why do adults think we're dumb...?

Question

all adults thinks teens dont know anything about, life, love, etc. sure, we arent old, but we have lived, we're 13+, why do you always act like we're such kids and cant know what love is? how come you never aknolege the fact that we can feel things just as strong as you...its so annoying!! you say we're such adults and can control oursleves and all that ****, but when it comes to relationships and love, you think we dont know anything...
you adults need to check reality cuz we do...we arent dumb, some of us know how love feels and know more about it than youd think and give us credit for...so i ask you this...why dont you believe us when we talk about love? why do you always think we know nothing?!
i think adults can be jerks sometimes...just saying!and asking...

Answer 1

you know nothing com paired to me, I'm 44. I have been down roads that you have never heard of. We adults don't think you are "dumb" What we mean is that we know more than you because we went through it and we messed up real bad too. That's the only way to learn. Don't be in a hurry to get here. Your mistakes make you wiser but they also leave scars.

Answer 2

I think our culture goes a little too far sometimes in what they deem protecting children which can mean anyone under 21. In America it hasnt been very long it wasnt this way...I'm 46 so I can remember a day when America was much more free for all people not just teens. I think it is hard for even me to understand some of the laws that have developed in the past twenty and even ten years...even less if you consider the freedoms we are losing since 911...but don't think that it is merely teens having problems with less freedom consider the fact that a 20 year old adult can die for his country...can have a family..even vote but can't drink an alcoholic beverage...its a hard thing to live under times when we have less freedom but soon it will be up to you to vote and make differences in the laws that affect this country....were counting on you to make a difference.

Answer 3

You're right that adults can be jerks, and I'll tell you why I think that is. We remember what it's like to feel so intensely. There's nothing like your first love. Here's the thing: We remember how strongly we felt and we remember all the mistakes and regrets that we have. We simply want to prevent you from making those same mistakes. Yes, you have to live, love and learn, but why go through heartache if you don't have to? Sometimes because we, or people close to us, have made those same mistakes, we're jerks to make sure you don't have to experience something that will take away that confidence you have in love.
I know that sounds preachy, just like an adult, but it really is how we feel and you'll probably feel the same way when you're an adult.
We know you're not dumb, it's the people around you we think are dumb.

Answer 4

Because you are dumb. There's two kinds of kids: smart ones, and dumb ones. You're a dumb one. Smart kids "aknolege" the fact that their brains aren't finished developing without saying a word, and they do so by respecting the opinion of trustworthy superiors like their parents and not thinking with their hormones like you do. You don't know what love is; you know what a strong attraction to someone else is. There's a difference. Love is a CHOICE, and until you're willing to make a commitment to someone for the REST OF YOUR LIFE, shut up about "love" because you're just furthering the stereotype that all teenagers are sex-crazed maniacs with no minds of their own, which is, by the way, true. What's sad is that there are even ADULTS who think so immaturely like you do, and that explains a lot about the present state of our society.

At any rate, shut up.

Answer 5

I'm 16, and I agree with most of the adults on this page. You see, we haven't had a whole lot of time to see what really works, and what doesn't. Plus, our hormones are raging, and we could just be feeling all the passionate feelings you described out of lust rather than love. Adults are more likely to be able to distinguish between those two particular factors in a relationship. This is why marrying at our age is a not so wise decision.

Answer 6

as a 22 year old I'm coming to realize how stupid I was when it came to my view on love. I know that when I was 11 I was in love with this guy, and to tell you the truth I still kinda have feelings for him(although I haven't seen him since age 11). However, I know that I 'loved' every guy I had a slight crush on, and thats why I think teens in love are stupid. Its not that we single you out, but we have been there and we know how stupid we were. I don't remember where I read this but did you know that only 5 % of teen relationships last? We know you have feelings, but we also know you are new at feeling these feelings. When you get older, you'll grow to hate a part of yourself cause you'll do the same thing.

Answer 7

We know you how you feel because remember, we were there before too!

I remember all those intense feelings, the situations surrounding the emotions are a bit different though, because there is a lot you are unaware of.
You literally don't think strait and don't understand your feelings because you don't have much information and experience to base them on or be able to make sense out of them.
So along with teens emotions is a lot of confusion.


But you will figure it out quickly, depending on how much "living" you want to do.

I suggest you don't. Trust me. Take it slow, relish in being a child, it goes so fast and then it's gone forever.
Most of your life will be spent being old.
Bummer, hah?

Answer 8

Adults were kids too but think that seniority rules in the wisdom department. Although adults do have more life experience I think that kid's are alot smarter and have access to much more info than the kids from a generation ago. Adults aren't dumb but either are kids...naive and new to many things sure....but not dumb!

Answer 9

I know how you feel trust me. I think there just trying to look out for us I mean say you like this boy and you thought you were in love and you ask this boy out and then you end up doing something you'll regret later and when you've done that something you find out you don't like that person as much as you did before all I'm trying to say is that teens don't really be in love I'll just call it puppy love because you've only liked that person for lets say a week and then you find out you don't like them anymore. That happens a lot in teens and maybe your parents experienced it before and there just trying to prevent you from doing the same mistake they did.

Answer 10

im sorry but not all adults are like that..
maybe the ones you liev with ...but not all adults..
it's just maybe the adults you are talkin about like ur mom and dad... cares about you a lot and wants to protect you but doesnt realize that you are growing up and that they need to start giving you space...
don't worry show them that you are mature...keep your grades up...and they will notice that you are capable of loving somoene...
I too fell in love young adn my mom wouldnt understand but i prooved her wrong...
the thing is that... some teens just think they are in love half of the time and ruin it for those who are really in love..like parents look at half of the teenagers out there and think they are ruining thier lives b/c each time they are with someone different and always saying they are in love...
so don't get pissed...is just that they care for you and it's worried you will get hurt...

I"m an adult and i understand where you are coming from...
Also they don't want you to suffer... b/c we all made mistake and we do too remember how it felt to be 13 or in our teens..so dont be soo hard on us adults..