okay where to start on this, to make a short story, he is talking to his bestf riends wife,a nd it's getting cozy, but if i talk to a guy he gets mad, so I have lost all my guy friends, would like to have someone to talk to and show him i have guy friends too!! So he will know how it feels maybe then he will understand. a long and confusing story that takes time to tell!!!
2006-10-28 16:30:05 · 10 answers · asked by carmen b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just bang his best friend.
He'll get your point.
2006-10-28 16:32:39 · answer #1 · answered by Transgénico 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is dangerous territory... like potential divorce court territory here. I'd ask about counselling. Or you could make a point of talking to the husband of whatever girl he's talking to. Maybe you could do things together, like a sort of married double date. Try that some time. If he starts getting angry, just say he looked so left out without his wife to hang around with.
If he's hanging out with single women, then you should definitely start getting jealous. If you had single male friends that you can still get ahold of, you might try playing matchmaker... not because you think it would work, but because that would get the girl off of your husband, and it might give you a bit of a chance to see your old guy friend in a way that won't bee too "threatening" to your husband.
There's also a number of psycho screwed in the head tricks you can try, like actually hitting on the same women he's talking to, but those are likely to end in serious problems, such as sick rumors, undesired threesomes, fights, divorce, etc.
2006-10-28 16:40:06 · answer #2 · answered by ye_river_xiv 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should probably check your motives before acting. Its obvious that you think that something more is going on and that will probably justify your need to have a male friend to just so called talk to. Why don't you tell your husband that you feel that it is appropriate for his best friend wife to be talking with you and that you can then relay the message to him. If they have nothing to hide, then I don't see that as a problem. If he becomes defensive of your suggestion, then let him know how you feel about him getting cozy on the phone with another woman. An eye for an and a tooth for a tooth only spells TROUBLE.
2006-10-28 17:02:21 · answer #3 · answered by lovinp 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cozy is not cool for a married to get with another woman best friends wife or not. My girlfriend has a ton of guy friends, she's in the military not many females there. But we all know our place. The only one she's cozy with is me, but we also live a Christian life too, and only hang out with people with the same beliefs, married or not. It's also a respect thing. Respect for ourselves as well as respect for others in our relationships.
2006-10-28 16:39:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you know that affairs usually begin with a "friend" of the opposite sex? Are they alone alot? Why don't you ask the husband how he feels about the situation? If he's as concerned as you are, perhaps the two of you can have a talk with the two of them.
Your deliberately becoming friends again with a male would just further complicate matters. See how the suggestion works out first.
2006-10-28 16:38:32 · answer #5 · answered by Judith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Male and females can't be friends, it is that simple. If he is getting "cozy" with another woman that's not friendship.
You might have male friends who you think are only your friends but it is not true, they want something from you, they do, believe it or not. I have proven that over and over. In any case if you can't have male friends then your husband shouldn't have female friends.
2006-10-28 16:32:23 · answer #6 · answered by L M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i would be straight forward and go get myself a male friend and prove your point don't let him think he is in sole control thats when they think whatever they do is fine but the decision is yours good luck it's never easy with a troublesome hubby.
2006-10-28 16:35:13 · answer #7 · answered by lubestr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"it's getting cozy" with his best friends wife is a little different than you having some chums
2006-10-28 16:32:45 · answer #8 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not fare for him to do that, I did that and it went to far and now I'm getting a divorced. Men and women cant be friends.
2006-10-28 16:43:42 · answer #9 · answered by mike67333 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds more than a casual thing --- you need to communicate with your husband --- its not about friends its about trust --- does he trust you???
2006-10-28 16:40:36 · answer #10 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋