My teenage Daughter is pregnant?

Question

My Teenage is pregnant, droped from school, not married, looking for answers as how to handle this whole isue

Answer 1

well... there's not much you can do. how old is she?

your simply going to have to support her emotionally. she's going to need you even though i'm certain she thinks she won't. she's terrified right now. i guarantee you that. and she's so overwhelmed and probably even a bit embarrassed that school is not something she wants to deal with. obviously.

you need to encourage her to get back into school and get as much done as she can before the baby is born and she has that added responsibility. there are alternatives than the typical high school environment.

and something that i would make clear to her even now is that you will not be a built in babysitter once the baby has arrived. draw the lines clearly at what you are willing to help her with so she can make the appropriate arrangements. i would babysit while she attends school (unless you have to work, of course) but i would inform her that you won't be babysitting so she can go hang with friends, etc. she was old enough to think she could handle sex. she's old enough to handle the consequences thereof.

there are homes for pregnant teens. some of them are absolutely awesome. they will get her set up to manage all aspects of her and the babies life from nutritional to finances to workforce... finding housing... just everything. you might want to check into that too. they will make sure she gets her high school diploma.

good luck!

Answer 2

Okay first of all, to some of the people who say "I'm glad I had boys", you are stupid. These girls that DO get pregnant are probably getting pregnant by YOUR BOYS! It takes 2 to make a baby, so I know these girls aren't crawling on top of themselves to do it. But back to the question, my advice to you is to talk to your daughter and find out if she knows how to handle the situation. Who is the father? Does he know? What about child support? As one of the other answerers said, let her know that this is HER child and she needs to care for it if she plans to keep it. But do give her a little breathing room and keep the baby for an hour or so just to let her have some down time. All parents need that regardless of age. Also let her know that she can come to you for whatever reason. She is a teenager and probably very scared at the moment. She will need some help. And as one of the other people said, maybe look into the Homes for Pregnant Girls. I wish you and your daughter and the rest of your family luck. And always remember to take one day at a time. GOD BLESS!

Answer 3

Listen, don't spasm out! I hope you aren't trolling, cuz this is serious. What do you think her 'mistake' was: unprotected sex? sex? Her wanting to raise the baby? Try to think of why YOU are upset about the situation & 'ready up'. Cuz this is probably why hubby will be upset. Like 'Amanda' said: There is Crisis Pregnancy Center that will help with a crib, formula, etc. There is also WIC will help with food for the pregnant mother & then the child once it's born. WIC is a gov. subsidised program, available in all areas. Make sure to get your daughter to the doc's ASAP, b/c the growing baby needs the pre-natal vitamins to grow properly & she needs the education on how to care for the baby while in utero. There is also programs for new mothers about how to care for an infant. Also, make sure the father of said baby is included in the baby's life. Everyone here ASSUMES the father will not be interested in the upbringing of this baby, but I bet you 50:1 that he will want to be involved in a BIG way. The world has changed since you were 17 & had your child. Males are more family -oriented. I wish you & the upcoming new parents well. It's not the end of the world for any one.

Answer 4

There is no easy answer of quick fix for this one, don't know your thoughts on being a grandmother at this stage of your life but if she has the child and keeps the child the responsibility of raising this child will fall on you. Your daughter sounds like she needs guidance with a firm hand and a loving heart. Easy to say I know but not so easy to enforce especially if there have not been a lot of boundaries to date. The not married issue is not something to turn yourself inside out over but her age and lack of schooling is. She probably doesn't see this teenage pregnancy as any big deal, likely has other friends that have or are going through it, so after she has had the child she needs to understand the responsibilities of being a parent. No one should be picking up the slack for her. Two word answer, tough love.

Answer 5

This cannot be easy on your daughter, as im sure it wasnt planned, she would be going through hell at the moment, realising the life changing event that is about to take place. A girls mother is one of the most important people in their lives, I know my mother is everything to me and without her i would be lost. She will be wanting you for support, love and comfort, she may push you away at the start or she may not, but respect her and her decision and be there with love and support.
I know that you may be disapointed and upset with what she has done, but the only way to deal with this is to accept it, move on, and be there for her. This can be an exciting new adventure, and look at the positive side you are going to be a grandmother, and im sure this child is going to be very much loved.
Being at school wont be easy for your daughter, so dropping out may be the best thing. There is always programs that she can go through to get her education and a job.
She doesnt have to be married, single mothers are often just as good as marreid couples, as long as the child is loved and cared for i dont believe it matters if they have one or two parents.

Good luck!

Answer 6

Well, first off, get in contact with the school, and arrange for an alternative method of educating her. She does not need to drop out all together, and, she needs something that will structure her day, and keep her mind occupied. I know that some districts provide tutoring, or special classes. You need to have a heart to heart on a daily basis with your daughter, as she decides what she is going to do from here. You need to also get in contact with the baby's father's family, and start opening up the communications between the two families. You might also wish to engage the help/support of the local social service department, who can assist you with programs, insurance options, clinics, supplements, etc. You need to become very close to your daughter, so that she knows, regardless of the outcome, that she is first and foremost, your daughter, and her interests are your interests. Best wishes.

Answer 7

give her mental support and dont make her think she is a bad person.I hope you will help her raise the baby or help her make a really informed decisions about adoption etc. getting married doesnt really help a teenager ,she isnt ready for married life or the baby ,one thing at a time. Now they have school where the girls can go to school part of the day,take baby with her to the onsite day care,they will also give her prenatal advise and she wont be the only one in the room who is pregnant. Make sure the boys parents know and make darned sure he helps provide for the baby. she just has to finish school for her and the baby good luck

Answer 8

Ok........ first don't freak out. Worse things can happen. First things first. I had a baby at 17. Therefore, I know pretty good and well what I am talking about. Secondly, I don't know how old she is but get her back in school. Where I went to school we had what was called a pregnancy program. It was for girls in local counties who were pregnant to go to continue school. I live in WV so I'm sure they have something near you. If you don't want to be raising this baby yourself get her back in school. Then, you may ask her if she would be interested in talking with a psychologist or school counselor. This is a tough time for her too. And she will get alot of rude comments you would never think a person could say to another human being. Support her in all the choices that she makes. Its not your decision whether she keeps it or not so don't try to make it be. It is hers. Don't know whether the guy is around or not. If so, you may want to be talking with his parents see what their views are on the matter. Then, don't know how far along she is but, if not to far, make her get a job. She needs to understand babies are hard work and expensive. This isn't a game or a babysitting job. I would make it clear she is to continue school and you will help in anyway that you can. without school she will never make anything of herself. If you want to talk or want me to try to talk to her feel free to e-mail me. good luck and hang in there!!

Answer 9

I'm a new teen mom myself. Im not married, and pregnancy for someone young is difficult and lonesome. You need to let her know you support her, and be there for her. The worst thing you can do is make her feel worse than she already does.
One thing you can do is go out to lunch, sit down and talk to her about how she feels. In return you can tell her how you feel. This will bring a better understanding between the both of you. Maybe you can also try to convince her to take night school. Education is important, offer to babysit if she needs it. Being a single mom is going to be hard. Try not to criticize her aswell. She needs you right now. Also my mom told me she loves being a grandmother. Embrace this new baby with open arms and love every min. of it.

Answer 10

take this from a fellow teenager. Your daughter has some major problems. She needs to get her act together, stop what ever drugs she is using (this may involve you sending her to rehab). Let her have the baby, it will help her have some responsibility has far as staying sober for it and such. Keep an eye on her during this, you dont want the baby to get hurt now. Give the baby up for adoption, you can give the baby to a great loving couple, you can not have one of their own. Most likely the baby will be raised as their own and will grow up to have a normal life.

After the baby situation, now you need to straighten out your daughter. She needs to finish school, and you may want to send her to a different school to get her away from her friends and their bad influences.

Then hopefully she will be on the straight and narrow.