There are recent pictures on my boyfriend cell of his ex. What should I think?

Question

My boyfriend and I have the same phone. Today we looked at each other pictures on our phones and he has pictures of his ex-girlfriend on his phone. The thing is they are RECENT pictures. I don't know what to think. He use to have one of my pictures as his background and RECENTLY he changed it to be a picture of his old cat. I don't know what to think. We have been together almost 17 months, and I don't want to press the issue, but I am a little worried. Could something be going on between him and his ex that I don't know about. I live with my parents and he has his own apartment, so I guess anything is possible. He told me he wouldn't cheat on me and he doesn't like her at all anymore, so why does he still have pictures of her? The most recent picture was taken on October 26. What should I do?

Answer 1

well, that is a tough one. i personally would press the issue. love is strong. if he truly loves you then he will tell you the truth. and if he doesnt then, the theory is true that men are scum! LOL.
you have to approach the subject at hand with caution. just blurting it out may cause him to withdraw and become defensive and call you some kind of jealous, psycho girlfriend. and we dont want that. but if you draw the answer out of him slowly, then he may not take so much offense to your curiosity. you could start by asking him how he thinks things are between you guys. if he is happy and if he thinks that your relationship is where he wanted and thought it should be at 17 months. if not, ask him what he would change. answer the same question. you could then ask him if there was anything that he needed to tell you, ie. if he misses anyone, if he wants something more than you can give him. you know, all the stuff that he may be too afraid to tell you himself. then play up the situation...tell him that you want to pose sexy for him in your lingerie or birthday suit so he can put it on his phone so that when he makes or gets a call, then he thinks of you and your fine self. if he is into that, then tell him that you will only do it if he can answer some personal questions first...then go in for the kill. ask him nicely why the pix are on there. let him answer, let him tell you his side of the story first. just dont jump to conclusions. it may just be innocent. good luck.

Answer 2

First off you should be worried. Because people can always say something that they want that other person here. Just because he said that he want cheat on you don't mean it's true. Secondly you should just ask him is there something going on between them. You can always tell if somebody is lying. Then he has his own apartment. That is really something to worry about. But if he is cheating on you that probably mean that he really don't love you anymore and you should confront him. Sorry but I don't think he love you anymore if he changed a pic from you to an old cat of is really sad.

Answer 3

Erase the pictures from the phone. If he gets angry, then something may be going on between them. When he confronts you, say, "Oh, sorry. I thought you didn't like her anymore." If his reaction is more anger then there is definitely something going on between them.

Answer 4

Make him your ex-boyfriend. Anyone who is so disrespectful to lie to about something so serious does not deserve your time or love.

Answer 5

He is lying to you and he is still boinkin her most likely. Was he still seeing her when he took up with you? Call him on it. When he tells you the truth, dump him. Find someone you can trust.

Answer 6

I would ask why he feels the need to hold on to her memory. Isn't it time to put her in the past and focus on you?

Answer 7

I would say she is his x, but she is also the other woman now!