my daughter almost finished medicine, but dropped out at the last year, she realized she doesn't like it, when she experienced being on call, now she's getting married and wants to be a housewife, her husband is a doctor, and she believe's one doctor is enough because she wants to haver time for her husband and future kids.. will she be alright?
2006-10-28 22:53:04 · 18 answers · asked by anxiousgirl888 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
i think she should finish her medicine even if she wanted to be housewife later on....
2006-10-28 23:02:18 · answer #1 · answered by aarshi72 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a waste. You are right to worry about her.
No-one knows the future.
She is missing out on the opportunity to ensure her future.
Encourage her to finish her studies - if necessary after a suitable break - she does not have to practise that sort of medicine when she qualifies, hospital medicine is nor for everybody. There are lots of opportunities. She could work outside of medicine but employers prefer people who have finished their courses.
Families sadly are not guaranteed to last for ever. Husbands and possibly children may not always be there but she will always need to put food on the table.
Surely she will get bored - compared with University, once the children are at school, oh dear this sounds like a case of the grass always appearing greener.
That said, unless you are really close as a family she may not listen to you, so worrying may not do you any good. She is as an adult allowed to make her own decisions. What does her husband think? Is he pressurising her to make this decision or taking advantage of her frustration to sway her decision?
Hope that you are able to get some sort of reassurance.
2006-10-29 06:10:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure she will.
In fact, she may be able to go ahead with some of her
studies via the Internet, as time permits, at home. In
that way she could move over into the Lab Work part
of medicine and not have to deal with the "on call"
liability of being a doctor. Lab professionals usually
work a set routine of hours which would eventually fit
into a family schedule once the children reach school
age - if the lady wishes to work at all.
2006-10-29 06:00:52 · answer #3 · answered by zahbudar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she did wrong in quitting school. We never know when something bad will happen in our marriage and now she won't have anything to fall back on. However, you can't tell her that because she has her mind set on this path and not the other. I have been a stay at home mom for close to 10 yrs now and am very happy. It's what has worked for us. If she had a problem with being on call then you might want to remind her that having a family is being on call 24/7. I think she will be alright for now. She has found love and that is her priority. She will figure it all out in time.
2006-10-29 08:16:50 · answer #4 · answered by ~*~frankie~*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter will be a great mom and wife. Some women are just happy with the domesticated life and there is nothing wrong with that at all. Im sure her and hubby have talked and made the choices they feel are right for them , also i hope they are smart and set up some sort of financial stability for your daughter shall anything ever happen. House wives sometimes dont think of financial well being shall something happen to hubby or relationship. As a house wife and mother of 3 i commend your daughter for wanting to be home for her family , i feel it can be more demanding then a Docter anyday LOL, good luck to her.
2006-11-02 04:05:32 · answer #5 · answered by ghettobootybundy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion...she is following her dream...to be a wife and mom that is such an honorable position. When both Mom and Dad are working it's so hard to have a peaceful home. So much stress. When Mom can be at home and have dinner ready for her husband and take care of the children that is a wonderful thing to be able to do for her family. Careers are great nothing wrong with a woman who decides she wants it. Plus if she wants to go back to work she can after her kids are up some age. Let me say this also...my daughter died age 22 I didn't get to see her marry or have children...and missed out on grandchildren too. So I hope you will enjoy your daughter and what she has chosen for her life. you are very blessed to have her and I already know you know this too.....just had to answer you when I read your question.
2006-10-29 06:07:47 · answer #6 · answered by Mama Jazzy Geri 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its her life but she made a really dumb decision. She could have stayed a GP and got a part time job instead of wasting her life being a housewife...why study something so hard in the first place if all you're going to do with that education is change diapers?! She could have done that without screwing some other kid's place in a medical school!
2006-10-29 06:36:28 · answer #7 · answered by DrSH 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Encourage her, give her advise, but realize she may just do what she wants to do. Be supportive of her with either choice she makes.
I would point out a couple key points...
If she has children once they go to school, she may want something else to do other the stay home.
If something should happen and her husband is unable to work, she would have a good education to pick things up and work from there.
Good Luck
2006-10-29 09:48:59 · answer #8 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you love your daughter, so you must trust your daughter. I'm sure she has made other decisions in her life that you have questioned. She is a grown married woman now and only she knows what is best for her. But its still ok to worry, on your part. Worry is the sign of a good mother. Its even ok to question her and voice your concern to her, but you should still be supportive and let her know that you are behind her. This keeps the communication between you two flowing. Good Luck!!
2006-10-29 06:06:01 · answer #9 · answered by Biighead 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is what she wants for herself right now. The time to be worried about her is if she starts living her life according to the will of her husband and not her own will. And even then, all you can do is worry. You can't make her do anything about it. From the sounds of it, she's at a place where she doesn't want all the rat race of a medical career right now. But, perhaps, if she wants to go back to work (or needs to), she can take what she's learned so far and apply it in a less-demanding occupation.
2006-10-29 06:06:59 · answer #10 · answered by FL LMT 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don`t worry too much. It seems that she has made a decision about what role she primarily would like to play in her newfound life. Just support her and guide her through it. Im sure she will need your assistance too at this point. Being a housewife is one of the most rewarding professions there is and success is not measured by your career but by the quality of life you have.
2006-10-29 06:02:17 · answer #11 · answered by Joy RP 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋