He plans on moving home around the holidays because its almost ready to move into. My husband screams at him and treats him like trash. How can I stop him before my grandson doesn't want to ever come back to see me?
2006-10-28 15:31:30 · 11 answers · asked by debbie2243 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am so sorry,this must be very difficult for you.My prayers are with you.try to get alone with your grandson and explain to him that he is loved, and how sorry you are for the actions and hurtful words of your husband.and at no time do you share in his feelings that he has issues,and that you will always be grandma.and love him unconditional. for he is the fruit of your love ones.As for your husband there isn't much you can do for you can-not control others and succeed, might try to express your own feelings to your husband in a manner that wont make things worse between the two of you again I am so sorry.
2006-10-28 15:52:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it has been some time since you've had a teenager in the house, it could just be stress that has your husband acting this way. Afterall, teenagers come with a LOT of stress. On the other hand, maybe he is jealous of the time and attention your grandson is receiving from you. If you think that is the case, you really need to sit down with your husband and explain that, while the child is not a blood relative, he is still your husband's grandson as well as yours and that he should be treated as such. You should remind your husband that your grandson has gone through an extremely traumatic situation and he should have more patience and understanding with him. Counseling could also help.
2006-10-28 15:49:50 · answer #2 · answered by bugged 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down with your husband and in a rational tone, explain to him that his behavior toward your grandson is unacceptable and you will not tolerate it anymore. Fourteen year olds can be very trying. It is hard enough to be fourteen without having to be yelled at and treated badly to boot. Now, I am aware your grandson may be doing annoying things, it goes with the age and the territory, but your husband is supposed to be the mature one here, and should understand these things without flying off the handle or trying to find reasons to be cross with him.
Your grandson is blood, so tell your husband if he doesn't stop harrassing the poor child, he can pack his bags and leave until your grandson goes home or learn to chill and not be such an ogre.
I hope it gets better for you. I know how difficult it is to be stuck in the middle, but sometimes you have to come down on one side or the other. I hope you come down on the side of your grandson. Your husband should know better.
Good luck
2006-10-28 17:13:26 · answer #3 · answered by Slimsmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to check your second husband, that's your grandson and you let him talk to him like that, do you know all that he has been through and to let your second husband talk to him like that is ridiculous and you should be ashamed of yourself.Tell your husband that I said that he is an *** hole and he needs to act like a man not a punk and treat your grandson with nothing but love that is just so stupid that you would even allow that, If I seem mad then yes I am and I don't even know either of you but If I did I would give you and him a piece of my mind. Good Luck to your grandson.
2006-10-28 16:58:28 · answer #4 · answered by This is just my opinion! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cuss his *** out!!! He has "NO" right to scream at him & you are his Grandma. You should protect him from anyone who hurts him... not only physically, but mentally as well. Husband or no husband... that little boy is your blood & his feelings should come before your husband. If you don't put a stop to your husband mistreating your grandson... I wouldn't visit you anymore in the future either. Kids remember everything... Remember that!!!
2006-10-28 15:46:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I truly do not think you can change your husband.
Could be he is jealous? See if you can get him to sit down,
and talk to you about it, instead of screaming. Remind him,
he is 14.
The only other thing I can suggest, is go to your pastor and ask him what to do. It would not be a very happy household, if he continues.
Sincerely wish you the best.
If you were here, I would take you both in........and let your husband know what it feels like without you in the house.!!!!
2006-10-28 15:38:17 · answer #6 · answered by Eve 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 01:34:13 · answer #7 · answered by criselda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your husband is doing these things for no reason... why are you even allowing it... step up to the plate and let this piece of sh**t husband of yours that this verbal abuse has to stop and stop now... a 14yo is still a child and the things he is hearing can injure his ego, his self-esteem... if you love this child stand up and put a stop to this abuse... I wish you luck
2006-10-28 16:15:59 · answer #8 · answered by Sandy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sit him down and talk to him.....about it
maybe you should talk to both of them seperatly about it then if necessary and you feel it's safe talk to them in the same room.....like family councelin or somethin u know?
2006-10-28 15:35:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him he can be replaced ur grand son cant be
2006-10-28 16:17:47 · answer #10 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋