This is confusing to me, i dont know one girl that isnt interested in finding a nice respectable man.
And the guys, well.. thats a bit different. Dont have time for that.
My choices..
I'd rather see the good in people, than the evil.
I'd rather be me than anyone else i know.
I'd rather trust than be suspicious.
I'd rather laugh than cry.
I'd rather hope than dispair.
I'd rather believe in God , than try to be live in nothing.
I'd rather love than hate.
I'd rather have faith than be afraid.
I'd rather be learning on the outside than dying on the inside.
I'd rather live with myself than someone i dont like.
I'd rather pray than feel helpless.
2006-10-29 00:22:53 · answer #4 · answered by JodiBaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One day your ship will come in. Nothing wrong with being decent, although I agree that good-looking girls do seem to be attracted to the rough and readies - at least in the short term.
The one thing you should not do though, is change the way you naturally are merely in the hope of scoring.
2006-10-28 23:45:51 · answer #5 · answered by steven b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are alot of girls that like to be treated like crap. Keep you head up Alex, you sound like a sweet guy and you will find someone. Sometimes good things come to those who wait. Maybe you are too mature right now compared to others around your age. ?? Plus, some girls need time to realize that they don't like being treated like crap by guys.
I know you aren't gay, but I think you sound like a catch. I hope that helps. Maybe go shopping with a girl let her help you out like maybe you need a make over or some tips on how to approach girls from a girl??
2006-10-28 23:44:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK
Work, seems like you have made yourself indespensible in your current job. Always a bad thing to do.
Talk to your manager and tell him/her you are fed up with having to do everyone elses work.
Social, you are mixing with the wrong people if being caring is seen as uncool
Relationships, most women I know want a caring person, again seems you are trying to get together with the wrong partners
2006-10-28 23:45:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You sound like a decent person. So that being the case, never
change. There are many good people out there who will always appreciate a good person. Be true to yourself.
2006-10-28 23:45:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah...there is a time where you have to realize that a business will take advantage of you untill you realize that your in charge....Dont go through life always be the overly nice guy...people can lie to your face...and will use you unitll you dont allow them too....
Justin
2006-10-28 23:50:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no dont let this F***Ked up place change you, dont stop trying and let the people who dont care about anything win. You have to be stronger then that. and all these people who said give up..they are just one of those people who got week and let others win.
2006-10-28 23:48:54 · answer #10 · answered by mnm4213 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋