I've been with my boyfriend for a long time. Long enough to say that I know him very well and so does he. We basically know everything about each other and our relationship is very similar to a married couple's relationship. I love him so much that there is no doubt about it and I know for a fact he does too. Problem is that I seem to think about breaking up with him from time to time. He never thought of it but I do. I think about it whenever we have a fight. Also, I've been thinking about it lately because I feel like I don't get enough attention from him. I'd like him to call me randomly just to say hi like from when we first started dating and I'd like him to reduce the watching of porn. I just want to stop feeling so upset and I know he hasn't intentionally done anything to make me feel that way, i just think pessimisticly. Well I don't know what to do and i'm looking for some advice.
2006-10-28 18:54:21 · 14 answers · asked by Cecilia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Men are not mind readers, so you need to be honest and discuss your feelings with him. Tell him you'd like him to call you spontaneously just to say hi, to surprise you sometime with a silly little gift, to write you a love note now and then. As for the porn, well, the fact that it's considered "mainstream" by some fails to address the fact that yes, it destroys relationships, and most women hate it. Those women who say it's ok are out of touch with their own hard wiring. Porn objectifies women, so that men think of them as "things" and not as persons. Make it clear that you don't like it. If he truly loves you he will respect your feelings.
2006-10-28 19:27:33 · answer #1 · answered by ragged 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know some people think porn is okay...I'm not some people...If you don't know what JF stands for, then see if you can figure it out. Anyway, don't pretend things are fine when they're not. So many women think that finding someone is hard - it's not, trust me...There are a million great guys out there wanting to be with someone like you...If he's not paying attention to you and getting his kicks from other women, whether ona movie or internet or in person, it's all the same. You deserve attention and love...Sorry - time for no talking..Just say goodbye and see what HE does.
2006-10-29 01:02:11 · answer #2 · answered by JF 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you and how long is a long time? You both sound very young and immature. You thinking about breaking up after every argument and expecting to him to still act like he did in the early phase of the relationship shows your immaturity. His porn habit shows his. I think that it's time for the two of you to sit down together and talk with each other about you want from this relationship and go from there.
2006-10-29 01:20:08 · answer #3 · answered by BetteBoop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you 2 been together? the first thing you do is sit him down and talk to him.promise each other neither of you will say a word till the other is done. you say you know you're man, so if you do, and you think you will argue and break the promise, then write a letter to each other and go to separate rooms while you read them.answer them the same way.and who's to say cause hes the guy he has to be the one to add some spice to the relationship.Use youre imagination get wild plan something sexy. you know his likes and dislikes so do youre thing girl cause if you dont some other chick will be more than happy to snatch him from you and do all the sexy fun things you wont do.Good Luck Girlfriend!!!!!!
2006-10-29 01:08:08 · answer #4 · answered by free2lovebadboyz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you are the one with the problem, in fact he doesn't know how you feel until you speak up for yourself. The best thing for you to do is, tell him how you feel about you relationship because it is very important for the two of you to be aware of simple things that cause you apart. I'm sure he'll understand. Talk to him when hes in a good mood.....you go girl.....good luck
2006-10-29 01:02:24 · answer #5 · answered by Sovita P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well from my experience...when ur in a relationship for a long period of time with the same person....you stop looking forward to the same old thing..tell him how you feel and always tell him that you love him and also show it to him...i know how much it hurts when you want your love to call you just to say hi..not for a reason that involves giving or doing somthing for him....ask him if you guys can have a romantic time togeather...if your a beach person...go to the beach at night, sit on the sand..talk, listen to the waves..kiss...run around...enjoy eachother....hope it works...never take the chance to lose the one that you think would always be the one in your life
2006-10-29 01:05:31 · answer #6 · answered by Mololina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If his porn consumption is making you feel uncomfortable, and you have told him about this and asked him to stop, and he still continues to do so, how can you say he is not doing anything intentionally to make you feel bad? Go with your gut instinct and end it now, before you waste more time on someone who obviously does not think your feelings are important.
2006-10-29 01:58:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
looking at porn should not be an issue .. all men do .. as for him not giving you enough attention you should talk to him .. or better yet .. go out and have some fun with him
2006-10-29 01:56:50 · answer #8 · answered by ef f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch the porn with him.
2006-10-29 01:58:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to express your concerns....but remember...you 'can't' demand someone's attention....but you 'can' be honest. If you know each other as good as you say you do...you should be able to talk about things...
Hope this helps. :)
2006-10-29 01:03:32 · answer #10 · answered by Darrick U 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋