This happened In bed with my girlfriend last weekend, who was a little sick.
she was unenthusiastic when it came to sex, like she was doing it out of pity (I didn't react to the fact that she was sick at the time..)
The unenthusiasm completely turned me off, and we didn't finish our business. when she asked me what was wrong, i told her with a disappointed voice that "I've never been turned off so quickly before" (which was true, and how i felt at the time)
However, i didn't realise how selfish i had been.
She's the egotistic type of woman, and is very upset at the comment i gave her. she believes im no longer attracted to her but i still love her very much.
shes changed her attitude towards me since. I thought about it, I guess if she had told me the same line, i'd be upset too. so im in the wrong all up.
Any advice on how i can make our relationship go back to normal? i've tried apologizing, didn't exactly work...
any advice is appreiciated! thanks!
2006-10-28 23:01:47 · 11 answers · asked by Billie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Women have 2 fundamental needs: to feel cherished, and to feel desired.
When you told her that you were "turned off", she took it personally---as tho it was her un- desirability that turned you off.
I suggest that every day---in every way---you emphasize to her that you adore her so much, and she is SO sexy, that you just HAVE to have her! That you fantasize about her all the time, and can hardly wait to see her and be with her.
You might also indicate to her that you lost your erection because you were feeling a little bit rejected by her, in that she was not responding to you. That you LOVE it when she is turned on for you and it was a disappointment that she didn't want you as much as you wanted her then. That knowing she wants you is a BIG turn on for you.
It will take some time and repetition, but I think if you try those things, you will find your current problem resolved. I also think that keeping up this attitude
2006-10-28 23:13:12 · answer #1 · answered by catherine02116 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I think you should just keep reassuring her that you are in love with her. Also take complete responsibility for the comment you made. Don't make it in any way her fault. You could say, "I was so selfish when I said that, I didn't even stop to consider that you were sick." Or, "I am so very sorry for the remark I made, I feel terrible that I have hurt you, I'm truly sorry." And whatever you do, don't make excuses about why you said it! Just say, I know it was stupid of me, I can't believe I said it, etc. If that comment was said to me by my boyfriend, that is how I would want him to handle it and thats what it would take for me to believe that he's sorry. Once I knew he was sorry, I would forgive him and get the relationship back to good. Ok, good luck! I hope my advice helps you.
2006-10-29 06:40:28 · answer #2 · answered by mujerloca2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you always think about sex and nothing else exist just to please you..
Relationship based on sex doesnt last for a long period of time.. Because once the physical attraction fades away, you will not be attracted to one another...But a relationship based on friendship no matter how far and how long..it will remain forever.
Try to offer some kind of peace offering...and if you are ready for the responsibility, marry her.. If you love her, and you always wanted to make love with her...you will marry her.
2006-10-29 06:09:02 · answer #3 · answered by just me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, ask her what the problem is, you've felt a cold chill coming off her of late and if she'd like to talk about it. If she says "Nothing's tha matter" then, lay off and wait. Women will ALWAYS be the first to breach the silence, and it'll more than likely be something along the lines of "you know what the problem is" or should...just be sympathetic and act as if you didn't realize what a total brute and selfish b*stard you had been. Safe!
2006-10-29 06:06:35 · answer #4 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first off don't ask for sex too much give her the chance to want you more and come to you you can keep telling her how sorry you are write a love letter to her to express your deep feelings to her give her flowers women love that. give her time if she truly loves you she will forgive you show her that you do desire her and make her believe that she is the sexiest woman on the planet no one can top her. it will work.
2006-10-29 06:12:03 · answer #5 · answered by kittywiz28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say you should take her out for dinner. Or cook for her. Maybe you have to show her how much she means to you. You need to tell her how nice she is and how much you love her. Maybe cook a romantic meal for her with roses and candels..!
2006-10-29 06:06:44 · answer #6 · answered by katymarie_usa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's going to take a while before you can convince her that you're not an insensitive pig after all. Good luck!
2006-10-29 06:04:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sit her down -- somewhere private and tell her the same --- let her know how you feel --- you care for each other so you should be able to rescue the relationship
2006-10-29 06:19:54 · answer #8 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you hav to b careful in the sense tat u dnt hurt hr unconsciously ,jus dnt bother hw she behaves jus love her n care for her even more
2006-10-29 06:13:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
buy her flowers & say ur sorry 4 being a complete j3rk last tym...
women like it when men admit their mistakes...
2006-10-29 06:10:53 · answer #10 · answered by 2D1iLuV 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋