My b/f and I have been together a year. He chased me for 3 years but I was unavailable. Our relationship is fine, except that he has been staying here for 95% of the time for 11 months. I kept asking him to move in or stay home. When I realized after a few months that neither was going to happen, I told him that he needed to chip in for groceries. About a month ago, he gave in. So, every week he gives me $40. Well, in July, I will no longer get child support because my oldest will be considered emancipated. He knows this. So I have suggested, on a regular basis, for us to live together since we practically have been for 11 months. (The oldest weill be in college.) He would rather me move back to California with my family, than to live together. Reason: He isn't ready for a commitment. So, I will probably have to sell all my stuff and start all over in August. So, do I just deal with it or keep bugging him? Right now I resent him. So its hard for me to be happy. I mean, he is here 95%.
2006-10-28 16:27:11 · 4 answers · asked by whoanelly 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
that sounded like a statement. nothing more.
2006-10-28 16:29:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk away. He is not ready for a commitment. get a boarder to offset the cost or get another job.
If he doesn't already, he will know that you mean business.
If he is staying there without a long term plan then it's time to decide what YOU really want.
2006-10-28 23:30:31 · answer #2 · answered by anirbas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you have a freeloader on your hands. let me see, if i had the choice to live with someone that did all the household chores and supported me and paid all the bills or share the responsibility on an equal basis (not take on the majority of the responsibility like a man) or go to work and make my own way?
well, as a man, i would not let you even work a day unless that is what you wanted. along with the benefits of having a live-in comes the responsibility of pulling your own weight. only a child expects someone to take care of them without them having to contribute to the cost of living. my daughter is 15 and she works at chick-fil-a to help with her living expenses. i started working at the age of 13 to help pay for school clothes and tuition, etc. not only do leopards not change their spots but no one lives up to their obligations unless someone holds them accountable. time for your man to grow up of go on.
2006-10-28 23:37:39 · answer #3 · answered by handyman5218 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never, ever let a guy you're not married to live with you. All he wants is free sex.
2006-10-28 23:29:06 · answer #4 · answered by Susie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋