If ur dad keeps screwing up but u keep on 4giving him and he just keeps treating u bad and talkin about u bad then wat should u do. Bc im already sick of mine. he keeps screwing up and wen i stop talkin to him he keeps on talkin to me and telling me to 4give him wat should i do? Totally cut him off or keep giving him chances?
2006-10-28 17:11:39 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My dad is never there for me and he doesnt sapport me i live with my mother. My mom is not abusive and hes not the only one i have. But i start to feel bad for my dad bc hes acts before thinks and just acts dumb all the time. He always put me down by basicly callin me a hoe and sayin iim gonna b pregnate by the time im 16 and is gonna be fat and bummy like my mom. Always talks about my family too.
2006-10-28 17:23:00 · update #1
when you lose trust in someone it is very hard to give chances.
2006-10-28 17:13:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I would do is .. give him that one last chance. say Daddy I Love You and tell him how bad he makes you feel.. tell him if he keeps doing it you will cut him off. I know it will be hard but thats what you will probably need to do inorder to keep yourself happy. If he can't love and cherish his little girl.. just give up. You will find that man in your life (husband) down the road and you have your mom now. So just stay strong and good luck. *maybe he has some alcohol problems or depression problems?? maybe a counseler could also help?*
2006-10-28 18:52:00 · answer #2 · answered by Britni Gayle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always remember that u r here in this world because of him and ur mom. No matter how bad is the situation there seldom is a point of no return. Its better you talk with him frankly and tell him how bad its on u. And try to make him understand. Not talking is not a solution but rather the solution lies in talking and talking things that make sense to him. Good Luck!
2006-10-28 17:18:20 · answer #3 · answered by Rajat B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
man, that is about 4 years worth of therapy. how can anyone give you advice with so little detail? how is he screwing up? is he trying to be a concerned dad or a child molester? you left too much to the imagination. it is normal for a child to feel like their parents are over protective, not with it, out dated and too strict. the parents think they are just acting as concerned parents. for an outsider to make any judgments they would have to have a more complete picture. if you are mature enough you should go to your dad and tell him how you feel about his actions. that is how you feel not in an attacking manner or confrontational attitude. give him a chance to explain how he feels. i can't believe a parent would intentionally alienate one of their children on purpose or with intent. usually when a child feels a parent is being overbearing they mistake loving concern for parental interference with their lives. most parents want the best for their children and often do not know how to go about expressing that concern. often it is related to the way they were raised. have a heart to heart with your dad and keep in mind that he loves you and want the best for you. give him the benefit of the doubt just once and listen to what he has to say.
2006-10-28 17:23:49 · answer #4 · answered by handyman5218 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well we haven't heard the whole story. If he was really sorry he wouldn't keep treating you bad. He has a problem from the sounds of it. Don't take abuse. You have to think of yourself. . Please. Go to a close friend. Your dad needs help. Do this right away.
2006-10-28 17:20:17 · answer #5 · answered by susie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then learn a lesson early enough in life to never do that to your children. Take the good lessons as well as the bad lessons and apply them to your own life later on.
2006-10-28 17:30:37 · answer #6 · answered by ccrider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him exactly what he is or has done, exactly why you are hurt or mad. And exactly what you want from him. I learned this from my son, whose father was a total disappointment to him. When he was 22 he finally told his Dad what he had done to him all those years, and how it made him feel. He told me a weight had been lifted off his shoulder. Good luck to you, be strong, be loving, be sincere.
2006-10-28 17:16:30 · answer #7 · answered by doris_38133 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dads are a tuff thing to figure out. Mine can be so mad at me but when i need him he is always there. to your question, i guess it depends on what he is doing that he needs you to forgive him all the time. Just remember that he is your dad and will be forever. good luck.
2006-10-28 17:14:35 · answer #8 · answered by lovefireman05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dependes how long have u been forgiving him?if it has been 10 years or longer cut him off if it has been 9 years or yonger do not cut him offif udo cut him off pack ur bags before u cut him off or tell him before a date and then walk right out
2006-10-28 17:16:31 · answer #9 · answered by Lynnea M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on the situation. my mom is bad/abusive to me and how do i get another mom? only have 1 im still trying to figure that out, it sucks that the one who is supposed to love u hurts u iknow
2006-10-28 17:14:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know it's hard, just don't accept or believe what he says of you.
don't cut him off, cause that will hurt you bad in the end, but stand your ground and stand up for yourself when he talks to you like that. tell him straight up you don't like it, and that you aren't what he accuses you of being. tell him you are his daughter and deserve respect.
when you are ready and old enough, move out.
2006-10-28 21:12:03 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋