I'm in a really complicated dilemma here. OK i'm 13, and a junior in high school. ( i skipped 3 grades, no joke). of course, i'm not about to date just cuz my older friends are dating. i'm mature enough to understand that.
the problem is, i'll be 15 when i start college. and i am anxious because i'll have absolutely no experience!!! ahh! i'll be the only college freshman with 0 dating experience.
what should i do?
2006-10-28 17:51:14 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you have a lot more important things to be concerned about. You have a terrific future ahead of you, with such a fine academic mind.
The thing that concerns me is, your parents surely aren't going to let you go away to college at the age of 15, are they? I would hope that you will still be living at home when you go to college. So, why should your level of school have anything to do with your dating?
There are other places to meet people your own age.
Join clubs, churches, things like that. There are groups of home-schooled students who get together. That's who you should be socialing with... not people who are 3 years older, even though they are at your grade level in school.
Find people your own age, even if some of them aren't as smart as you are. You might be surprised to find that they are smart in other ways, and you could learn a lot from one another. Kids who aren't so great in school often know a lot about how things work, how to fix things like cars, and just general street smarts.
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2006-10-28 18:02:10 · answer #1 · answered by mia2kl2002 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't put so much pressure on yourself to start dating.
It sounds like you are doing very well in school, and that should be your focus now anyway.
Plus, when you get to college at age 15, it's not going to be a good idea to start dating older college guys at that age anyway.
Don't think that you will be the only college freshman with 0 dating experience. You are not the only one out there.
If I had to do things over again, I would have not started dating until later in my life. Like, once my schooling was finished, had a good job, and was ready to find the guy of my dreams.
2006-10-28 18:00:38 · answer #2 · answered by star22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live at home the first two years of college and just be a kid. DO NOT go to college and expect to be on your own and dating 18-22 year olds. It is too fast and too much pressure. After you get out of undergraduate, take two years off and work in Europe or something, come back and go to graduate school. You will be 21 and ready to have a good time with other kids your age. I was in a similar mess. Graduated when I was 16. I wanted to grow up and get the hell out of high school, but it was a big mistake not to take it slow and just be a kid. I missed out on a lot. And...college boys (and high school boys) are dufuses, idiots, and you have to be old enough to defend yourself. Be cautious.
2006-10-28 18:01:14 · answer #3 · answered by Oak18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are a very bright person. Why would you waste time worrying about "dating experience"? In some countries, people do not "date" at all. Their parents arrange a marriage for them to someone they have done research and determined would be a good fit. Traditionally, those countries have had fewer divorces than the USA where dating is an obsession for some (especially promoted by Hollywood).
You are better off to focus on your studies. After college you will be in a better position to deal with the social complexities of dating.
Good luck.
2006-10-28 18:04:47 · answer #4 · answered by Figure it out! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
At this rate, you will have your bachelor's degree when you are 18, and your master's before you turn 21.
Then you'll be stinking rich for your 21st birth day, and all the hot guys ten years older than you that are still working at McDonalds will want to sleep with you.
You're only 13, and whatever your hormones are telling you, the law's the same. Help keep some fine young gentlemen out of prison, and don't even worry about dating until you turn 18.
2006-10-28 18:03:31 · answer #5 · answered by ye_river_xiv 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweety I am the only College Graduate student with 0 dating Experience.
2006-10-28 17:53:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't feel pressured to start dating just because everyone else is doing it. and if you're 15 when you start college lack of dating experience is not the only thing that will set you apart from everyone else...
i skipped my senior year of high school and i'm a sophomore in college now and i have absolutely no dating experience and i don't care about it. it's not like i'm a virgin or anything but i just don't date...
2006-10-28 17:57:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it really depends and it's your own opinion of what to do. If you really want to continue to skip grades. I prefer you don't date. It happened when you skipped grades right? It's okay to not date in college because so many people are there and they probably won't recognize your every single day. My sister is in college and she doesn't even have a dating experience and she already skipped 2 grades! I'm not saying that you're stupid if you date, I'm putting in my own opinion of what to do. Maybe you want more time to do your homework besides going out?
2006-10-28 17:56:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm pretty sure you will not be the only college freshman without dating experience. Don't be so worried about dating; it will happen when it does.
2006-10-28 17:57:18 · answer #9 · answered by zesty4pie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, for a start, you will stop whining about not having any dating experience. You will study hard, get great grades, and find yourself a fantastic job. When you are older, you will have plenty of opportunities to meet men.
2006-10-28 17:54:11 · answer #10 · answered by Miss J 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋