when their GF ask who are u sleeping with behind my back? every guy i dated all hit me, & cheated, all my uncles did this to rgeir wives, my dad & brother did the same. I'm sick of people telling me not all men are evil/bad, when I have never met one that wasn't?
2006-10-28 17:02:19 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sorry to hear that .when I read about you I saw my husband a Saint.Never done it never betrayed me and I'm the first in his life.(wow)I hope you find someone like him.Maybe the region where you live is full of evil men.Try somewhere else.Always there's the good and the bad never lose hope.good luck!
2006-10-28 17:10:37 · answer #1 · answered by ISABEL k 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Umm, wow. As a guy who isn't an evil Biatch I have to say that I am sorry that you've had a bad time with men. It does sound like your family has a history of abuse and unfortunately more times than not it continues down through generations until someone stops the cycle by getting outside help. I suggest that perhaps you seek counseling through a church or some sort of family advocacy. There are tons of places that can and will help if you are willing to seek them out. Take care and know that we're not all bad. God Bless.
2006-10-29 00:12:04 · answer #2 · answered by Hendo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately you are going to continue the cycle unless you get some help since your family history has abuse. Obviously you know it's wrong, seek some help. Get rid of the boyfriend!
I've been in a violent relationship. It took me one year to leave with the help of the police department. I even had him arrested after he beat me the first time and I just had brain surgery! It was awful. The worst part of the situation was when he got out of jail, he went directly to the courthouse and had a protective order against me! I was too weak and much smaller than him in the first place. In the second place, I do not believe in violence of any sort. I had to live in a shelter for weeks (against my will). What he did was unforgivable.
I finally did seek help and I am much happier. The only bad thing, I still have the scars left on me which reminds me of the animal every day.
2006-10-29 00:13:39 · answer #3 · answered by lovetofly46 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all men think they can do whatever they want to .There are men out there who are not evil/bad but they are hard to find.The men in your family think it was okay to cheated and hit their wives.The women were afaid to do anything about it.Do not rush to any releationship right now you have to heal from your past ones and the next time a man hits you call the police do not let him he will not do it again because he lying the first time is last timeand he cheats on you do ask question leave.
2006-10-29 00:23:46 · answer #4 · answered by cmaymay26facaringperson 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The examples you see from your family members has affected you to the point that you can only attract those kinds of men because you think abuse is normal. We are what we attract. Until you realize this is abnormal and break away from this way of thinking it will go on with you for a long time. Do you have any GF who are not in similar situation that you can talk to and help you break the cycle of abuse- good luck
2006-10-29 00:12:22 · answer #5 · answered by roydono 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's a common tendency for women to look for what they know. You're used to all that, so subconsciously you may be seeking out guys that are going to do that.
Personally, I would never do anything like that. I have a 6 year old daughter that I love with all my heart, and I never want to be a bad role model.
I would never cheat on a woman even if she did the same to me, because I respect them. It's the same with physical violence. I hate men who do those sorts of things. I couldn't raise a fist to a woman. It would go against everything that I believe in.
And I'm always home early. I wouldn't dare miss out on family time. She's my pride and joy, and I would sooner stay home looking after her than go out chasing after women.
2006-10-29 00:13:31 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. Maul 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
have you heard the expression water sink to it own level. Maybe it what you give off that drawn these particular type of men to you. No all men are not evil bitches and hos. I had a mess up marriage but I know all men are not alike just like all women are not alike. leave this man alone and start concertrating on yourself.
2006-10-29 00:13:56 · answer #7 · answered by Ellen J 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Probably because like most women you reject decent guys and choose the confident exciting "bad boy" types.
Just what do you think is going to happen?
Take some responsibility for your choices in men.
2006-10-29 00:12:42 · answer #8 · answered by S h ä r k G û m b ò 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this, but you have seen and been desensitized to those kind of behaviors in men, by what you said about you family. You need professional help to break the chain of men you seem to choose, not by your choice, but by your experience in your past and your family. An absolute NO to men are not normally like that. You have the unique ability to choose that kind of man, because of what you are used to seeing. Stop now, you deserve to be happy. Seek counseling now, Dr. Phil comes in mind.
2006-10-29 00:10:18 · answer #9 · answered by doris_38133 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Believe it or not you are attracted to this type of man due to the type of environment you grew up in.
The answer is for you to avoid the type of men you've encountered so far. If you see any similar traits to your family or ex bf's, ditch them. I have the same problem and I'm working on breaking this cycle myself. Good luck.
2006-10-29 00:06:45 · answer #10 · answered by Ade 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋