How Many? Im 20 years old. I dont work. ive got married 1 year ago. My husbands 21. He works. We own a big house. We pretty much have everything that we need. My husband earns over 50,000 dollars a year. Hes an architect, So money isnt a problem. We love eachother and feel the need for kids. We have been wanting a kid for the longest and now were ready. How many should we have.
2006-10-28 18:46:34 · 22 answers · asked by Irene 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
50,000 that sucks thats not a lote
2006-10-28 18:50:37 · answer #1 · answered by kate 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
2
2006-10-29 01:54:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will say you are young, why not spend a couple of years enjoying together. It serves several purpose.
It build up more time and relationship together. Spend a year or two more will hopefully help your bonding. Once you two are used to each other and the passion slows down. Your kids should be the new elements to your life.
If two years passed, and something is shaky between you two. Bringing in a new child is bad.
Also, raising kids is costly, save two more years is better than just now. Unless he is making 500K a year. Then I will say having as many as you want.
Normally, I will say two is a good number. 3 ain't bad but you may need a new car.
2006-10-29 01:53:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
2-3
2006-10-29 01:57:59 · answer #4 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As many as you want, but only if you can afford them. For the first year you are looking at over $1,000.00 in diapers and about that much in formula, so maybe you'll breastfeed, but if for some reason it doesn't work out you'll have to use formula. It is very expensive to have a kid because naturally you want the best for them. I have one kid and I am 22 and I think that is it for me. Maybe I'll change my mind later on, but even on a steady income its tough. So its up to you but remember it isn't over after the first year, theres food, clothes, school, health insurance, and jobs aren't guaranteed forever, and I'm not saying this will happen to you, but if for some reason it doesnt work out between you and your husband you want to be able to support yourself and kid(s) if need be.
2006-10-29 01:53:40 · answer #5 · answered by jennifer0208 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
$50,000.00 a year is not much. Especially if you want to have kids. I suggest you go to work for 4 years then quit your job and have one kid. You need some more "life experience" If you don't want to get a job, how about getting a collage degree in the next year in child development. That will help you be a better mom and believe me we need all the educated moms we can get out here.
2006-10-29 14:53:26 · answer #6 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it from a women who has three kids, i love them all but, i do regret not giving myself a chance to be a kid. so enjoy ur husband right now while you are young and have no obligations. he might be making money right now but what happens if tomarrow he doesnt ? and why does he want you pregnant so fast after being married for only a year is he trying to get you occupied so he can go out and play?there is enough baby mommas out there as is!
2006-10-29 02:19:30 · answer #7 · answered by duana360 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as many as you feel you can provide for emotionally, phisically and financially, children will dramatically change your lifestyle,the demand from both of you, time and attention-wise will equally be significant, and should weigh heavilly on your decicsion,just remember to be flexible,your learning you can change your mind, you may require more help from your spouse,than you initially thought,or less depending on your threshold for multi tasking.you have to learn what you as individuals are capable emotionally of handeling,you may want 4,then after your first you learn your limitations and decide on only 1 or 2,this must be lived to know, everyone is different,if you or your spouse require alot of "me" time this transition could be very difficult,not impossible,but we can't change who we are,the struggle will be to find the wisdom to make these choices,based on your own personal discoveries of yourself,and your capabillities to cope with adversity.you have to balance time for yourself and your marriage and your children and yor profession.the more kids the more you'll be ready to join cirque de solei as a second career when their all gone,as a world class juggler!
2006-10-29 01:06:49 · answer #8 · answered by charleybgoode 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hai !! Have a baby is not as easy as we think . U need to ask urself have u prepared to be settle down at home be a housewife who take care of children. U will loss ur private , romantic , freedom time for few yrs till your child grown up. Have u think of it ? For me , now i can't like previous go cinema , shopping with friends , pub , ...
2006-10-29 05:17:16 · answer #9 · answered by Vv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1.
2006-10-29 01:48:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I say 2 would be the best so that they will have each other at all times.
2006-10-29 01:37:08 · answer #11 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋