What am I here for?

Question

I'm 14 and I don't know why I should be here in the world. I feel bored with my routines, my loneliness, and myself. I never say this to people around me, I don't wanna them to know it. I know it's wrong but sometimes I think about suicide. the world won't mourn my death and my family still have my sister and cousins. I feel I'm not worth enough to live... help me.. don't tell me about religious activities, I know what to do with that already, but it still doesn't help.

Answer 1

Life is wonderful. I know I am here for my relationships with God and his people.

You need to talk to an adult about your thoughts and feelings and see a doctor.

You probably have a chemical imbalance that can be fixed and make you feel better. You just have to let them try.

Call a suicide hotline if you need to.

Answer 2

I'm 15 and I didn't know why I was here. I was sick of being bored because I did the same thing every day. Woke up, did school, ate, did school, did homework, read and wrote and then slept way less than I should have and then started over again. I tried to kill myself. I didn't. I'm alive. It was a bad move on my part. I'm 15 and I still don't know why I'm here. I'm a Christian and the Bible says I'm here to Glorify God. Yeah, I know that's true but...still, it doesn't help. Maybe I'm here to change the world or maybe the entire purpose of my life—my pain and sadness and loneliness—is all just to make some little kid laugh when I'm 90 and handicapped. But I realized that I won't know unless I keep on living. Being dead won't help at all. Being alive is the only way to know.

Answer 3

We have all been where you are and that is normal. What you do with it is an individual thing. You are here for a reason or you would never have been created. You must understand that teen years are difficult because of all the changes to your body. The hormones are going crazy and therefore you sometimes feel crazy too.

How is your diet, do you eat healthy. Did you know that by not eating right, you can drag down your mood? Stay away from sugar and fatty foods. Eat veggies, lean meats, don't drink sodas. Do you get exercise daily? That is very important for your mood and physical well-being. Make some friends with kids in your neighborhood or at school. Find someone who will be a buddy to hike, ride bikes,etc.

In order for things to change, you need to make the first move. Make it a move in the right direction. Focus on what you enjoy. Concentrate on your school work. Find a hobby you can get into. If you are bored, it is because you aren't making the effort to not be. I know many kids who are involved in music, sports, church activities, etc. and are very happy. You can do the same. You just need to try.

Answer 4

You are here because there will be someone who's life you will make better. Just like I found your question online. I put the same question online today and it brought me here...to help you. I ask the same question you asked but the one difference in my life is that I know that tomorrow is not as bad as things are today. DO NOT KILL YOURSELF!!!!!!!! I once had thoughts like these when I was younger and then I came to a realization that today may seem bad, but tomorrow may be completely different. When I was in junior high, people bullied me because I was poor and did not have named brand clothes. You musn't live for the things others say today because tomorrow will change..this is why. Those same people went to high school with me, they became my good friends. When you are young you say and do foolish things to others without knowing why. Until you learn better, then you say I cannot treat others that way anymore. The same for you, today you are alone but tomorrow you will be surrounded by friends. Here is how...go volunteer. It doesn't have to be in a church. You can go help the homeless or go to a home for the retired and elderly. You may do volunteer work at a hospital. These things will enrich you and change your life. the feeling and the friendships you will have will reward you.
Have you ever had someone help you? Do you remember how good that felt? Trust me. Start doing good for others and the same will happen to you. If the church doesn't make you feel good, it may be the community. But if it doesn't make you feel better, there are other churchs out there. Go find the one that has a good, loving active community. That will make a difference. And by the way, this is what you were put here for and when someone asks you the question later in life, you should tell them how your life has improved.

Answer 5

SEX? Maybe! OK maybe not. Why are any of us here?

I know kinda how you feel.

Check this out.

I am bipolar. Was depresed alot before treatment. I just had open heart surgery Oct 4., I am short (5'4"), overweight (a little), somewhat of a geek, and I'm gay. Yea, I considered suicide. I thought about it often. But I just really didn't want to give up. To me giving up ment that all those people telling me how I was no good, how I couldn't do anything right, how wrong I was to be gay, well it ment they won. It ment they were right.

Suicide means everyone else wins and you loose.

I know you probably don't want to talk to a short, fat, depressed, old queer like me. But if you need someone to talk to, I'm willing to listen. I'll offer advice if you want it. But if you don't want to talk to me, please find someone to talk. A school counselor, teacher, your parents, a friends parent. Find some adult you can trust. I know that I don't know you, but it would hurt me so much to findout you did commit suicide. Believe me, things do get better when you get older and get the helpyou need to deal with what is going on.

Sincerely,
Terry
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PS: I come back from time to time to read other responses. There are a lot of people here that make sense. Some arre not as good as others at expressing it, but if you read closely and pay attention the messages are there. You are your biggest friend. You are also your biggest enemy. Please call one of the suicide hot lines. Especially check out Casper's message to you. It is important that you understand YOU ARE NOT ALONE. You're not alone in how you feel, think or react. Many people your age feel much the same. Many before you have felt it and many yet to comw will feel it. Buck up my young friend, your good life is only starting and you are in control of the path it takes.

Answer 6

Suicide is not the answer especially for a fourteen year old. You should be having fun with your friends not thinking about suicide.

I think that your mother should take you to see a Psychiatrist so that you may get on an antidepressant so that you won't feel so bad.

You still have your whole life ahead of you and suicide would be devastating to your parents whether you believe that right now or not.

You need to tell someone in your family how you feel so that they may get you some help.

Do it now!!!!! Good Luck and don't do anything stupid like kill yourself.

Answer 7

First and foremost don't do anything stupid. Suicide is a permanent solution to temporary problems.

Second, you will be sorely missed. And you will cause great pain to those who you leave behind. My best friend did himself in about 13 years ago and I still grieve.

As for the initial question of why are you here. Ask yourself Where did I come from? And where am I going?

I will not delve into religious themes other than promising you that God hears and answers prayers.

Back in '89 I was feeling much of what you are now. It will change.

Answer 8

You have a lot of insight and sound very mature for a 14 year old. With that being said, you are still 14 and 'm sure your parents and family is all over you with your schooling, grades, maybe even sports, telling you what to eat, what to wear and who to not hangout with. It seems as if you are about that age where most have to urge to create some unique identity for themselves. Possibly something that would be an anomoly for the family. This is good. It shows that you are maturing, growing and evovling. All I can really suggest to you is to move towards your aspirations and dreams. Concentrate on your positives and what you eventually want out of life. Growth doesnt come with age; Growth comes with wisdom, but with age comes wisdom.

Answer 9

That is a question that only you can answer. I am sympathetic towards you and your feelings since I always ask myself the same question. I too have thought about suicide but for very different reasons. I have to say that being a teenager is very hard in todays society but there are many many things out thee that you have yet to experience. Try to take it one day at a time, if this is too much then take it slower. Things do sometimes feel over whelming at times but that will pass! I too say the same thing about who wouldn't miss me but now I think about what I will miss instead. Maybe not those people that hurt me soo but the new ones I haven't even met yet and all the things I have yet to explore. Try writing down your feelings and if you feel creative try putting your words into poems. Maybe pick up a hobbie like jogging or swimming or something that you can really work at? You need to find a way to redirect, this is anything to keep your mind off of what is ailing you. Yes it can be very hard but it Does work! Maybe talk to your school psychologist about your thoughts? Sometimes they can help you figure out different ways of dealing with your problems. I assume I am here to help others in any way I can, whether it's by voulenterring or just making others laugh. Sometimes just putting a smile on someone elses face it helps me when I am down. Don't give up, you do have alot to look forward to, you just have to be patient and try to make good things happen. We cannot change others, although we all want to, but we can take steps to change our selves. One step at a time that's it. I look into my daughters eyes and thank God or whom ever that I did not give up when I was a teen. You just never know what the future has in store for you. I sure didn't. Be safe and try to look for something positive even if it's about the weather or about your hair coming out nice. Anything is a start, good luck, don't give up, up have alot to look forward to.

Answer 10

i could tell you that life is good, be happy, smile, happiness is a choice and get over it. =D

But that doesn't help does it? You sound like me...I'm 14 and I don't know why I'm alive. I've attempted suicide once, but life has got better since then. My friends have no idea because they see me happy...and ONLY happy. =D I met this girl online, and I've been friends with her for over a year now, she's saved my life and I've saved hers. I'm alive because of her...because she cared. And even though I don't know you...and you probably won't believe it, but I'd care if you died because you don't deserve to die no matter how bad your past is. If I died, my friend would have died, because back then i was her only reason to live. And if she died I would have died because she was my only reason to live. I used to think I was the only one who felt the need to die, I used to think no one understood. But now I know that a lot of people are more depressed then they look because we all hide it, and no one ever really knows until its too late. So my point is, you're here, If NOTHING else, too help other people. Be one of those people who can brighten someones day, even when you can't brighten your own. Its worth it. Trust me?

Answer 11

The greatest thing about being alive is that you get to CHOOSE why you are here. There is no purpose except yours.
You get to decide who you want to be. you get to decide who you don't want to be. You get to decide. So decide. Obviously if your having suicidal thoughts you should see a therapist. And it isn't wrong to think about anything. Your thoughts aren't the real you anyway. Regardless is "no one mourned your death" ( and i think you know that's not true) Would you mourn the loss of your own life....the possibilities that await you? To die is a choice people make everyday...the living choose death regularly...little tiny deaths....giving up on you is the biggest tragedy of all..whether you are alive or dead.
You are worthy because you were born...you are worthy because you exist. You are worthy to the universe...You are worthy to me. What has happened to you in your life this far does not define you...You define you...You decide.
Live to fight another day...Live to become your dream. Live to become your true self...You are worthy of more than you could ever know or ever dream.
check this link for a suicide hot line ...http://suicidehotlines.com/
You are definitely worth it.