Am i supposed to not continously look into people's eyes? I have noticed that people periodically will look away from me either at the ceiling, a diagonal, the floor etc. for no particular reason. Should I also break eye contact for no reason? Im not really sure how to is my problem. Do i just count to fifteen, look away for five seconds, and then look back at their eyes? I really dont care about how I interact with guys, but I am a 19 year old who still hasnt gotten laid so I want to make sure I am not creeping girls out by the way I act. Thanks!
2006-10-28
20:50:19
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kindadumbkindaugly
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Family & Relationships
➔ Singles & Dating
Response: WAIT if Im ugly I am not supposed to make eye contact!?!?!? I thought I was supposed to compensate for my ugliness by having confidence which is communicated through eye contact. I though staring at my feet would only make things worse given that I am ugly.
2006-10-28
21:06:23 ·
update #1
Edit: I should mention I have no friends and was homeschooled from 13-18 with no friends so Im really not sure how to talk to people.
2006-10-28
21:07:46 ·
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The fact that you are even asking this tells me that you are way to shy for your own good, and probably don't interact with people often enough. Don't obsess about eye contact! just try to get used to being comfortable in the presence of females, and don't worry about the rest.
Just don't go ogling the boobs or ***, ok? That creeps us out....
2006-10-28 20:52:55
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answered by Anonymous
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There is no set rule, but I would not do an overly long stare. It's makes a lot of women uncomfortable, especially if they are just getting to know you. But I wouldn't avoid eye contact either. Don't stare at your shoes or off to the side for too long. Hold her gaze when speaking directly to her. I think you'll know if she is feeling comfortable or uncomfortable by what she does with *her" eyes.
2006-10-29 02:59:37
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answered by fishtown_jimmy 3
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You should always try to keep eye contact. If you are just bullshitting I would say it's OK to look away once in a while. But If it's really important to you or the person you are talking with you need to keep eye contact. If you are hitting on someone ya keep eye contact.
2006-10-29 04:01:12
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answered by FAITH 1
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U arent a hypnotist by profession are u????
Just look as long as you feel comfortable and she doesnt start fidgeting!!
:-D You're supposed to have fun - dont treat this as a TASK!! Be confident, talk, laugh, joke... enjoy the time that you're spending with the girl!!
one tip: Try to the get the "getting laid" bit out of your mind while on the date, that'll just make u try harder- seem desperate and make u less confident- just approach the girl as you would a regular friend and just concentrate on the FUN bits - trust me it'll be great!!
have fun!!!! :-)
2006-10-29 04:01:48
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answered by KayDee 2
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I don't think there's a set time limit or anything.You probably would wanna break away somewhat to avoid looking like your staring the girl down.But if your continually looking away and at other stuff the girl might also think your not interested.There's a balance to it,i'm not sure how you'd to explain it to you.Just don't hold her gaze so long that you creep her out and look like your staring at her.
2006-10-29 02:56:38
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answered by Anonymous
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You need to relax. Trying to hold a gaze too long will look creepy and as if you're staring, but looking away all the time will make you appear distrustful, suspicious or nervous. Why don't you rely on your instincts and look in her eyes as long is as comfortable?
2006-10-29 02:54:30
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answered by claire o 2
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Eye contact is alway essential for communication. It shows that you are confident and honest.
2006-10-29 02:52:32
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answered by Anonymous
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If you are ugly, don't make eye contact.
2006-10-29 04:01:27
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answered by ? 6
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dont worry just look into their eyes although it'll take forever.you'll know their sincerety by doing this.try it.i've done it
2006-10-29 02:58:02
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answered by neal 1
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constant eyecontact is very important
2006-10-29 04:08:50
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answered by acid tongue 7
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