me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 years now.... things are starting to get bad we fight and everytime we try to solve things we end up getting into a huge fight NO MATTER WHAT.. its awful, also his family, mom and brothers, really dont have much respect for me, i try to be a perfect housewife and i feel very un appreciated and i feel like a used door mat.... i work full time at the #3busyiest store in canada, i come home and we fight, his job isnt great works 6 hours a day, all i ask for is a little r and r sometimes, we fight whether its over regular house chores, talking the dog for a walk or anything, and when we try to solve it ends up turning into a bigger mess... weve lived together for 4 years now and i think that its falling apart.. we have a house , a dog together and i almost want to end it but im scared to.... also he is very jealous over any guy who talks to me or i talk about even friends... he doesnt trust, but for 5 years he has me on a leash what can i do???
2006-10-28 17:36:07 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you are not married, you can leave. did you two purchase the house? if not you can leave. his family does not respect you and he does not care, you can leave. why stay somewhere when you can't even enjoy a sunrise when there is darkness around. get into the light and leave. good luck
2006-10-28 17:42:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard one. Why does his family disrespect you? Have you done something to lose their respect. Have either of yo cheated on the other? It is hard to answer without more details, but here goes.
Both of you need to have things outside of each other that you enjoy doing. Maybe you feel a little used since you work a lot and he doesn't and then he does not even help out around the house. I would be upset if I worked and came home to someone always sitting around and not helping out.
Also, he may feel less than a man b'c you have a better job than he does. Some men can't handle the fact that the woman brings home the money.
Try to talk and not argue, you both need to commit to making this work through communication.
2006-10-28 17:42:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the question is do you want to fix it or not. If you don't think that there is anything left to fix, then get out of the relationship. It sounds like to me that you to need to spend some time apart if you are fighting over things like walking the dog. Most men are jealous like that. I know my husband is and I have really learned to deal with it. Treat your boyfriend the same way. If it is meant to be and you really want to be together, then life and relationships have a way of working themselves out.
2006-10-28 17:41:45 · answer #3 · answered by BrandyB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe you need a little time apart to see if it is really love or just a comfort thing. If the only reason you stay is you are afraid of being alone. It is time you tried being alone, because hunny if you are doing all of that for him you will not be alone for long and may just enjoy the single life. If you are meant to be together you will be i do believe in the old saying if you love something set it free if it comes back it was meant to be. Le him try it on his own. And really what his family thinks does not matter at all. You know what you do and what is in your heart. Do this before you have a child together it will be much harder to try then. Better to be relaxed and happy alone than share your missery.
2006-10-28 17:43:22 · answer #4 · answered by Debbie W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok...I'm going to play armchair psychiatrist here...my first guess...he misses you. When you are around he wants to do things with you but you just want to relax. You have taken the main male preocupation in any relationship away from him...the bread winner. By no means quit your job...but what you are going to have to do is spend more QUALITY time with him. When you come home, instead of going into your regular routine...go to him...hug him...tell him you had a rough day and leave it at that. Cuddle for awhile...don't talk about work...the house...the dog....just hold him and let him know you are there. Ultimately you are going to have to change the mood of the evening. Don't let him go to sleep at night or get up in the morning without knowing that you love him...he's going to resist at first...but what you will find is that being close to him....that physical support and closeness will be even more relaxing.
2006-10-28 17:46:42 · answer #5 · answered by Rabbit Ritto 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THIS REALLY SOULD LIKE A SITUATION THAT MAY NEED
TO HAVE YOU TALK TO SOMEONE LIKE A COUNSELOR
BUT SINCE YOU BEEN TOGETHER FOR 5 YEARS AND
THAT HE DOES NOT APPRECAITE YOU OR ANY THING ELSE
WHY STAY . IT ABOUT RESPECT AND IT REALLY SOUND LIKE HE REALLY DOES NOT CARE ABOUT YOUR FEELING
AT ALL. SO GET COUNSELING BUT I WOULD START
LOOKING AT LEAVING THIS ALONG. IF HE HAS NOT
CHANGE IN FIVE YEARS. HE MAY NEVER CHANGE. ONLY
YOU CAN KEEP YOUR SELF ON THE LEASH AS YOU STATED. TIME TO GET OFF THE BAND WAGON.
2006-10-28 17:43:58 · answer #6 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all your not married, secondly you need to set a side a day and time that you all can get together and talk like to grown adults. like you both did when you all first met.last but not least go out again and have fun.
2006-10-28 17:49:16 · answer #7 · answered by sweet sexy san 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him and find someone that treats you right.
2006-10-28 17:46:55 · answer #8 · answered by h2gj87 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell u teh truth dump him... ahah jsut playing i dont know...
2006-10-28 17:40:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋