I had been dating this girl for a few months when we got in a fight and she wanted to slow things down. Within a week she was working out and going running with another guy. I found out later that she was calling other guys and texting them. When I asked her about these guys if I should be worried about them she said she did not know. When we would hang out together after this she was constantly checking her watch and phone and leaving really early (we used to stay at each other house till at least 12,but she started to leave at 10)
2006-10-28 19:05:22 · 19 answers · asked by Mitch H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the language of relationships is very tricking
Dating can mean seeing other people also.
Slowing things down while dating can also mean I don't want to be serious I want to see other people.
To be clear on what is really happening is to ask her what is going on in our relationship. Ask her are we committed or do we have an open relationship where we can date other people.
If she says we are open, you are free to date as well. If she says we are committed then ask what is the deal with calling the other guys and let her know how this is upsetting you.
As far as running and working out, the other guy could be a personal trainer or just a really good friend that is a workout buddy. If they are together all the time it could be more but the only way to find out what is really going on is to ask her and come to an agreement on the terms of your relationship.
2006-10-29 01:16:19 · answer #1 · answered by m_harvery 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude, save yourself any more embarrassment and dump her. Just don't tell her why. Its best you leave them wondering why. Its the kind of thing that eats away at their subconscious. Sounds like you are not really officially together. If that is the case dumping her is not only unnecessary but might cause further embarrasment. If this is the case separate yourself from her. Do not take her calls, pretend you dont even know her.
2006-10-29 01:12:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Use a Little common sense-why is she not running with you-use your head you are on the right track just stay on it-she is not right for you if she is calling and texting other guys-when you asked her about these other guys and she said that she did not know a bell should have gone off in your head- YES,YES,YES-get rid of her-you know just because it look good don't mean that it is
2006-10-29 01:13:02 · answer #3 · answered by brown sugar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
buy her some really nice flowers, just a few roses
give them to her when she is around her girlfriends with a kiss on the cheek
tell her you were just passing through and wanted to see her pretty smile
make up some excuse before to tell her that you have only a few minutes to spend
hug her then say goodbye to her & wave to her friends
now wait & her friends will be on your side and if she still wants to split they will all be thinking of you as a nice guy
2006-10-29 01:20:34 · answer #4 · answered by mat s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your about to get dumped!
You should do some soul searching and think about the argument and how you might have handled it differently.
Then talk to her about it.
If she isn't willing to talk about it or you cant make her feel more attracted to you by showing her your willingness to change than cut your losses and move on, she already has!!
2006-10-29 01:20:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is looking for someone else.
You are her fall back guy.
You need to get real cool with this relationship.
She may change her tune if she thinks you will not put up with it or if one of her GF is interested.
Don't wear your heart on your sleeve with this one you will only get burned. A big CHILL is in order.
2006-10-29 01:35:02 · answer #6 · answered by Red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's pretty clear that she "had other things to do".
For some reason she kept u around, but changed the times you spent together.
No, your not wrong in thinking she was cheating.
2006-10-29 01:10:02 · answer #7 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you have doubt about the relationship, get out. You will never be happy with someone you cannot or do not trust.
2006-10-29 01:12:17 · answer #8 · answered by jo_cage 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Noooo...it sounds like you've pretty much nailed it! Time to start exploring new waters. She said "she didn't know"? Yikes....I think that's your answer. Go out & have fun...just do it with someone new! Good Luck!
2006-10-29 01:11:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋