I am dating a girl that i know i wont be getting married with or anything, due to our religion differences. I love her but some times she just kills me, i give her the love that no one ever gave her before and she is taking it for granted at the moment. everytime we fight, i act as the older person, although i am not. I keep bending and bending and i just cant take it any more, i am ready to break.... what do i do? being with her hurts me, b/c i know that it wont lead any where, but being with out her will kill me!!!!
2006-10-28 16:14:14 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow buddy, I feel for you... this can't be easy but you know what you have to do. The only advise I can give it to plan to be as busy as possible the day you tell her. Keep yourself occupied the first 2-3 days after with volunteer service or something.
Good Luck
2006-10-28 16:17:35 · answer #1 · answered by Al 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sure helps to fall in love with someone that shares your beliefs. She must be your match spiritually anyway, if youre in love with her. Have you tried to come together about religion or hmm you have your family and your dreams of a love that doesnt include her? Seems like you'll never love the one you marry because of religious beliefs because you'll break off with someone you really love. Your next love wont be getting the best of you and that's altogether such a sad thing. Your current love apparently feels that you wont ever go the distance with her so why should she invest the same love you claim to be giving her? I have no advice for you...only thoughts. But, good luck in whatever you decide your path. Peace.
2006-10-28 23:22:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
damn!!!!! i know what you mean!! i really do, the same exact thing happened to me and just 3 hours ago I broke up with my boyfriend because we were fighting. We fough like 5 times this week and although i love him i could not handle it anymore and broke up with him today. At this moment i feel really bad, but i think this was the only way for him to notice that because of his actions he lost me and maybe he will consider changing. He says he loves me like no one else in the world and if that is true, he will at least try once to fight for me to get back with him...
2006-10-28 23:21:47 · answer #3 · answered by groovybubs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm... that is quite a conundrum you have there .. you don't want to be with her .. but it will kill you not to be. Very vexxing. Well, you have to fish or cut bait sooner or later. If you know nothing will ever come of it .. may as well cut bait now and spend your time finding the right one. Sorry for your heartache. Good Luck ! :)
2006-10-28 23:17:50 · answer #4 · answered by tysavage2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her your true feelings but be sure that you tell it to her gently so she would understand it much better. But why would you break up with her if you had still fellings for her? The two of you will surely be hurt. IF you break up with someone, be sure that your feelings are already gone. If you really love her accept who she really are and fight for your love.
2006-10-28 23:19:53 · answer #5 · answered by lois lane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should bring it up with her and talk to her about it. Pull her aside and tell her that, without arguing, you want to discuss how you relationship is working out with her. Whether you think you're going to marry her or not, it is best to work things out so that there is no bad blood between you, if/when you break up.
Good luck. I hope things work out for you.
2006-10-28 23:21:58 · answer #6 · answered by angelchild130 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest. Break it off as quickly as you can.
Religious differences are the hardest to overcome in a relationship. Even when you think it won't matter.
2006-10-28 23:17:25 · answer #7 · answered by jejordan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats what relationships are all about sacrifices. But, if you really just want to leave her, just be honest and tell her how you feel. She's going to cry and she's not going to understand, no matter how much you explain to her your feelings. Just be nice and understanding of her feelings while your dumping her.
2006-10-28 23:19:02 · answer #8 · answered by mrspolish56 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you be honest with her.tell her exactly how you feel.if you can`t tell her face-to-face,put it on paper.let her no you think the world of her,but it`s just not gonna work-out.she may feel the same way,and can`t bring herself to tell you.you both deserve the right person in life.pray about it,and i`m sure god will lead you in the right steps to take.may god bless you both!!!!
2006-10-28 23:25:44 · answer #9 · answered by doris t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is called infatuation. You can do better. So can she. Stop suffering and get a life. If either one of you actually has a God, He'll help you find your real joy.
2006-10-28 23:21:00 · answer #10 · answered by shirleykins 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋