2006-10-28 15:34:00 · 22 answers · asked by Mom 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I love large families, but I think large starts at three!
Honestly, if with five or more, I'd think they were crazy conservative Christians and are going to homeschool.
Of course, with blended families and step siblings, that's just normal these days.
2006-10-28 15:40:47 · answer #1 · answered by Katherine 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I think it is fine if they have the money to raise that many kids. My mom and dad had seven kids and not one of us went without attention, love or money. We got what we needed when we needed it. We never went without food or anything else. My oldest sister is 33 and my little brother is 11. I am glad i had alot of siblings and still i feel the same.
If someone can give all their attention, love and the money to have a large family then they should go for it but if you can't even raise one then they shouldn't have a large family.
I come from a very large family. My dad's parents had 21 kids together but that was back in the day and then my mom's parents had 9 kids then my mom & dad had 7 but nowadays really no one really has that many kids because of how hard it is too raise kids in this time. Back then things were safer and simple.
It is up to each person as to how many kids they want but i think 1 is good enough and 2 is plenty.
2006-10-28 23:07:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can afford it, most can't, I say go for it. I do belive that being a single child sucks, or when it is just 2 children and one sucks, or if there is 3 and 2 suck, etc., so if there is a bigger family, the odds are better of having well rounded individuals and just think of the Love, not like the Waltons, but a real loving big family in this day in age, will be hard and the parents should be commended.
2006-11-01 09:23:16 · answer #3 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a mom of 6 kids (aged 10-22), I've loved having a large family!
However there are some considerations. I didn't work until 3 years ago (we homeschooled the kids until 4 years ago), so we needed to make it financially on one income. Having a large number of children can be intense when it comes to parenting each child with their individual needs, desires, challenges, strengths and fears. Costs are higher, the doctor's office can sometimes feel like a second home, kids often need to share bedrooms, hand-me-downs are a regular part of the wardrobe! We travel in a van, kids answer to "Oh you're so and so's little/big sister/brother" lol
On the other hand, the kids have ready-made friends-and these ones are loyal and faithful and loving. They often play together which at times makes things easier. And as they get older, the children learn how to take care of the younger ones, help more around the house, etc (because they need to!) My kids are incredibly committed to each other and to our family. They help each other with jobs, homework and more. They also fight and get frustrated like any normal kids, but I think because there are more of them, they've had to learn to sort things out and if two of them are getting along less well at any given time, there are other siblings they can still be close to and relate well with.
This doesn't mean there aren't times when I have to go into my bedroom and refuse to talk to anyone for a period of time. Peace and quiet are not generally part of our household. But I wouldn't trade having all my kids and the wonderful experience it is for anything. Wishing you the best!
2006-10-28 22:47:14 · answer #4 · answered by Shoshanna 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think better them than me. I had 2 which is big enough for us. As long as the person having those 5 can raise them and not abuse the system then go for it. Nothing wrong with wanting a big family if you can do it and can raise those children the right way.
2006-10-29 08:12:31 · answer #5 · answered by ~*~frankie~*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love large families, wish I had one. The only nagging thought I have is I hope the parents can support all those children (and don't have to rely on state/federal aid).
2006-10-29 09:33:37 · answer #6 · answered by Laura 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is awesome when they are able to do this. I came from a family of six kids, my husband had 11, my mom was one of 9. I went to school with a girl who was one of 15 kids.
It was a dream of mine, and my husband's, to have a large family - at least four, and maybe six --- but, wouldn't you know it, we couldn't have any past one, and it is a miracle we have him!
Those who are having these larger families are truly self-less and are raising a houseful of loving children to grow to be outstanding adults in our world. I give them all the kudos they deserve.
2006-10-29 08:39:57 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I applaud them! The cost of living is like, crazy, and more than 5 kids would require parents who are like, brain surgeons. Kids cost so much money! Geez, I think I would faint.
But if they have te money, can live comfortably, and provide everything that the children need, I admire them.
2006-10-28 22:58:04 · answer #8 · answered by nellyluvchild89 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the parents are in position to have a big family (financially, mentally, emotionally, etc. able to care for and raise them), then I think it is a wonderful idea. I think there aren't enough of them anymore. I would love to have a big family...I guess I'll have to wait and see if that can happen.
2006-10-28 22:40:58 · answer #9 · answered by angels_sign_ily 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i couldnt imagine. My grandmother had 9. The older kids took care of the younger ones. I have 3 if i had anymore id go nuts.
2006-10-28 22:42:35 · answer #10 · answered by cnkbrum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋