i m doing engg.,3rd year.im going around with my boyfriend since we were in school.
now we are in same class in coll.Its still 2 yrs left before my engg. gets completed,n then i have plans to give GRE n study MS in the US,n so does he.
my mom wants me to stop seeing him right now,n then think about him later......after i get a decent job.
its hard for me to leave him.....
n i dont wanna let my mother down.
what am i to do?plz help!!!
2006-10-28 19:40:30 · 23 answers · asked by ankita v 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ur mom must be thinking that going out with him will destruct ur focus on studies, and u have lots of plans about ur study, and she is telling u than u can meet his after getting settled, from ur end also talk to him explain him what ur mom thinks so, reduce hanging out any ways u meet him daily in ur classes. U have to do balancing in such way they both ur bf and mom remains happy.
2006-10-29 01:49:40 · answer #1 · answered by slimshady3in 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear as a parent I understand your mom's point but I must say that she is wrong in this issue. She wants the best for you and loves you very much, however this is your life not hers. I would advice you the following:
1) Try to have an adult talk with her and tell her calmly that you are a young adult and capable of making your own decisions, that you understand and are grateful that she cares so much about you and wants the best for you but her ruling will cause you great pain.
2) If that doesn't work then try to negotiate, tell her that your grades will not suffer one bit and you will work very hard to make sure of this and if it does then you will put your relationship on hold. It is very important that you go thru with this because if you fail then you will have no other recourse than to end the relationship or sneak around to keep it.
3) If that doesn't work then make sure she thinks is over and you did what she wanted but still see your love. Just make sure you don't get caught cause then you will pay dearly.
Hope this helps babe.
2006-10-28 19:54:28 · answer #2 · answered by ttepinzon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mother's there always looking out for there daughters =]
My mom does the SAME thing.
She tells me "I think you should just leave him , you don't need to be in a serious relationship at your age" Yea, I listen to what she has to say. I'll take her opinion into consideration, but I'm making my own dicition. My mom told once that she thinks I should leave my bf. She actually almost made me break up with him, then I realized...what I want? what do I think is right? Honest to god I didn't want to leave him, I love him with everything that I've got & so I did just that, I didn't leave him. Two years later & what do you know him & I are happy as ever. With my experience I say...Do what ever YOU think is right, because it's your life...not hers or any body elses...Alright...Good luck girl =]
2006-10-28 19:54:06 · answer #3 · answered by Savanna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't get it. You are in college, not high school and going boy crazy. The young man is in college also, both you and him tending to your school work. The both of you go to yr classes and do your homework,, and see each other too. What basis does yr mother have for saying what she's saying? Is the young man a hoodlum, takes drugs...... You are not saying enough. If everything seems to be fine, then I would say to your mother--I'll see him a little less, concentrate on my studies, graduate,---and then we can decide on our relationship.
2006-10-28 19:49:43 · answer #4 · answered by regwoman123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's a good relationship, I think your mom fails in her understanding of priorities. Putting a good relationship on a back burner for a good job now means you don't take the relationship seriously and you would put it on a backburner later too. Now if she were angry about sex outside of marriage or a bad relationship for some other reason, that would make sense. However, if you put it aside for a job now, there will be other reasons to put it aside later. If you were to put off a relationship with me to search for a job, the last words you might ever hear me say are "Good luck with your job."
2006-10-28 19:47:59 · answer #5 · answered by Robert B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mothers are a pain in the back side, poking their noses where they are least needed, but guess what, they may be a pain but they are right for the most part.
Your mother loves you and she does not want to see you Making mistakes in life. I believe she has nothing against your bf bt the timing girl, that's what your mother is think about and I couldn't agree with her more. See, true love waits.
2006-10-28 19:45:21 · answer #6 · answered by Trinity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring the subject up at a time where you can both discuss the situation in a rational manner. Let her express her views and then let her know what you feel about it. Maybe there is some way you can both reach a reasonable compromise that will end in a success.
2006-10-28 19:44:21 · answer #7 · answered by 3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is paying for your college and you need that, I suggest the three of you sit down together and discuss it. Maybe you and your boyfriend can agree to keep things responsible so she wont worry shes paying for all this education and then you end up pregnant and you drop out. She wants you to have a bright future thats all. Can you compromise with her? Maybe shes willing but until you try you wont know.
2006-10-28 19:45:01 · answer #8 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know where are you from and what kind of cultural background you are up against.
You have to ask yourself whether he is the right person to begin with. Are you commited to each other ?
Why not have all you three sit down and talk ? You are in your twenties, right ?! You can start think like an adult and have plans.
2006-10-28 19:44:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're 21 right? You should be able to keep handle both. You may need to spend more time on your studies, but you can work that out with him.
2006-10-28 19:44:00 · answer #10 · answered by nobluffzone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋