well, as i stated im 13. and my boyfriend and i are incredibly klose. he understands me like no1 else duz...he's biin there for me thru thikk and thin...i have an abusive father...and we go thru a lotta tha same things. buh i've biin used and played before...a lotta guys like me b/c they like the wayy i look. and my "coke-bottle" shape...my boyfriends. likes to touch...a lot. i mean sumtimes it turns me on. buh sumtimes it sux. b/c all he wantsta do is get more of me...like we can't have a good conversation nemore...iono if he's turning out like all tha rest. or is he just being a guyy. or what? please help.
2006-10-28 18:56:35 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
DONT DO ANYTHING STUPID!!!!! if ur not redy then ur not redy. and if u say no and he gets mad or breks up, then hes not relly worth it. and the abusive father, i that sucs!! i am like totally on tears right now, but dont try to get ur feelings out by going "advanced" with ur man!! U will regret it for the rest of ur life!!!!! HANG IN THERE!! IM ROOTING FOR U!!
2006-11-03 15:48:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 18, and my boyfriend gets too touchy.
We just started going out, and I'm no frigid, ice queen, but he simply goes TOO fast.
You go through hell, I go through my own. He understands this, or is learning it very quickly, and supports me. He gives me strength when I need it.
If your relationship just started, guys are usually, not always, but usually very touchy and feely in the beginning. If you relationship is not that new, just tell him that you need more than what he wants all the time. NEED is very different from WANT. Get it?
Tell him that. He'll understand, from the info about him in your question, he will understand.
Guys know when to support their girlfriends. Sometimes, they misinterpret comforting, with being aroused or getting touchy. Just because you like to be held or cuddled, does NOT mean you want him to get more familiar with you at those times.
Also remember, you have to find your own source of strength at some or other time. God gives me all the strength I need. I've been single for six years. And I go through hell every single day. My own kind. Pray, please. Ask Him, God's the one guy that'll never break your heart, I promise.
Good luck.
2006-10-28 19:09:43 · answer #2 · answered by Nicole 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys being guys, means that they like girls and they DO want to touch them.....and more. That is a part of life.
On the other hand, it is your body and you should define the boundary of any physical relationship. If you do not want to touched or fondled or something to that effect, then just say no. Get up and move away, or just leave. Remember NO means NO!
You are only 13. Slow down. Love isn't all physical. Enjoy the innocent aspects of it. If your b/f does not understand then move on and dump him. It is not the end of the world. There are alot of interesting people in the world and you owe it to yourself to get out and meet some of them.
2006-10-28 19:05:22 · answer #3 · answered by submariner662 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your 13 be a kid slow down you will have plenty of time to play adult be a kid go to movies with girl Friends eat ice cream or what ever 13 yr old should be doing. Your dad if he is abusive call 911 tell a teacher!! Stop growing up to fast!! Good luck be a kid seriously.. Tell those boys you are to young and at age 13 I can tell you no one has been through thick and thin for you..
2006-10-28 19:04:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know that being 13 you have some raging hormones, but you have to think first! If he can't back off, then maybe he is only in it for the playing around. If he will back off when you ask him to, then make sure and take it slow. You will have the rest of your life to "fool around". Think about the consequences, do you really want a baby at 13?
2006-10-28 19:00:05 · answer #5 · answered by dcopsy3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's tough. I think that most guys well be excited about the way that you look. But you'll just have to be firm and set limitations, or try to find a guy that is nicer. If you got a guy who is kind of dorky, and an outcast, then he would be too shy to even dare to touch you. Plus, he may not be good looking, but he'd respect you. Good luck.
2006-10-28 19:03:37 · answer #6 · answered by TheSilverBeetles 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are too young. Think about your future. Stick to school work, study hard and get the hell out of there. Travel the world after University/College. Don't repeat history. Be brave and stay strong and go conquer the world.
2006-10-28 19:01:23 · answer #7 · answered by 100% TOP NOTCH 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well he may just being a guy but I think you should tell him to stop if he stars going to far... I have the same problem with that kind of thing if you don't tell him to stop then he gonna go for more. And that may not be very good. Tell him to stop as soon as you get uncomfortable.
2006-10-28 19:01:31 · answer #8 · answered by Skylar 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just being a guy is no excuse for making you uncomfortable. you have your entire life in front of you. if he does something you don't like, get rid of him. the great thing about being young is that you have lots of time to find someone you're really comfortable with. don't settle. find a guy you can talk to. if you're writing to us, you're clearly unhappy. don't let a guy make you feel that way. that's not love. someone that loves you cares about how YOU feel.
2006-10-28 19:03:29 · answer #9 · answered by nerdophile_k 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Izzy... stay away from "too touchy" boys right now... that's the only way. You will be all used up by the time you are 18.
Focus on your studies right now- ... later you can dump guys who are abusive anytime, if you can take care of yourself.
2006-10-28 19:01:47 · answer #10 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋