relationship that i wanted to wait...and he says i act to freaky he didnt know he would be getting into someone who wanted to wait and he says he wants to marry me in the future and stuff but it will be to hard for him to be around me and not be able to do anything...i dont want to give him any form of sex...i want to do it just so he can realize that im a good female..im not like these other ones you can have sex with and throw out im the wifey type...by the time we have sex i want to make sure were not breaking up anytime soon....should i leave him if he wont wait?should i compromise? what should i do?
2006-10-28 19:50:50 · 35 answers · asked by gdgg g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
u should post the video on the internet if u do.. but if u dont have a camera,, wait 6 months or w/e u have a camera b4 u have sex with him
2006-10-28 19:52:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
My boyfriend and I have been together for over 2 years now and we have never had sex. It's not like we don't want to, but we want to wait until I feel comfortable with having sex and right now I don't. I think we will for sure get married, but I don't want to take any chances getting pregnant while I'm still in college. I think that you should wait to have sex with him until you know for sure that you love him with all your heart and he feels the same about you. If you are not sure if you will last or not, I don't recommend having sex with him. Because when the next guy comes along he may be skeptical on dating you if you have been sexually active with other guys. Sex is totally up to you though, he should never push you into it. You are worth so much more than pleasuring a man and I think it is really brave of you to stand up for what you want to do with your body. If he won't wait, you should leave him. Don't let him tell you that you aren't good enough if you dont have sex. Women should be treated as princesses and if a guy isn't willing to respect you than he should hit the road!
2006-10-28 20:03:53 · answer #2 · answered by Alisha D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what you're doin is right. But don't subject yourself to giving him a time limit. What if in 6 months you do have sex then he dumps u? So u'll never know what the future holds. But within a few months you can roughly know the type he is and know if u want to be with him. Guys usually start shagging the walls if they dont have sex for sometime. So wait about 2-3 months, get to know him and see if he's suitable enough then slowly get intimate. If he shows u he loves u more than he loves sex (so meaning ALOT) then he's worth it enough. Good luck
2006-10-28 19:57:09 · answer #3 · answered by Liz^24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever compromise your values! You obviously see your own worth if you can see the sense in waiting. If he says that he wants to marry you in the future, tell him that because he loves you so much and is willing to spend the rest of his life with you, he should have no problem waiting for sex--after all, what's a little waiting when you can get it the rest of your life?
P.S. Don't ever have sex unless you really want to and know that he is the one. I didn't wait, and I have always regretted it. Stay strong!
2006-10-28 20:02:35 · answer #4 · answered by MissMiso 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why him? So he wants to have sex and not love?
I will say don't do it for the sake of yielding to him. You consider what your value is. You consider what is the virginity means to you.
He is not your husband and he has not signed any contract to gurantee to marry you. So, let's put it this way, six months ago, if you know he demand sex after short time being with you. Will you start this relationship ?
Does he wants a long term relationship or a woman for sex ?
Tell him you want a long term relationship that leads to marriage and then sex. If there is further differences, I think you should consider separation and find someone else.
2006-10-28 19:58:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to have sex with anyone you don't want to, not for fun, not to be "normal," and not to keep him if he wouldn't stay otherwise.
But, and this is a big but, you can't expect someone to stay with you in a "relationship" where sex isn't the natural response to lust, and various reasons why you love him, because you've decided not to have sex until you get a commitment. You shouldn't be in a "relationship" now. You're just teasing people, stringing them along, and hurting them.
He's right that from the beginning you should've made it clear you don't want to get serious, plan to date other guys, go out when you want, and live alone, with no commitment or sex.
And once your declaration is made, you have to be constantly on guard that someone might be so in lust with you that he will offer that commitment just to get in your pants, and your wedding night will be the last real interest he has in you, although he might play along for a while.
2006-10-28 20:02:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-03 01:56:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This relationship is headed in the wrong direction already . My advice dont have sex until your married. The whole sex in 6 months dumb. Ok you guys break up in six months latter.If you stay at this rate thats a guy every year. Wait until your married. If your christian that should be your attitude
2006-10-28 19:55:30 · answer #8 · answered by kalik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one should pressure you into having sex period. If he says he wants to marry you in the future then he should be willing to wait until you are ready and if he can't then he does not respect you. I think you should really talk it over with him and if he can't compromise then let him know the relationship won't work.
2006-10-28 19:54:38 · answer #9 · answered by ravendark_82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're looking for a husband - you're going to end up broken hearted with this guy. Do you really think that a guy who is pressuring you like this will marry you? 6 months is not a long time to wait. He's saying that you're not worth waiting for. That's pathetic on his part. You're a woman - you have nothing to prove. You're emotionally stronger than him and you can deal with this. Do you see that he's devaluing you as a woman and a human being by acting like you have to prove how "good" you are? Real love is so much more than how good you are in bed. In fact, if you're the wifey type - marriage is something this guy is too immature for - he may never be ready and you're only going to hurt yourself by trying to get a commitment out of a guy by having sex with him prior to a commitment. If you compromise - he wins - he gets what he wants and no commitment - that's what he really wants after all. You're so much better than this - don't stoop to his level. Do you want to marry a guy who doesn't think you're worth waiting for? Someone where you'll always be trying to prove yourself to him and win him over? You need a guy who is going to respect you and be trying to win you over by finding out what is important to you and respecting that. Now, I'm a bit extreme - but I met so many guys like this when I was single. One day, I said - this way of life is insane and I'm not going to find a guy who will respect me enough to have a good marriage with this way - so I decided that I wasn't going to even kiss another man until I was at the altar after saying I do. Kind of crazy??? Well, I did it - and the trust we have is very strong, I found a guy who respects me for more than what I can do in bed. He loves me for my heart too. There were no challenges in bed or anything like that - in fact - it's amazing and so fulfilling. If you really want to find a guy worth marrying - put them to the test. If they are a jerk - they will think you're a prude or not want to hang around you knowing they can't get what they want or thinking you must be a cold fish or damaged in some way to deny them before a commitment. I mean, it's a great way to weed out all of the jerks who come across your path and find someone who is worth your time. Well, it worked for me!!!
2006-10-28 20:03:20 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a selfish person who doesn't care about you, he's only interested in himself. If he honestly cared about you or respected you he would accept your decision to wait. I say dump him and don't compromise yourself for that type of a person. If you wait you will find someone who will appreciate you and honor your request. This way your first sexual encounter will be something that you can remember as a cherished memory and not an awful regret.
2006-10-28 20:01:12 · answer #11 · answered by BetteBoop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋