my father has lung cancer and its gotten a hold of him he was on kemo and radation and doing well for about 2 months this third month has been hard not only has he gotten worse but near death worse. His kids other then me are mad at him because he was a smoker and they dont understand that the doctor has already told them it wasnt by smoking that he got it because its a different type of cancer. Anyway i live with my father to help out and to help money situation for him. I will be moving out even though me and his wife get along we arent close its more of a hi how are you well time to get to bed talk to you later thing. So i have to move out on my own and my schedule is working 6 days a week plus school three days a week i cant find time to take care of him, school, and work. So i want to drop my classes and start up in two months sinse he only has about 1 month to live because im behind in school work. My question is can i drop these classes only two weeks into and restart?
2006-10-28 16:03:44 · 10 answers · asked by josh o 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
plus i have to find time to move and i cant miss work or school unless its allowed. Anybody know the basics of school and what is allowed?
2006-10-28 16:04:31 · update #1
I would talk to one on the councellors at school about the situatin and see if you can do part of the course corrispondance, or make some arrangements. I am sorry things are so hard for you right now. You will be glad you made the time with your father in the future, trust your instinct, and be strong.
2006-10-28 16:10:46 · answer #1 · answered by shrimpseys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey there i didn't see wot ur age would be, anyways, you know i was just sitting here and thinkin about the stuff you were sayin it just the way life is how we parents take care of our kids we work come home take care of kids clean the house some have school in the evening and shooping it no different than the way your are dear im a single mom with part work take care of my 2 kids also other kids my dad hes sick wit we dont know yet but anyways, if your dad aint gonna have that much life left and your pickin school or dad thinkin what to do hhhmmm, you know what the school will understand and there will be ways to get around it to catch up on you have your whole life your dad dont not to much longer who knows right enjoy life with him, worry about moving out for after maybe a choice, catch up on school after so life wont be so stressful and whatever. cherish the moments while you can or maybe you would regret it after and sayin oh i should have done this or that like alot of ppl would say im just suggesting not telling you this is whats on my mind i would drop everything like i have in these kinds of situations for family.... well anyways i hope you will make the right decision for you and you family and take care all the best for you
2006-10-28 23:30:53 · answer #2 · answered by angel_01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are much younger than i am but my father died 9 years ago from lung cancer. he was a smoker all his life. although i was angry that he smoked & didn't think of the long term effect on me or his grandkids I am very glad we all spent a lot of time with him. It seems that after the diagnosis things go downhill pretty quickly. I think you should talk to the school about withdrawing & resume next semester. You won't regret spending this time with your dad. Chances are your grades would probably suffer anyway. Keeping your work hours is probably good as it gets you out and active. His other kids are being unreasonable. They can be angry about it later but there won't be time later to come to terms with losing their father. I think you are doing the right thing for you and your dad. Peace
2006-10-29 00:01:43 · answer #3 · answered by smartmom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to you teachers, you may be able to get home work in advance for the classes. If not they can tell you if you can pick them up after you get your moving and personal issuses straightened out. Good Luck. Sorry to hear about you father. Ask you siblings if they have ever heard of people who have never smoked that got lung cancer.?
2006-10-28 23:16:09 · answer #4 · answered by ruth4526 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are wanting to drop your classes to spend more time with your dad... yes drop what ever you can... my dad died of lung cancer and he was a smoker... the type of lung cancer he had wasn't the one you get from smoking... so to blame him in any aspect is wrong... tell your siblings that... to let him leave this earth knowing someone was mad at him is wrong... your young and have the rest of your life to get back to your school work and social stuff... please make time for your dad... good luck
2006-10-28 23:12:37 · answer #5 · answered by Sandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I'm sorry to hear about your father, God be with him. I would suggest that you see a counselor, and explain whats going on, they might be able to apply what you have paid, towards the classes in two months . Just take care of yourself,and be there for Dad as best you can. You can also see the Financial secretary. God be with you.
2006-10-28 23:28:46 · answer #6 · answered by lennie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know the basics but can i just say if you love your dad can you put school on hold no matter what.mom like dad we only got one.just try ok life passes us by so fast and when we get older we wish we could of or should of ya know so .dont make your self sick just try if you can. my heart and prayers go out to you you.you sound like a very good person ,and in case noone has told you your doing a good job.
2006-10-28 23:14:27 · answer #7 · answered by pookie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know anything about the classes but I can tell you,you won't be doing wrong to help your dad as much as you can.
If it were me I'd talk to someone at the school,I am sure there is a way for you to work it out.God bless you and your family.
2006-10-28 23:11:54 · answer #8 · answered by jackiedj8952 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most universities have a student advocate or ombudsman. Go discuss your situation with them.
Spend the time with your Dad. You'll never regret it. You can always re-enroll after he passes.
2006-10-28 23:13:11 · answer #9 · answered by jejordan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mother and two brothers are dead - so i been there 3 times its going to be hard at frist but as times gose by you will have to look on live your life and bear with it your dad going to be with god a better place than we are now keep the fait
2006-10-28 23:25:05 · answer #10 · answered by genewade013 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋