Is it possible for me to get a girlfriend even though I am stupid, ugly, and boring?

Question

I also can't keep up a conversation for more than a few minutes. The only good qualities I can lay claim too are kindness and a calm temperament. I am also smart and articulate in face to face communication. Is it hopeless? I am 19 and am totally pathetic. I don't have low self esteem. Im just realisitic and I can tell from girls reactions to my earnest efforts that they are totally turned off by me.

EDIT: I am well aware that I will need money in the long run to compensate for my severe deficencies. However I cannot realistically expect to be making a decent living til five or six years from now. I want to get laid now while im still working my way up.

Answer 1

Don't look within your age range for a girlfriend. Older women are much more mature and would value the things you can offer. Looks aren't everything but to 19 yr old girls- it is.

Answer 2

Oh no,son...don't talk like that.No you are not pathetic.You are just being a little impatient.I know it is useless to talk like this to teenagers(because they r very impatient and want quick results and get put off very easily),but I assure you little boy...before your time is up,u will have laid more girls than u could remember...because u have youth,u have the whole world in front of u..believe me when I tell u that u can do what u want..u just have to be persistent.U won't develop a long term relationship if u talk like this....u say u wanna get laid now...sorry dude...girls r not sitting out there waiting for someone like me and u to come and lay them....
Sorry for the lecture...an old man can't resist it.I bet these things will help immensely.....
(1)Start waitlifting.There is nothing a girl loves more than a great body.No,u don't have to be Mr Muscles...only enough to create a few bumps in your shirt.
(2)Learn to play the guitar...it is one of the best ways to impress people of your age.
(3)Pay a lot of attention to your studies....although guys mock the intelligent students of their class,the girls love em(if they r not braggarts or the like)
(4)If u really r eloquent and can make good face to face conversations,then that is your best asset...keep it up.
(5)Buy a car...I know u don't have the money now cuz u r a student,but that is a great component in laying a girl...start working part time in a fast food restaurant,gas station,grocery store or whereever u can and start saving.I know it is difficult son..but u can do it..and the result is guaranteed!
If u do these things,I guarantee that u will lay a girl within the first few weeks...or in a couple of months at most.

Answer 3

You don't need looks or money altho you may not have low self esteem you may give off that aura to women which may be why they are turned off. In the top of the question you say your stupid but further down you say your smart and articulate which is it? even a pathetic guy can get a woman your just probably not doing something or a lot of things right. Women seem to want money but that is because the money brings security from money problems

Answer 4

the ugly thing is pretty hard to fix but anyone can fake an interesting personality and intelligence. learn some really funny jokes or stories. when people talk to you be really attentive and reciprocate in the conversation. and to make yourself look smarter use big words. not overly long ones that sound out of place but ones that are a little bit above your normal vocabulary. an example of this is instead of saying "i hate how its been raining this whole week" say "this weather has been abysmal lately" also supplement your new found intelligence with a snappy looking wardrobe. i said snappy not expensive. some inexpensive dress shirts and sweaters can be bought at target or marshall's or even kmart. a nice personality, snappy clothes, and a great conversation can easily put any girl into bed if used correctly.

Answer 5

As long as you maintain that attitude about yourself you will probably continue to strike out. However, if you spend some time looking around you, just studying people for a while, you will notice that people of all shapes and sizes, all levels of intellegence and scores in the looks department have found partners in life. Go to the mall and watch for a while and you will see this. Perhaps this will give you so hope. And if you send off a signal of hope rather than hopelessness yoou might have a better chance of meeting your match.

Also, join some groups of like minded people. What are you interested in? There must be topics or groups that you find interesting? Hang out wit people that you have things in common with. Hone up on your communication skills. Take a toastmasters course or something like that to improve your confidence in talking to people.

if you are out there having fun iinstead of just looking to get laid it will come across and you are more likely to meet the girl of your dreams.

Answer 6

you sound like you have low self-esteem. and you're not being realistic. my sister says the same exact thing about herself - that she's stupid and such, and she's not depressive, she's just realistic, etc etc etc. so i'm going to tell you the same thing i tell her:

YOU ARE A GOOD PERSON!!! don't get so discouraged so easily! nothing worth waiting for comes easily, and you will soon find a girl who has been worth waiting for! so what if a few things go badly in your conversations with girls? that's no reason to give up! you've got a lot going for you, you've just go to remember that when something goes badly for you.

and if your goal is to get laid now, then you're setting your sights on the wrong prize and nothing's going to happen for you. look for a relationship, not for sex.

Answer 7

Man' you need some confidence in yourself. Look around' See how many totally stupid men that don't even have a job that are plain pug ugly and have very good looking girl friends. I've noticed it' If they can do it you can. You have to believe in your self. You have to make up your mind that you are just as good as any other and what ever they can do you can to. Make up your mind that nothing is going to whip you. If 1 turns you down move on to the next. Don't be afraid to talk to them. (Women) When women see that you have enough non cocky confidence in yourself they will be attracted to you.

Answer 8

I can't really add anything, except for this....I can't tell you how many of the girls who would used to not give me the time of day, are now wishing they had. I was late bloomer. Those girls (now, some of them are grandmothers) have told me on several occasions that they really messed up by judging their dates by looks, rather than by quality. In short, what I'm trying to tell you is to just be patient. It'll happen.

Answer 9

Yes ... I agree start by buying escorts at least you will get your sexual frustrations out of the way ... and seek uglier women! Unfortunately the uglier they are the less likely they are to put out, unless they are fat and were hot at one time in the distant past ...

As for older women ... that is difficult most women want guys older then them!


P.S. as for making a good living ... you will be lucky if you can make one in five or six years ... try never ... sometimes you never make a good living and college does not help ... I have a M.P.A. (it is like a M.B.A., put for the public sector) and I can't even get a job

Answer 10

man, there is a lady out there for every guy... just don't go looking for the young materialistic type of chics... I've been there and had that.. not fun anyway.. you don't want them. I ended up settling down with a country girl 15 years ago. She's a good wife, mother,... and I couldn't imagine being with anybody else.