First off, ive been infatuated with this girl for 8 months. Ive tried forgetting her, dating others but always come back to thinking about her. She has a boyfriend, so i never made an official move.
Im at a stage where uni is about to end and i wont really see her for 4 months. We are very friendly, but not hanging out friends (only studying hanging)
When we talk we flirt, she flirts more than me, she always stares into my eyes when either of us talk, or brushes agaisnt me, or makes some physical contact. so i know she isnt repulsed by me ot anything and must be comfortable.
I need to tell her how i feel, even if nothing eventuates, but what do i say?
im planning on saying something like " I really like you but because you have a boyfriend I know your not interested. I don't want to come between u and him, I just wanted you to know how i felt about you, and even just as friends i would like to spend more time with you"
Does that sound ok? will she hate me for it?
2006-10-28 17:06:02 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think she would hate you for saying that. It sounds sweet and honest. It would probably be welcomed too. From what you write, it sounds like she has a little crush on you too, albeit she has a boyfriend.
2006-10-28 17:10:34 · answer #1 · answered by Jenny A_331 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm..well, the outcome of asking her that question would really depend on certain things, in my opinion.
Like, how long she had been with that boyfriend, and if she actually was really close to him. Also, for the flirting thing when you guys talk, some girls do that whenever they talk to certain people; so I'd consider if she's one who flirts more, or if she rarely does it and really is that comfortable around you.
Other that that, I'd have to say go for it..because there isn't really anything you can loose from asking.
Maybe instead of coming out and saying you really like her but she wouldn't be interested, you could just say that you'd want to spend more time with her than you guys normally do. That way, you can get to know eachother better, you could hang out outside of school for the 4 months that you're off, and she has a chance to get to know you better as well.
So the only thing that I'd change about what you were going to say would be the first sentence. No offense, but saying that just makes everything sound a little hopeless.
Other than that, your confession sentences are fine.
Good luck!
2006-10-29 00:34:40 · answer #2 · answered by Loki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think she will hate you, but the phrase you use doesn't exactly exude confidence, which is an important quality. If I were you I would just let it happen. Find ways to pull her in, chances are the relationship she is in won't last forever. Just be a good friend, and let her know you are interested but don't let it seem like as big a deal as it may be.
Try letting her initiate the study dates, and once in a while decline. As much as we don't like to admit it, we do like a little bit of a chase.
2006-10-29 00:14:29 · answer #3 · answered by neon49 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't know until you try :) What you wrote sounds just fine. Not pushy and not psycho-ish. Maybe instead of saying "I really like you" you could say "I really enjoy the times when we're together and I find you (fill in blank)." If I were her, I'd be flattered since she sounds like she's flirting back.
2006-10-29 00:11:38 · answer #4 · answered by chnchita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"i don't want to disrespect what you have with your boyfriend and i really wish you the best with him but if things don't work out as you were hoping please know that i'm interested and would love to try to be exactly what you need."
that way you don't threaten what she has but you plant a seed for what you want. she'll feel like you have her best interest in mind even if it means you won't see her again. she'll end up thinking about you even before there is a breakup.
2006-10-29 00:15:12 · answer #5 · answered by Informer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wont hate you...
it sounds really good... I mean you are not trying to interfere...and you are letting her know the truth.. which girls love... you are being respectful and lots of girls look at that...
try and see ....there is nothing you can loose here... im pretty sure she wont hate you...
why would she ...you are just being honest..
good luck!
2006-10-29 00:13:33 · answer #6 · answered by Cutie77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, if she is acting the way she is when she is with you, she is definitely interested. My concern for you is, would she cheat with you? If so, she would/could cheat on you if you win her. Let her know how you feel, but don't let it go too far until she takes care of the current relationship!
2006-10-29 00:13:19 · answer #7 · answered by PinkieDovie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have nothing to lose- Go for it! It sounds like she likes you but needs to know how you feel. Good Luck!
2006-10-29 00:08:48 · answer #8 · answered by ednolb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first.be careful her communicating with you...looking into your eyes..using contact with you..isn't because she is an open person who does that with everyone...not bc she is flirting. But..you could say something to her like.."the guy of yours is really lucky to have you!..if you ever find yourself free..I'm here. But what you are wanting to say is nice..I would be flattered. I doubt she will hate you for it..how could she??/
2006-10-29 00:14:15 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea it sounds ok. There's no reason she'd hate you for it. Just think, you'd probably regret it if you never said anything.
2006-10-29 00:11:57 · answer #10 · answered by J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋