ive asked alot of questions on this web about getting over my ex. well not i need to know how do i find peace in my heart again. i hate the ground this bastrd walks on. i use to be one of the sweetest girls anyone could know until i met that devil and now im an evil btch. i want my old self back. its eating my spirit and my soul. i hate him so much you really cant imagine how much poison i have inside of me. please help. how can i forgive that devil and move on with peace. and begin to love another person one day who is worthy.
2006-10-28 20:32:41 · 16 answers · asked by eaglestraces123 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well I can tell you that you shouldn't hate him because yes, it will only make you bitter. Just think about it. I don't know what he did to you but I can tell you what my boyfriend did to me.
He cheated on me, beat me, burned me, lied to me, stole money from me, used drugs with my money, emotional abused me, treated me like crap. And i have become this bitter angry b***** just like you. Although i understand why he is the way he is, he is mentally ill. He has improved dramatically and admits to his flaws. He knows he was terrible to me and so I realized that I need to stop living in the past. However, don't forget, just try and forgive.
2006-10-28 20:43:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to work through your anger at him.Hating someone takes a lot out of you.You can still detest him and intensely dilike him,otherwise you need to find it in your heart to forgive him for whatever he's done and let it go.Or it will eat you up inside.By the way you hating him isn't hurting him one bit.He's probably moved on already and your wasting energy on him that he's not even worth...It's hurting you,thats why you have to forgive and let it go.It's not for him its for you.For your well being,work through your anger.You'll feel much better afterwards.I should know i've been their and done that.It's a step by step process.Do you have someone you sould talk to about this???Do you keep a journal?If so maybe you should write and get all that anger out of you.You need an outlet for it.Don't keep letting this ex boyfriend have power over you.You do realize thats what your doing?He's not important anymore,so please get an outlet to let go of this hate and move on cause the man's NOT WORTH IT!!!!!!!!
Ohh and your not an evil ***** your just bitter right now,it will get better.It might take some time,but eventually you'll work through it.
2006-10-28 20:44:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate is a very powerful emotion. It draws on your energy and takes away your innocence. The only way to move on is to find some acceptance with the past. You can not forgive unless you accept that you can't change him or the past. It may make you feel better to see justice served (such as him burning in hell); however, you have allowed him to torment you once again by this hatred you have for him. Furthermore, you are cheating yourself from love you deserve by pushing away potentially good partners. Finally, you are dwelling on the past; therefore, you are still living your life with him. You are still mentally with him even if he is not physically present. If he did abuse you, you may need therapy to address the problem as this may be deeply rooted in your subconsciousness.
On a personal note, I was with a man who did not treat me well at all either. I could have hated him to the point where my desire for men is nonexistence, but I let it go. He hurt me very badly. If I did not move on and accept that I can't change the past or him, I would not have been married to my husband of 7 years with our two sons. Meeting someone who is so respectful and kind is a breath of fresh air because my past experience with men have not been favorable.
2006-10-28 20:43:45 · answer #3 · answered by Ana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's good to see that at least you know what you have to do: forgive him! When I have trouble forgiving someone, it helps me to reflect on how very, very far I am from being perfect myself. I slip up and probably make more than my share of mistakes and dumb moves. Now if I hold grudges and resentments, and refuse to forgive others, how can I ask anyone to forgive me?
By the way, you're not an evil *****, or you wouldn't be asking this question. Blessings to you, sweetie.
2006-10-28 20:50:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya know I went through the same thing about 6 months ago. After my boyfriend and I broke up I swore that I wanted him to burn alive in a firey crash. But that kinda hate isn't who I am. So I came to the conclusion that by me hating him so much that was still giving him more power over my life than he is worth. By me feeling this way about him, he was still able to cause me to compromise who I really am (a sweetie). I wasn't willing to give him anymore of me, even if it was hate. Hate is powerful and draining. You first want to forgive yourself. I had to forgive myself for so many things regarding him especially looking past the signs that he was a looser! Once you forgive yourself, forgiving him will be easy. It's like a chain reaction, you let go of the hate and anger, forgive yourself for the misjudgement and mistakes, you'll forgive him and then whomever is for you will find you.
Trust me I know! Good luck!
2006-10-28 20:42:06 · answer #5 · answered by Ronka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The good news is you are totally aware of what you have become. You gotta know he is not worth it. If you continue to be the way you are, you are not going to meet someone nice. I truly believe your negative vibes will keep the good guys away from you, and you don't want that.
You must believe he will pay the price for what he has done to you and try and find some peace within yourself. I know its not easy but keep reminding yourself that you need to be positive, for your own sake.
2006-10-28 20:37:30 · answer #6 · answered by Silli_Babe 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-05 08:19:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've got a quote for you:
Always forgive your enemies; nothing annoys them so much.
Oscar Wilde
Good luck moving on. Forgive yourself for your mistakes and be patient.
2006-10-28 20:37:21 · answer #8 · answered by Robert B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go do something u used to do before him like disneyland! time will pass and feelings will leave.
wow that last sentence "love another person one day who is worthy" is that supposed to show you want a nice guy or are you trying to say you are too good for most guys?
2006-10-28 20:36:07 · answer #9 · answered by RichUnclePennybags 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hate is an emotion that stems from hurt. You are gonna be hurt alot during your life and if you take everything that happens so seriously you just setting yourself up for disaster. and if you continue to be angry you are just letting him rule yor life. you obviously didn't want it to end or you wouldn't be mad but obviously he wasn't the one for you so why agonize over him when there are so many other fish in the sea
2006-10-28 20:40:29 · answer #10 · answered by jnp3577 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋