My daughter has nine tardies in her first period class, what should her punishment be? Serious answers please.

Question

She is already without her t.v. and phone.

Answer 1

spanking.

Answer 2

It depends on why she is late. is she afraid to go to that class because of bullies ? if so she may be to embarrassed to tell ya . how old is she ? over 10 take away all her freedoms. under 10 3 to 5 pages of lines with big creative words (this will also expand her vocab) . Nose on the wall 30 min each time. Talk to teachers first to get an idea of whats really going on. never think that you are getting the whole truth from your child. if ya find she is telling the truth good for you. Oh! and by the way while every child is different some need a good old fashion spank'n , just as Dr. Spock recanted his feelings about not spanking. In his old age he said some kids do need it. try everything else first and good luck . From a father of 5,three still at home.

Answer 3

First you need to talk with her and find out why she is always late. Is she late on purpose - doesn't like the class? being picked on? Can't understand the work?, etc......

Once you understand why she is always late you will have a better idea how to handle the situation. She may be doing this to either get your attention or something is going on in that class (or before the class) that you need to be made aware of.

In terms of taking things away, she may be at the point where she does not care of she may be using them when you are not aware.

If she has no reason for being late and is doing it just to be rebellious (happens when you are teenager) then rather than taking things away, don't let her do something she really wants or try reverse psychology-always be in her face, having her spend time with you doing things you know she doesn't like at a time when you know she wants to be with her friends. For example, kids like to sleep in on a saturday which would be the perfect time to get up very early and run errands all day with mom or get up extra early and start cooking breakfast for the family.Don't say you are doing this to punish her when she asks. Just be normal. When she asks why say Well since you have time to be late you now have time to do what I want when I want. She will gradually start to be on time to avoid doing things she doesn't like.
Also, she will learn responsibility by doing chores and will gain self esteem when she sees that spending time with you and the family makes everyone happy

Answer 4

9 tardies and you are just finding out about it? Why didn't you find about it after the first? Anyhoo, you need to find out the cause first and then depending on whether or not it is a legitamate reason then you can find a punishment that is suitable. I know one thing that would work- Tell her that if she is late one more time you will walk her to her first class in your pajamas, curlers, no makeup and embarass the heck out her. Be prepared to do this. Maybe it will work.

Answer 5

If the tv and phone are what is making her late to her first class in the morning, then you have done the right thing. If not, help her out with some suggestions as to how she can make good use of the time she has in the morning to get ready. Or, if it is because she gets up late, tell her she has to go to bed earlier. Or, is she leaving the house in plenty of time and still being late? Tell her you don't want her walking to school with whoever it is that keeps making her late. Remember, punishment is a really harsh word. Discipline means to teach. Try that route. It usually keeps harmony in the household.

Answer 6

Well, if it's a case of not being able to wake up on time, tell her she is going to have a strict bedtime until she can prove she is more mature as to not need one.... Say 9:00 p.m.! And if it's a case of her being too slow in the morning getting ready tell her that you will wake her up an hour earlier so she has the time to get ready...( no teenager wants that!) and set a firm time to leave for school...(if you take her) and no matter what she still needs to do... tough.... do it in the car! You are doing the right thing being pro active in this situation! Good for you!

Answer 7

If the problems lies in her not waking up early enough, then you can punish her. If she needs a ride home from school, then this is where you can teach her a lesson. Arrive a couple of minutes late the first time she is tardy. Then second time arrive even later. If she asks why you are coming late, tell her that if she can't bother to get to school on time then you don't have to bother picking her up on time either.

Answer 8

Tardies are the result of kids arriving late to class. If she is leaving your house late then you should reconsider her bedtime.

This will have her up early and at school on time.

If this is not the case, it could be she is hanging out with friends prior to class, you may want to talk to her friends parents and find out if they are having the same issues. You may be able to resolve them together.

Answer 9

Is she getting too school on time? If so, then there is no reason to be tardy unless she's chit chatting. Are you taking her? Bus? For every tardy, I would take something away that means something. Something from her make up? Video games? Computer time? bed early 5 minutes for every tardy? If she gets two a week, then take two things away for the week? You didn't mention how old she is.

Answer 10

hmmmmmm..... it depends on her age, but I am guessing she is in middle school ? I am a recently retired elem teacher and I found the best way to change a child's behavior is to subtle-ly find out what it is she can't live without. It may take some deep thinking and observation, but you will find it. Then make that the carrot. It is very hard to do that, but been there done that. For example, in 4th grade, I had a student, only child of single parent, low key, laid back, sweet but didn't finish her school work just because it wasn't of interest to her. We had a conference with the girl, the mother and me and the school counselor. We talked about taking things away and the student just sat there calmly until her mother thought deeply and said "gymnastics" !! You've never seen a child go from off to on so fast and she screamed out " you can't take away gymnastics" and her mother said, yes we can. She finished her work from that day on and got gymnastics and became very proud of herself in learning the finishing work was feeling good about herself. I saw her in college and she gave me a great big hug . So look at yourself and figure out what would really be horrible for you to lose and you will understand the feeling behind it. Then start thinking and observing your daughter. You will find something that doesn't punish you at the same time !!! like being grounded. My son had to ride the bus to the school I was teaching at and stay with me at all times until we got home. He had to go to meetings with me (looking embarassed), and everything that would not be of any interest to him. My kids were disciplined so they knew if I said they had to ride the bus etc. ........... they better dang well do it. He hated this and immediately changed his poor behavior. Sitting in on classes is a great great way too. Be sure to wear your bathrobe and curlers too so she won't ever want this punishment again. Good luck. 14-17 is hard !!!!!

Answer 11

Why is she late?? Staying up? Taking too long to get ready? Remove the cause for nine days after a good old fashion restriction. Also what age? Can you take away her make up? Phone, room door, music. OMG I would have a field day! Remove what ever it takes.. including favorite clothes..hair stuff..until she writes you a letter explaining the problem, the reason and the solution (in her best hand writing and grammer of course).
Good luck!