i love him but...?

Question

he's acting so bad. wanting to make me feel bad i think. when he told me about talking to a girl at the bar. i said ok, cos people talk and flirt or whatever. but he made me feel like he really wanted to go for it. which made me feel so bad. then he seemed to drop it when i said i felt bad now. then he said 'now you know how it feels' he then went driving after having 10 bicardis, and he told me before he was going that he was driving somewhere so it worried the hell out of me. the last few days he's been trying to make me feel bad and then says it will be ok in the end. that he loves me and always will.

Answer 1

don't let him manipulate you. love isn't about purposely making the other person feel bad. sounds like a turd.

Answer 2

I have a confession to make, i've been the same with my girlfriend. All he is doing, is crying out for love, he is obviously quite insecure, dumping him, would just make him worse. It is natural for there to be games in the first two weeks of a relationship. But you really need to to a kind gesture to him and say that if it carries on, he will get no more kind gestures, you will have to end it. Because as much as you love him, you cannot let him put you through that. He is insecure, so tread about the situation carefully, otherwise, you could make him feel worse. If you do the above, and he is still fool, then do it back to him. Then afterwards, tell him you were only being cruel to be kind. And that it was the only way you ever saw it being sorted out. BE open, honest and frank with each other. But be careful, in the way that you word your conversation.

Answer 3

Sounds like he's seen you flirting with someone and he wanted to get his own back by doing the same.He probably went out driving to let of some steam rather than have a big argument.But we all know that drink driving is very dangerous and nobody should do it what ever the reason.
Maybe you should talk more to each other about your feelings.

Answer 4

Hey girl, I sounds like all that he has been doing is to convince u to go to America to live with him.... I bet that he has no idea anyway about how to have you over there with him....
Sorry to say this, but if he really wanted to go for the girl, he would.... He was probably trying to make you feel bad, jealous and insecure, just like him...
U 2 love each other... So, is there any reason not to go for it? U can always move to America and give it a try.

Answer 5

Looks like he has issues, why would he want to make you feel bad o.0 doesn't he love you? flirting with other girls is obviously a bad start, drinking and driving is just silly though, seems to me this guys still a kid and out for fun, though, if you really love him, try get him to change his ways before he gets hurt.

good luck

Answer 6

sounds to me hes testing you out but dont allow him to do this as at the same time hes placing you on a guilt trip to his satisfaction . hes trying to see how far he can go untill you react and what type of reaction he gets , maybe its something to do with his past or is he just tryin to get you to dump him talk to him find out why hes testign you in this manner , communication is always the best thing but make sure he is stone cold sober when you do talk to him , its the only way forward to seek some straight truthful answers to this problem .communication is the key word hear .

Answer 7

It seems like what ever you've done, he can't deal with......only by getting you back.
Some guys cannot express their feelings when something goes wrong so they get back at you, don't speak, sulk anything but talk.
It seems like you have to make the first move, and try and talk to him and ask him to open up so you both can move. Believe me if you both can get through this you can get through anything coz you how to deal with things. Talk to him when no one is about so theres no distractions.
If it doesn't work, you need to make plans for yourself.

Good luck hope it works out.

Answer 8

my dear...
I can understand deeply about what you feel...
coz i do feel the same as yours...
Know something... i just want to remind you that Don't let him feel that he is above you... ask him back... Do you thing that person in that certain position won't feel hurt??
Or you should thell him..."Whatever you have done, I will never do the same to you. Because if so.. It means that I am not better than you"
Again and again... If you think that a relationship has turned to be a burden for you, so I want to ask you... Is it reasonable for you to keep going on it???
Answer it by yourself...
Dear... Even it is very pain... We must face it....

Answer 9

mind games,he`s playing with your head, it will not be o.k. in the end if you put up with this, this is the worst kind of emotional abuse there is. the best way to stop it, is not to let it bother you,yea it`s hard, but you are going to have to realize that in life, no one is responsible for another persons actions,but the person themselves. oh, he can play head games with you & make you feel like everything is your fault &you will can let it hurt you mentally. but the way it sounds, he is doing just fine.honey, if someone ever tries to make you feel bad, responsible for their bad behavior,or inferior,that`s not love-it`s a type of slavery.mind control.good luck-

Answer 10

It sounds like this guy is enjoying having a hold over you, and he is a real attention seeker. But if he is playing mind games with you then he can't care for you like he says he does.

You know his behaviour is terrible or else you wouldn't have posted your question. Listen to what you are being told na dleave him well alone, you deserve better.

Answer 11

Seems like your guy is really insecure and is trying everything in his power to grasp and keep your attention. If I were you, I would ignore his bad behaviour. If it really bothers you that much, I would break it off with him for a while. It seems like he may need sometime on his own to figure out himself and what he wants...