I have never had a girlfriend before, but last week, this girl asked me if I wanted to go out, so I said yes. I haven’t gone out with her yet, but she already starting to act weird. She keeps asking me to come to her place, so she can show me, (in her own words), "slutty" clothes.
Everyone in our school knows that she has had sex with many different people, and I have even overheard people saying that were already f***ing each other.
Some of my friends were telling me to dump her, because having a slutty girlfriend can be a turn-off to future girlfriends, is this true? And if it is, what should I do about this girl?
2006-10-28 19:14:05 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its not so much that its a turn-off to future girlfriends the issue that is important is how do you feel about this girl and whether or not you want to be involved with her.
So far, its sounds as if you are not comfortable around her so therefore, why date her.
You need to be with someone you feel comfortable and enjoy spending time with no matter what other people's opinions would be.
Being that you are still in school, it is concerning that you are with someone that has developed quite a negative reputation and the fact that she wants to show you "things" somewhat ads truth to this reputation. Sometimes young girls confuse sex with love and feel that they have to sleep around to have boys like them thus, they develop a rep.
What you can do is get to know her as a person. You don't have to date her. You can invite her to hang out with you and your friends and go bowling, movies, etc. just let her know for now you want to be friends so that you can get to know her better before you start to date her.
2006-10-28 19:29:41 · answer #1 · answered by m_harvery 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never judge a book by its cover....well you can, but that's too complicated to explain...in this case, at least get to know her before you believe the stupid rumors of others....people for some reason are just naturally cruel to certain people because they act different, so personally i'd legitimize these statements before assuming the worst.
Yea she said come over to check out my slutty clothes....i mean at least she has a sense of humor? May not be your kind of humor but to each their own. PERSONALLY whether she was or not, if i get to see a girl in slutty clothes, i don't think i'd mind it too much. You ain't having sex your just....spectating...what's wrong with that?
On the decent side, she could just be kidding....so again, go over, get to know her, find out if it's true all these allegations, or just the fact everyone's been drinking their haterade in excess.
2006-10-28 19:32:35 · answer #2 · answered by Dennis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what you want to do i'd say keep going out with her obviously since you havn't done anything with her yet and people are saying you did have sex maybe the other guys havn't done anything(or not as much as evreyone thinks) with her too? I guess one reason having a problem in the future would be worry about STD's shrug at least get the free slutty clothes show it should be fun LOL
2006-10-28 19:28:50 · answer #3 · answered by keoni_21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should break it off with her. Do not settle for the first "slut" to come around. I guarentee you that there is a really nice girl in your school that likes you, but is just kinda shy or hasnt got the courage to approach you yet, and if she sees you with the "slut" she is not gonna want you anymore. And think about it hun, you know the relationship with the slut is not going to last, and then you will have tarnished your image with her, then other girls will notlike you. On top of that you can get a sexually transmitted disease from the slut. Leave her alone. SHe sounds like really bad news.
2006-10-28 19:19:24 · answer #4 · answered by da_trump_queen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you have smart friends and that they are looking out for you. Thank them for their advice and take it. They are right. Maybe it makes you feel special to be treated this way but ask yourself "who else is she treating this way?" If she isn't just saving that talk for you, then she probably doesn't think of you as being any more important than all the other guys she is using. You can do whatever you want and I imagine some will disagree with me but if you want to have a relationship without being used, move on. You are more important than that and deserve to find someone who wants to please only you.
2006-10-28 19:26:18 · answer #5 · answered by ricks.girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her in a nice way that u have a girlgriend already and that is nasty 4 be a slutty girlfriend and there are 2 many std out here and that if she keeps on sleeping around she is going 2 catch some sexually transimmed diesase.
2006-10-28 19:21:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't go out with her at all, stay away from her, if she has done that before she could have a desiese or something. I would wait for the right girl to come around instead of going out with this girl
2006-10-28 19:23:28 · answer #7 · answered by FauxAffliction 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you havent even gone out with this girl and their is rumors around the school..this is not a good sign..imagine what would be around when you are with her months later...i think you should just tell her that you dont need a girl in you life at this moment....your first time in a relationsip is suppose to be special so u would always remember it as your first time...not a regret
2006-10-28 19:20:22 · answer #8 · answered by Mololina 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 06:50:14 · answer #9 · answered by rothi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right, having a slutty girlfriend is a turn-off to any woman.
2006-10-28 19:16:15 · answer #10 · answered by play3r 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋