ive tried everything i can do and the thought of this guy wont leave my mind. i hate his guts and i am very angry for how he treated me but at the same time i loved this guy. when i was with him i eventually would end up feeling bad and then when im away from him i feel bad. im wondering what is he doing on this saturday night. he was not a good guy for a relationship but he did have some qualities. i really wish he was not happy like i am. im mad at my self too for putting up and settling for less. its been hard. i know we cant be together but the little good times we did have were nice. he betrayed me so why do i keep thinking of him. its ruining my life. hes a compulsive liar and i cant trust him. ive read all this books have went to different web sites on breakups and nothing is helping. is there something wrong with me for thinking of a guy who isnt thinking of me. i really d hate is guts for what he has done to me. what can i do?
2006-10-28 16:14:37 · 11 answers · asked by eaglestraces123 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, since I've been there and done that I can tell you that the only thing that helped be get over the jerk that I loved but treated me terribly was the passage of time. Just keep reminding yourself how awful he was to you and how he won't change and that it isn't worth it. That's because he isn't worth it and, even though it will hurt terribly for a long time, you are better off without him.
Don't try to get over him by dating someone else. The new guy will know you're thinking of someone else and it will ruin your chances with him later on. Do keep yourself busy. Don't go to any places where you might run into the jerk. Do go to places where you think you'll enjoy yourself and have a great time. Don't concentrate on the good (few!!) times that you had with him. Do concentrate on his betrayal and everything else he did to show you that he didn't value your company.
You have many years to live yet and you don't want to spend them with someone who will never show you any respect. You will, eventually, get over this guy and then you will find someone who knows how to treat a woman!!
2006-10-28 16:28:29 · answer #1 · answered by Ellen J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should take a long bubble bath, wash your hair, give yourself a maincure and pedicure and put on some relaxing music, nothing sad. Make yourself the priority in your life, love yourself then others can love you too. Take a breake and find out what kind of man you deserve. You deserve the best, Let him go...
2006-10-28 16:21:17 · answer #2 · answered by Katherine C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't help feelings you have for someone. if you forgave him for doing somthing that bad to you you obviously have a very kind heart and can forgive people easily.
the only thing you can do is get involved with stuff and go and hang out with new people on weekends to get your mind off of him, eventually you will find a new guy
2006-10-28 16:22:43 · answer #3 · answered by bballxbaby147 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting a self esteem that makes you know you are too good to degrade yourself like this is hard to get but it's time to get it. Maybe go back to school or try to get a job that would make you proud of yourself. When you finally get rid of this loser and rebuild your self esteem you will come across someone that will make you wander what the heck you were thinking.
2006-10-28 16:21:59 · answer #4 · answered by STLgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you have a bad case of heartache, you love the guy but you hate him, and you have him but can't wait to be with him and love him. what you should do is just cool it avoid to being with him or seeing him go out with your friends and enjoy life without this guy, life is too short to be in the kind of situation you are in and waste time doing what you are doing. let him go if he come back to you make sure he stays and stay for good.
2006-10-28 16:19:29 · answer #5 · answered by livinhapi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know... soon you find someone else and yoou won't even be thinking aboout him... he sounds like a piece of sh**t... find anything to do to get your mind of himand get out there and find someone that makes you happy and treats you the way you deserve to be treated... this love hate thing you had for him I don't understand... go to coping.org... there are some things there that might help you get your mind on theres things... good luck and I hope this helped....
2006-10-28 16:20:11 · answer #6 · answered by Sandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If nothing is helping, stop doing things. Finding ways to get over him is just keeping him in your mind. Just find other things to do. Diversions. Get hobbies, do stuff, get out there and live. Stop hunting for magic solutions relating to him.
2006-10-28 16:17:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will take some time to get over him. but that's the way of life. breakups are always hard. you'll just have more experince. never settle for less. he is not worth it. someday you'll find your prince.
2006-10-28 16:21:22 · answer #8 · answered by claratiz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU SERIOUSLY NEED TO MOVE ON. GET OUT MORE. MAKE NEW FREINDS, MEET NEW PEOPLE. SOMETIMES A CHANGE IN ATMOSPHERE CAN CHANGE YOU. HONEY I KNOW WHAT ITS LIKE TO GET "STUCK" ON GUY, FOR LACK OF A BETTER WORD. OUT OF SIGHT OUT OF MIND. START SEEING NEW PEOPLE OR A NEW GUY! DONT GET DISCOURAGED!! ; )
2006-10-28 16:20:31 · answer #9 · answered by enigma_gatsby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as you hate him he owns a piece of you need to forgive and forget then you can move on
2006-10-28 16:20:50 · answer #10 · answered by dartsrez 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋